How should a marriage without trust go on?

Trust between husband and wife is the most basic, but there is a couple around me, and their experience is really as bloody as playing a TV series.

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In 200 1 year, Wang Li, who was only 19 years old, suddenly came back from other places and told me that she was getting married. I didn't expect that little girl who kept saying that she would never get married before the age of 30 was earlier than me, a hate-married woman who wanted to get married early.

The man is the same age as her, and her name is Sun Wei. It's easy for them to meet. They met in a barber shop and fell in love.

When I first met Sun Wei, I only thought the young man was handsome and tall. On the whole, I think he is ok, gentle and considerate to Wang Li, and a good man. The only bad thing is that he likes smoking.

I remember that Wang Li's mother didn't agree to their marriage at that time, because Wang Li's mother thought that this man was empty-handed and could not be entrusted for life. The most important thing is that there is no money at home, so he is poor.

Wang Li seems to be born with rebellious psychology. You don't want her to do anything, but she insists on doing it. In a rage, Wang Li insisted on marrying Sun Wei regardless of her mother's physical condition. To this end, Wang Li's mother stayed in bed for half a year before her health improved.

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After a year of marriage, Wang Li got her wish and gave birth to a big fat boy. Her mother-in-law took care of her day and night, but Sun Wei changed at this moment.

The arrival of the children ended the days of love. Sun Wei became indifferent to Wang Li and didn't care about the children, which made Wang Li very sad.

In this way, it lasted for two years, but there was a problem between Wang Li and Sun Wei.

Wang Li cheated her.

She called me to complain that her husband has been particularly cold to her since she had a child. Every day, she just plays games and watches small videos with her mobile phone. She never cared about her and her children, and never helped her with her children's affairs. She couldn't stand it, so she cheated.

I was really shocked when I heard the news. A woman who used to look well-behaved can do such a thing. I don't know what to say on the other end of the phone, so I have to comfort myself: after you have done such a thing, find a way out for yourself. It's hard for men to forgive cheating.

Wang Li cried her eyes out at the other end of the phone.

A few days later, she told me that Sun Wei had decided to forgive her. At that time, I had no idea. How can this man forgive Wang Li? I didn't understand until I got married.

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So things came to an end and they lived happily for two years. In the third year, Sun Wei filed for divorce. As a friend, I must be persuasive. As the saying goes, it is better to tear down ten temples than one marriage.

Sun Wei made up her mind this time: This woman is a leopard cannot change her spots, and she actually chats with another man online. The man also said that she would have a chance to meet them, and she never changed her mind.

Wang Li was silent, and Ma Wang Li couldn't help cursing: How could I have a daughter like you? You humiliated my ancestors.

Wang Li looked up at her mother, her eyes full of disappointment: Mom, don't you believe me?

Wang Lima was stupefied. She is still very aware of the virtue of this daughter who gave birth to herself and raised herself 19 years. It happened once, and she will never make a mistake again. Mary looked at the once dissatisfied son-in-law, but abruptly swallowed what she wanted to ask.

The daughter once did something wrong to her son-in-law, and now she can't blame her son-in-law for any problems. Wang Lima looked at her disappointing daughter lovingly.

Wang Lima said helplessly: Leave if you want. Your marriage is between the two of you, and I don't want to participate any more.

Words are full of helplessness and heartache.

Wang Li's mother-in-law immediately called Sun Wei's sister-in-law, and the family sat together to persuade the young couple. Finally, they gave up the idea of divorce and lived happily together again.

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I looked at Wang Li's marriage and suddenly felt that such a marriage was really ridiculous. I can talk casually about divorce.

Once you start chatting casually, two people can't stop. Four years later, the child was 7 years old. Sun Wei began to imprison Wang Li, not letting her go to work, only letting her stay at home to look after the children, educate them to go to school and help them with their homework.

Wang Li has become an out-and-out housewife without any economic foundation.

In order to ensure that Wang Li stays at home, Sun Wei, who goes out to work, monitors Wang Li's every move in real time and uses her mobile phone to check Wang Li's positioning trends. If she stays somewhere for more than five minutes, Sun Wei's phone will call on time to ask about the inspection.

Wang Li has been silently enduring Sun Wei's behavior. She said: I don't want my children to have a complete family.

When a woman has children after marriage, it is easy for a man to "tie" her around. Wang Li is like this.

She has been completely tied to Sun Wei's side, which reminds me of the TV series Don't Talk to Strangers with the shadow of childhood. Wang Li is somewhat similar to the heroine here.

Wang Li, who has endured silently for three years, finally couldn't help it this year.

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Child 10 years old, can be independent. Wang Li decided to find a job, which can not only pick up and drop off children, but also work to earn money. She told Sun Wei what she thought, but Sun Wei didn't agree. Wang Li didn't listen to her husband Sun Wei, so she decided to get a job.

After Sun Wei knew it, he didn't work hard and began to play red envelope gambling on WeChat. They all say that small gambling is good for your feelings, and big gambling is bad for your health. Sun Wei gambled tirelessly on WeChat, but in the end he owed a lot of money.

One day, Sun Wei asked a technician to find evidence on Wang Li's WeChat that she chatted with other men many years ago and kept the evidence.

Wang Li knows nothing about all this.

However, Wang Li doesn't know what to do about gambling in Sun Wei, so she must find a way to pay off the huge sum she owes. As a result, the loan accumulated over time and could not be paid off.

This is a great blow to Wang Li. She once wanted to escape, but she was caught in the whirlpool of the loan and couldn't get out, because she used her own name to repay the loan for Sun Wei, and Sun Wei not only didn't appreciate it, but repeated her old trick and asked Wang Li for a divorce.

Sun Wei pointed to Wang Li's nose and said, I tell you, I will make you regret divorcing me. I have enough evidence for you to leave home cleanly. Wait, we will go to the Civil Affairs Bureau tomorrow!

Wang Li is heavily in debt, but she doesn't know what to do. Listen to the tone of Sun Wei, it seems that he has mastered any evidence, but she is sitting in her seat, and didn't do anything out of line.

If you agree to divorce, you have to bear huge debts alone; If you don't agree to divorce, the relationship between the two will be invincible, and it has reached such a point. How to live in the future?

In desperation, Wang Li asked me for help again. As a friend, I looked at Wang Li from afar and had mixed feelings. It's no exaggeration to say that she deserves it, but she is really poor.

I told her: in your current situation, you can't get a divorce, or you will have to bear this huge debt yourself. Besides, according to the tone of Sun Wei, he seems to have something on you. If you really want a divorce, I suggest you consult a lawyer to see what the chances are of going through legal procedures.

After listening to my suggestion, Wang Li went to a lawyer and prepared to go through legal procedures. Unexpectedly, what made me laugh and cry happened again.

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After two or three days, Wang Li suddenly called to tell me that they were not divorced, but reconciled. They took their children to play in the suburbs.

I think: not getting divorced is also a good ending, at least for young children. It's important to have parents with you since childhood.

But their marriage makes me feel too trifling, especially the word "divorce", which is really too casual for them.

When I told my lover about this, my lover said such a sentence, which made me feel that getting married is really a very serious matter.

He said: Divorce, this is a very serious matter, and you must not say it impulsively, let alone casually.

Yes, how can divorce be easily said?

I hope that my friends Wang Li and Sun Wei will attach importance to marriage in the future, and I also hope that those friends who often talk about divorce will never talk about it easily again.

Divorce cannot test whether the other person loves you or cares about you. You must choose carefully.