Pay attention to throwing away chopsticks.

You don't even know how to lose chopsticks!

A friend asked on QQ, "There is a guest coming to my house, and I will help him with his meal. I put chopsticks on the rice for convenience and handed them to each other. As a result, the other party was furious and broke the bowl! Then my parents criticized me for not being sensible. Teacher Chen Peng, what's the matter? " Among many customs, living habits account for the majority, and there are also many customs in diet. People in China eat with chopsticks, and there are quite a few customs of putting chopsticks. Listen to Chen Peng's explanation of dreams and talk about how his friend offended his guests with chopsticks. There is a very critical place here.

Why can't chopsticks be inserted in a bowl of rice? There is a saying that people do this. Because chopsticks are inserted in the rice to pay homage to the dead. This can be seen in many funeral scenes in the south. In front of the coffin, or on the rice specially for passing ghosts, a pair of chopsticks will be inserted vertically, indicating that this bowl of rice is for ghosts. A so-called expert who specializes in compiling customs behind closed doors said that this is to burn incense to ghosts. Incense has a direct incense burner and incense, and rice and chopsticks are not needed. Even if you sweep the grave, the incense is directly inserted in the incense burner or on the ground in front of the grave. Why did you say he made it up? Everyone has met a Taoist priest who is a funeral Dojo. Ask him and you will know that he is talking nonsense. I just want to ask, Qingming is coming soon. Do you bring incense sticks or a bowl of rice and a pair of chopsticks when you go to the grave?

The relationship between chopsticks and bowls is quite subtle. If you are a guest and want to eat after eating, you are embarrassed to say so. Put the chopsticks on the empty bowl after eating, and the host will know that you want another bowl. This practice is similar to that in Guangdong province, which requires waiters or butlers to cover the teapot when adding water. Only half of the teapot is covered, and the other half rests on the handle of the teapot.

Many people invite you to dinner and want you to eat more. As long as you don't say anything, they will always give you more food and vegetables. If you are full, you don't want others to add more food. In some places, the practice is to directly stack the bowl that another family doesn't eat next to you, and in other places, put the bones and vegetables left on the table into the bowl with chopsticks, so that the main family will understand that you don't want to eat any more.

Chopsticks are crossed on the bowl. Do you know what kind of custom this is? This is also related to death. This practice is often used in some sacrificial occasions. In ancient times, blood sacrifices were often used in sacrifices. That is, animals are brought to the sacrifice site for slaughter, which is generally used to sacrifice heaven and earth, ancestors and gods (a custom influenced by Taoism). After killing an animal, it will bleed, some will spill it directly on the spot, and some will pick up the blood with plates and bowls. If the blood is not directly sprinkled on the sacrificial site, it will be taken back and cooked for everyone. This. Therefore, it is not suitable to cross chopsticks in a bowl.

Some children tap bowls and pots with chopsticks, and adults will scold him because it is "a beggar's practice". In the past, beggars tapped bowls and basins with chopsticks to remind others to give him something to eat.

The interpretation of Chen Peng's dream saw a high-income family and a good family. When people sit at the table and divide chopsticks, they will grab one pair. For example, when there are only eight people, he will grab more than eight pairs of chopsticks to divide them. What is the argument here? There is a feeling of hospitality here. "A few more guests, and we can entertain them." This kind of hospitality is also a rule to express wealth and hope that it will get better and better. Of course, when handing out chopsticks to others, the order of each pair should be the same, and the length of each pair of chopsticks should be the same as far as possible (many places in rural areas make their own chopsticks, or different batches of chopsticks have different lengths, so frugal homes will not throw them away easily).

If the chopsticks spoon falls on the ground, the host will say, "Wow, you still have someone to invite you to dinner." The parties can also say, "It seems that someone will invite me to dinner in the future ...", which subtly resolves the embarrassment caused by the chopsticks falling on the ground. This kind of rhetoric generally exists in Fujian, Guangdong, Guangxi and Sichuan. Deliberately throwing chopsticks means that you don't want to spend it together! After quarreling, take out a pair of chopsticks and break them face to face, which means breaking the meaning! I hate it.

In many areas, there is also the custom of giving chopsticks, such as giving ten pairs of red chopsticks when getting married (of course, not only ten pairs of chopsticks, but also ten pairs of chopsticks). The two chopsticks are put together heavily, which means praying for a quick birth, happiness and a long life together. In some areas, it is also used for birthday celebration. Longevity chopsticks are usually given to guests by the host family together with longevity bowls. Suitable for people over 80 years old to celebrate their birthdays. In ancient times, wealthy families also gave each other gold chopsticks, silver chopsticks and ivory chopsticks, but when there was a conflict, silver chopsticks should not be given, because at this time silver chopsticks became synonymous with drug testing, which was very annoying.

Chopsticks are old and moldy. I don't like them. I don't want them. I want to throw them away. what can I do? Will it violate any taboos? In the past, every household used firewood stoves, but in folk customs, the bowls and chopsticks we use every day in our daily life are particularly respected. Chen Peng looked up dreams in many ways and learned that the requirements of various places for unwanted chopsticks are like this. First, burn them! Second, after all the chopsticks are broken, they can be thrown into the trash can. Third, bury it. I just can't just throw it away.

Custom requires respect. Respect will not burden your family too much, but it can show others that you respect China tradition (maybe it is someone else's habit), showing more than just knowing manners.