Why did you like your son when he was a child? After fifteen, he gradually became silent and alienated from you.

Not alienation! Not alienation! Not alienation!

Say the important things three times ...

We must remember to remind ourselves that children have been growing up.

Persistence in our childhood is a state that children still have, so we also insist; Later, I grew up and went to kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school and high school. My circle is getting bigger and bigger, my thoughts are getting more and more mature, my knowledge reserve is getting richer and richer, and my independence is getting stronger and stronger.

What about us? We grew up like them, and then we worked, got married, and became parents. The circle was fixed and remained the same most of the time. So the change of children brings us new feelings, and we can't let go.

In the relationship with children, we are the active party, because we have experienced what they have experienced. Because of this, we must learn to let go: watch him take the bus alone for the first time, go out alone for the first time, close the door for the first time, lose his temper for the first time, stay outside for the first time, and so on. In this process, we will be anxious, we will be eager to know what they are thinking, we will worry about getting hurt, but we still have to remind ourselves that he will do it.

The meaning of parents' existence is to make a good backup in this way, and then put it down a little bit and return to your life.

So, grow up and don't alienate.

If you feel alienated, it is likely that you are not ready for him to grow up.

I remember things very early, and I still remember things clearly when I was four or five years old.

I only remember that I liked twittering at that time, sitting on my dad's bike, counting the numbers in my mouth, asking my dad again and again what was behind ten, stopping at the red light when crossing the traffic lights and asking what the yellow light was. My dad took the trouble to answer.

However, when I got to primary school, I began to have homework. I should be a not-so-clever child. There are always mistakes in math homework. Father gradually lost patience. He said that his homework was not done well, so many simple questions were wrong. I gradually became afraid to ask him questions, so I began to delay. In the third and fourth grades of primary school, I did my homework until 90 o'clock, and other students fell asleep after 7 o'clock.

I am locked at home in winter and summer vacations, so I can't go out to play and watch TV. I can only read books and do my homework. In junior high school, my grades were average. Basically, my parents don't talk at home, especially in high school. I don't say more than ten sentences at home, because whenever I open my mouth, my father asks me if I have finished my homework. I said yes, he would ask me if I studied well, and I would never study again.

I don't know if my father is always unhappy because of his poor study. See my ranking more gloomy. My dad always told me that I was sorry for my poor study, because he paid the tuition. Poor grades meant that he didn't study hard, which extended my unfilial.

When I entered the university, my favorite major and school were rejected, and I was asked to apply to the school at my doorstep. I knew it was useless to resist, so I kept silent. When I arrived at the university, because I was going to live on campus, he felt that I was out of his control and began to restrict me financially. Give me only 50 yuan a week (in 2006) for living expenses, and only allow me to go home to find him every week. If I didn't say enough, my father asked me to make a list of things I wanted to buy.

I have to make money for my own work. He asked me to keep his salary and then give me living expenses every month. I didn't know how to refute it, but I kept silent, but I didn't give him my salary. Since then, I have mastered the economy for the first time in my life and am very happy. After graduating from college, I was completely divorced from my family.

My father never asks me about my study again, and our conversation is limited to listening to my father's teachings. Don't be late for work, don't contradict the leader, get on well with colleagues, and don't take the company's needle and thread. He told me repeatedly that his only way to deal with social relations.

I especially like to play around, so it is inevitable to take a long vacation. I never dared to mention this to my parents. When they ask me afterwards, I will say it lightly, but I will still be blamed. It's not that I didn't say hello to them, but that I went out to play, delayed my work and worried that the company would dismiss me because of my opinion.

My parents were born in the fifties. They experienced the Cultural Revolution, when they were short of clothes and food. They ate the same pot of rice and wore coarse clothes. This did not hinder their love for me, but this love was too heavy for me to breathe.

Limited to the blood relationship with parents. Without blood relationship, people really can't live together. They want to give me everything they think is best, but they don't care if I really need it.

When I was a child, I always told my parents everything. Is it because too much love makes us drift away, and the relationship between people who can't understand each other equally can only be like this?

When I was a child, my psychology was simple, and I said whatever I thought.

Fifteen years old, boys are in a rebellious period. It is normal not to talk. It shows that he began to think about deeper problems.

There are also factors such as increased study pressure and problems in getting along with classmates. Because I don't talk.

Parents should spend more time with their children for psychological counseling. Travel, go to the movies, and go to the Science and Technology Museum. ....

