Going home for the New Year, facing the impulse to get married, how to get ahead first?

The Spring Festival is coming, and young people who work outside the home are returning home on holiday. For us young people, it can be said that it is "common practice" to be forced to get married when we go home for the New Year. So in the face of being forced to get married in the New Year, how can we achieve "preemptive strike"? As an "experienced person", I will use my own experience to talk about my views on this matter.

If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, report your latest emotional situation to your parents as soon as you get home, explain your views and plans on marriage to your parents, and eliminate their concerns at the first time. After hearing your "report", your parents will not ask you again, nor will they urge you to go on a blind date or get married.

That's how I used to operate. Go home for the Spring Festival after working holidays. The first thing I did when I got home was to tell my parents about my love. I told my parents that I had a girlfriend but had no plans to get married for the time being, and then I moved my feelings and made sense. Because I just worked, I have no savings and no capital to get married. I want to work for another few years (I said three years at that time) before I plan to get married.

But I also promised them that I would cherish my present feelings and get married in the next five years. When my parents heard me say this, they didn't ask anything, let alone urge me to get married. Because through my feelings, work report and personal commitment, they know that I am a planned person and their children have grown up, so they don't have to worry about these anymore.

The above is about young people with a boyfriend/girlfriend, but what should we do for young people without a partner? In fact, I was so confused before that my parents often urged me to get married when I didn't have a girlfriend, but later a good friend of mine told me a practical way.

My best friend said that if you just graduated from work and are about 23 or 24 years old, then you should tell your parents that you are going to fight for your career now, and then you will try to find the other half, and you already have a favorite object and are now pursuing each other (it doesn't matter to tell a white lie occasionally). At the same time, give parents a time-limited commitment, such as three or four years. If you are not in love and married by then, listen to your family's arrangement.

If you are older, 28, 29 or even 30 years old, let your family arrange a blind date. Don't make any excuses at this time, because your parents will automatically block all your words (friends say this is his personal feeling). Believe it, only letting your family arrange a blind date is your only way out, and I also think that at this age, you really have to focus on your own life.

In any case, parents are urging marriage for the good of their children. You must understand that you must never talk back to them and hurt your parents' hearts. As for the "seven aunts and eight aunts" urging marriage, I will not explain it. Laughing it off is the best way.

Here, I also wish you a happy New Year and find/marry the right partner as soon as possible.