"20 years of asexual marriage, why not divorce?" Why should the man's answer disturb thousands of women?

Writing "White Deer Plain", a reader left a message in the comment area saying:

"This is my grandmother's life. After my grandfather and I got married, it was only once. Since then, my grandfather has never really seen my grandmother. My grandmother gave birth to my grandfather during that time and was widowed all her life. "

Leng is a tragedy in White Deer Plain and a crazy woman in Widow. That is the remnant of feudal thought, which makes a girl of just right age have such a sad ending.

She was poisoned by her father and then died on the coldest day in winter.

That's when. What about this time now?

A man has no reason to divorce his wife, who refuses to leave because the child is just full moon. Then the man said something like this: "never leave, I will never touch you in my life." If you can bear it, then we won't go. "

What a shameless reason, but the woman agreed. She said: "I can tolerate anything for my children." I just want to give them a complete home. "

Cai Qin maintained this cruel marriage for ten years.

Yang Dechang said that this decade is a blank. After he turned around, he got married and had children, and had a happy life of his own. But Cai Qin said, "I don't think this is a blank. I have given everything. "

After Yang Dechang changed his mind, he at least chose to divorce and let each other be free. However, xu feng didn't mention the divorce to his wife zhangyan after her change of heart, nor did she give any explanation for her indifference.

The most cruel thing about men is that I just made a mistake, but if I don't change what I say, you have to accept it yourself.

He would read in the study late every night and didn't go back to rest until zhangyan fell asleep. He doesn't talk to zhangyan, and he doesn't give any explanation, but he is cold and heartless.

Xu Feng, zhangyan's child is three years old. Zhangyan, though in pain, acquiesced in the man's practice. Zhangyan thought, if you ignore me and don't touch me, then I will take good care of my children and treat your parents well.

I want you to be moved to fall in love with me again.

A woman should never try to touch a man and keep him with your selfless dedication to his family. Because it's useless, your infatuation will only make men look down on you more. He really doesn't think you are good, he just thinks you are cheap, and you can't live without him.

In this way, zhangyan and Feng Hsu maintained a asexual marriage for 20 years.

Since zhangyan's children graduated from college, Xu Feng has been indifferent to zhangyan.

After 20 years' torture, zhangyan is as crazy as the cold autumn moon before The Widow. She always wants to know why, exactly why. Why did Feng Hsu suddenly do this to her? She felt that she had done nothing wrong. Since marrying Feng Hsu, she has done everything to have children and honor her parents.

But that's how hard she works to be nice to Xu Feng. Why can't Feng Hsu live a good life with himself?

After the children graduated from college, zhangyan began to want a result from Xu Feng. She asked Feng Hsu, "Since you don't love me, why don't you divorce me? Why have you been hanging me like this? "

Feng Hsu said these three points, which really shocked millions of women. Women should never put up with this asexual marriage, and don't think it is shameful to divorce because of it. There is really nothing to be ashamed of.

It is human nature for a woman to long to be loved.

Xu Feng said, "I need a wife."

Some men need a "wife" instead of a lover. This "wife" is not his lover, but a free nanny who provides family services. He needs a wife to wash and cook for him and act as a facade for him. He needs such a wife to let outsiders know that his marriage is complete.

Xu Feng said, "My parents need a wife."

Xu Feng is a dutiful son, and his parents are firmly opposed to his divorce. In the eyes of Xu Feng's parents, husband and wife can quarrel, be asexual and loveless all their lives, but not divorce. Because divorce is shameful, the whole family is ashamed to follow.

Xu Feng's parents didn't want him to divorce, so Xu Feng kept the marriage. Since his parents need a daughter-in-law, and zhangyan is a hardworking daughter-in-law, why does he want a divorce?

Xu Feng said, "My child needs a mother."

Xu Feng needs a wife to be a free nanny, his parents need a filial daughter-in-law, and Xu Feng's children need a superhuman mother.

Xu feng thought about divorce, even if he could ignore his own face and parents' face, what should the children do? If divorced, who will take care of his children?

But as long as she doesn't divorce, Zhang consciously assumes the obligation of being a mother. And xu feng can spare time and energy to do what he wants.

Xu Feng said, "It doesn't matter who you marry."

Xu Feng doesn't love his wife, so does he love women outside?

He doesn't love it either. I think even if I divorce my wife and marry another one, I will live like a wife. In that case, why divorce? It's better to have someone at home to take care of his parents and children. As it is now, he doesn't have to be responsible for other women outside.

Feng Hsu is almost 50 years old and has no intention of getting a divorce now.

He felt that his wife could not afford it. He thinks his wife is going to be 50. What else can he do? If his wife divorces him because of this, she is always shameless.

But why should a woman spend her life with such a selfish man?

To continue is to constantly consume yourself. He is already such an unbearable person. If you are with him, you will only make yourself more miserable.

I want to talk about the woman who endured asexual marriage because of her children. She thinks she can stand it.

Every day when a man comes home, he doesn't care about her, just sits on the sofa with his child in his arms and plays with his mobile phone. Sometimes he would rather stay in the car all night than go home and face a woman.

Neglected, looked down upon and left out, women have been in this torture for a long time during breastfeeding. She soon ran out of milk, and the children were always sick. Men, however, just look cold.

They are strangers under the same roof.

She tried to impress men from the beginning, and then quarreled as soon as they met. She was hysterical when she quarreled, and finally she trembled at the sight of a man.

She thought she could bear it, but she didn't want a woman to be hurt to the extreme by a man. Her body had already made an emergency response before her brain.

At the end of asexual marriage, women are not fighting men, but fighting themselves. Keep everything in your heart and turn yourself into an unrecognizable person.

Leng Qiuyue is crazy.

Cai Qin announced at the concert on Mother's Day: "I will not marry Cai Qin, I will marry the stage for life."

Zhang Yannian is nearly fifty years old. Facing this painful marriage, she tortures herself every day.

And the woman who endured asexual marriage because of her children has been deeply hurt and has a shadow.

Do you want to continue to endure this painful marriage?

Really, don't put up with it

He doesn't love you. He is too selfish. Why give all your efforts to such a man? He will never be grateful, because he has long given up on you.