Here's the thing. My son didn't talk to me much when he was less than 15 years old. Now he is almost 18 years old, and it's still the same. I think it's mainly because of adolescence. I remember when I was young, my son told me everything. When I come home from school, I basically prepare dinner in the kitchen. My son has been in the kitchen with me, and his mouth is not idle. Mom, what happened at school today, what happened in the class, what happened in the classmates, and sometimes some of his own comments. I usually just listen to my son carefully and express my views on everything. I think it was a very happy time for me. Later, as my son grew up, this situation became less and less. Sometimes I take the initiative to talk to my son, but he doesn't talk much, and my heart is quite lost. In fact, I have been trying to narrow the gap between myself and young people, surfing the Internet, idolizing Weibo, learning English in my spare time, going to fitness swimming and so on. But when my son grows up, he will grow up, and there will be no special dependence on me when I was a child, especially after my son went to the United States to attend high school. Usually, there will be fewer WeChat contacts. Unless there is something he can't solve, he will say more and ask me what to do. I think these two states are inevitable when boys grow up. Mothers should face and accept it correctly and don't worry too much. For example, my son 15 years old flew to California, and now two years have passed. My son has grown up quickly, matured his mind, improved his study and learned a lot. Don't talk to me a little less. As long as my son is well, my mother is also very pleased.

Every parent will encounter this problem just because personality, family and other factors are slightly different. Take myself as an example. My son was a good boy before he went to junior high school, and he was particularly attached to me. I am very happy with my son. Since I entered junior high school, I have been jumping to 180, and my personality has gradually become silent, and I am basically lukewarm. Trying to communicate with him is basically absent-minded and gradually a little worried. After six years of primary school, my son's academic performance has always been the top three in the class, and all kinds of awards have basically been contracted. I felt at that time that there was still hope for Tsinghua Peking University in the future. In the three years of junior high school, my son became more and more strange to me, and his grades plummeted. From the initial top students to the countdown of age, it perfectly explains the lost turn from learning to learning. My son was fascinated by mobile games and fell asleep in the classroom the next day after playing truant and surfing the Internet. The head teacher asked me, the school asked me, and his mother asked me. Within a week, I had to go from Guangdong to Guangxi to see him and try my best to enlighten him, but it was useless. But in this process, I have been calmly dealing with all the problems with my son, without anger or impulse. Children in a rebellious period need correct guidance, not endless preaching. Although my son's change made me feel sad and anxious, I still tried to calm my heart. I successfully got my diploma in the third grade graduation exam, and I also took photos of graduation photo with my teachers and classmates. When I came out of school, I saw a smile on my son's face and I cried. It is because I care too little about my son that my son has become like this step by step. I am responsible and ashamed. During the summer vacation, I also found an opportunity to tell my son the truth and apologize. My son was also moved by me. Last year, my son was admitted to a vocational college in Guangdong, and he chose his favorite major. His personality was much more cheerful and his communication with me increased. So I remind parents once again that for children, companionship is the most needed on the road to growth. Don't always take care of your feelings, let your children live a healthy and happy life, and give them the truth of being a man and doing things. This is more important than anything else.

Seeing this topic, the first thing that comes to mind is: the child is an adult, and the son 15 years old is a teenager!

I liked your son very much when I was a child, but after 15 years old, I gradually became silent and alienated from you. It is because children have entered adolescence, have their own small circle and have independent thoughts. As a parent, he should accept these changes frankly.

One of the characteristics of adolescence is the outstanding sense of adulthood. Children who enter adolescence have changed physically and psychologically. As far as the psychological characteristics of teenagers are concerned, the most prominent thing is the enhancement of adult consciousness, which is manifested in the enhancement of independent consciousness.

For example, in life, I am gradually unwilling to accept too much care from my parents; I don't like being overly interfered and cared for by my parents. I have my own independent opinions on the merits of some problems and don't want to listen to my parents' opinions.

That's why when I was a child, I could cling to you and haunt your son every day. /kloc-when I was 0/5 years old, I gradually alienated you and didn't even want to talk to my parents.

How should parents treat their children at this time? Adolescent children will have various psychological reactions because of the sharp changes in physiology. Self-awareness is getting stronger and stronger, and they try to break through the bondage and control of their parents. These changes are very normal.

As parents, we should pay attention to making children more independent in life and deliberately cultivate their own ability to deal with trivial matters of life, instead of hiding everything for their children and doing everything for them.

What adolescent children hate most is being bossed around by others. If parents give orders as they did when they were children, it will only make children more and more disgusted.

