Speak without emotion, blunt, and what you say is not vivid. How to change it?

There are two main ways to improve EQ. The key point is to improve the adversity quotient. Many people also call adversity quotient an indicator and symbol to measure a person's success.

Adversity quotient (AQ).

Adversity quotient is also called frustration quotient and adversity quotient. Refers to the way people cope with adversity, that is, the ability to face setbacks, get rid of difficulties and surmount difficulties.

There are two main aspects to improve adversity quotient:

First of all, adjust your mentality and have a firm belief. Frustration and adversity are not terrible. Secondly, improve your endurance and don't give up easily. Nothing threatens the future more than losing hope and giving up halfway.

Followed by * * * feeling (empathy)

Also known as empathy, empathy. * * * Emotion is very common in the application of psychology. People with high adversity quotient index are also more likely to use empathy, that is, we often say empathy, and know how to put themselves in others' shoes and put themselves in others' shoes.

The Second Way to Improve Emotional Intelligence —— "Procrastination"

① resistance

When you are in trouble, frustration or bad mood, take a deep breath, delay for 8 seconds or even 1 minute, and ask yourself if you must say these words, can you not say them? Be sure to vent your anger and temper, okay? And can you bear the loss caused by your temper alone?

People's emotions are in a state of fluctuation in a certain situation. At first, they continue to increase, reaching a certain stage of emotional balance, and then gradually slow down as time goes by.

Sometimes we often regret the impulsive things we have done and the cruel words we have said, and it is not worth mentioning to calm down afterwards. The price of impulse is often high, and then I try to make up for it.

The most important performance of high emotional intelligence: making others comfortable is more important than anything else. Only when others are comfortable, your goal will be achieved soon.

② Pull

Pull, that is, pull your face down. Many of our emotions cannot save face. What's wrong with being criticized, misunderstood and rejected by others? Smile or change the subject.

People have a good face, and those who have no face deliberately want to save face; People with face don't take face seriously at all, so they naturally have face.

When a person can pull his face down and do things seriously, or get along well with others, it is a sign of maturity, face-saving and high emotional intelligence.