When children encounter problems, setbacks and difficulties, parents should analyze the problems with their children like friends, help them analyze objectively and guide them. They can't give orders and make accusations.

For adolescent children, they think they have grown up and are "adults", but they are still very naive. Parents should communicate with them more, get along like friends, and praise their children when they find their advantages.

In the process of communicating with children, it is best to learn to "show weakness". Children feel that they have surpassed their parents. When they have a sense of accomplishment, they especially like to share it with their parents, so it is easy for parents to do what they like with them.

Conclusion: Son 15 years old is in adolescence. During this period, children's self-awareness, self-awareness and self-esteem are enhanced, and they have independent thoughts and are unwilling to talk to you. This is normal.

On the surface, they gradually alienated their parents. In fact, in their hearts, children want to be respected, understood, recognized and affirmed. As parents, we should give our children support and encouragement from all aspects to help them get through adolescence smoothly!

I am: Qingju time, a person who likes simple life. Welcome attention.

This is not alienation. Children are no longer attached to you. First, because his vision is gradually broadened, the world is gradually getting bigger. Children used to take their parents as the center. Later, he gradually discovered that the world is still very big, waiting for him to explore.

Second, children begin to have their own worries, which is a sign of puberty. He began to understand and think from his own perspective, and he needed a space of his own.

The child began to talk less, which is a sign of his psychological growth. Parents don't have to be confused and lost, just quietly observe and accompany.

First of all, are you sure that's really alienating silence?

That's when children grow up, a stage that all children have to go through!

On the contrary, if a child still clings to you like a child, it is really abnormal!

Human beings are also one of the tens of millions of species on the earth, and they also follow the law of life development! During the growth of any species, one day it will leave its parents and "fly high".

To put it bluntly, children will eventually become independent individuals, grow independently, experience the ups and downs of society, and better accept the baptism of society!

Although many parents don't want their children to leave themselves, they don't want their children to stick to themselves as they did when they were children. Parents just don't want their children to be too far away from them!

In the animal kingdom, it is even more cruel! For example, lions, male lions will be dared by the lion king when they grow up. This is their survival rule!

This is cruel to humans, but it is common and normal in the animal kingdom! Even so, lions will be taken care of by their parents when they are young!

When children grow up, they will always have their own way of thinking and need their own independent living space. When I was a child, my parents were the children's world, and of course the children would stick to us!

We often see that no matter how parents beat their children, children will always stick to their parents and even please them, because in their eyes, parents are everything to their children!

Perhaps, parents will be a little lost when they leave their children when they grow up, but we have to accept this. We will leave our children one day, so why not put them down earlier?

Although I have no children yet, I have a deep understanding of this problem.

When I was a child, I told my dad everything, even if I had a dream at night, but suddenly one day, I was speechless with him.

On the one hand, because junior high school began to live on campus, I can only go home once a week. I still live on campus in high school, and I basically don't go home without holidays. Not to mention going to college, you can only go back in winter and summer vacations. I don't have much contact at ordinary times, so I seem to be gradually alienated.

On the other hand, in adolescence, he began to rebel. Many things, I can't communicate with him. In the father's subconscious, there may not be a preference for boys, but male chauvinism is very serious. After all, he is not of the same age. He will have many deep-rooted ideas, such as girls can't get too close to boys and so on. ......

Besides, maybe I have no patience myself. I am exposed to more new things than he is, and he sticks to the rules, sometimes it is meaningless and too lazy to talk about it. When I grew up, I began to learn to report good news, not bad news.

So, I think your son is gradually becoming silent and alienating you. On the one hand, there are not many adolescent boys twittering. On the other hand, did you put him on an equal footing in your usual contacts? Besides caring about his life and study, have you tried to understand his hobbies? He has grown up slowly, and psychologically he is no longer the little boy who is attached to you.

I firmly believe that parents should learn to be friends with their children, but it is really not easy to do this.

Children grow up, and when they reach puberty, their cognition of things is different.

For example, when I was a child, many parents loved their children very much, and sometimes they kissed them or took good care of them. Children also rely on their parents to enjoy this happiness.

But as you get older, you will find that your children are no longer close to you. Although you are his parents, he still has his own secrets. He will start to resist you kissing him and take care of him like a child. Especially in front of classmates.

There are joys and sorrows. Although he no longer belongs to you completely, you may get lost. But this is also an indispensable process for everyone to grow up, and I believe he will become more and more mature.