I have heard the word "love is incompetent"

Being incapable of love is a feelingless experience. You can listen to me talk about it.

I recently finished work and had nothing to do. I browsed QQ space and found a friend who had posted a comment. Suddenly, I felt a little emotional and felt a chill in my heart.

This is what I said:

Being single is something you will gradually get used to. Because when you are single, you can take care of yourself, play freely, and have all kinds of friends. In the end, you will forget about love and the touch that love brings to you. A person who has been single for a long time will have androgynous attributes, making you feel warm and moved. Therefore, as a single person, it’s not that you can’t find love, but you are gradually losing the ability to love.

Yes, I was like this before. My career failed and I lost hundreds of thousands. There was a leak in the house behind me and it rained continuously. I fell out of love.

After falling out of love, I didn’t want to get involved in a new love, so I stayed single.

I am also working hard to build my career, so for more than a year, I have been regaining my feeling bit by bit.

After falling out of love, I felt as if the whole world had been destroyed and turned into ashes. The entire space turned gray and there was no life left.

I have no time to work, no time to live, no time to socialize, no people I want to meet. I encapsulate myself in a computer space. In addition to making money for food, clothing and sleep, I wear a miserable skin and feel tired. Earth is happening every day in this world, and everything is copy-pasting, and everything means nothing to me.

Then he enters a state of no feeling, falling deeply into a bottomless hole.

Once when I was moving something, I accidentally hurt my hand and it started to bleed. I would hold my hand to see if it was bleeding, but I didn’t feel anything at the time.

Slowly, I found this state to be terrifying.

I am indeed not living in a dream. Why don’t I feel anything? Why am I like this?

Surprisingly, oh, I don’t feel anything anymore.

I don’t feel anything, so what am I doing in this world?

The more I think about it, the more horrified I become.

When a boy came into my sight and hinted that he liked me, I didn’t feel anything at all, so I declined.

I am not afraid that I will be hurt again. Maybe, I may not even feel it. How can a walking corpse talk about love?

Later, I found a word on the Internet that was particularly suitable to describe me.

This word is called incompetent love.

Love incompetence (love inability) is a type of depressive neurosis.

According to psychological medicine, it is a kind of morbid psychology that shows considerable lack of enthusiasm for love behavior and lacks at least initiative. The majority of patients are women.

Not only are patients unable to devote necessary enthusiasm to their emotional life, but they also appear fearful or indifferent in front of the opposite sex. In other words, even if they see a cute boy, they still "don't call" and "don't feel anything".

Because "love incompetence" is a severe emotional depression, it often affects other aspects of personal life, such as loss of confidence in life, weakening learning motivation, hindering work efficiency, destroying innovative thinking, etc. The consequences are manifold.

Indeed, this world is meaningless. Living in reality is also a dream, and dreams are also reality. Why should I worry about it?

Love that is incompetent will slowly wear itself away, leaving you with nothing.

No, I can't go on like this.

I then write down my feelings, plan to run, write articles, and write down my daily reflections.

I want to feel every day of my life.

I want to see progress day by day, and I want to save myself.

By the way, I still have my family, and they have been looking forward to me, but I have not come out of the shadows. This is my biggest apology to my family.

Human energy is limited. According to calculations, the recorded energy in a person's lifetime is only 128G. Therefore, the energy in a lifetime is also present.

Some people devote all their energy to it. , make your business bigger.

Some people spread their energy and accomplish nothing.

When a person encounters setbacks, he becomes even more invincible, has no feeling at all, does not love himself, does not love others, does not love everything in the world, and is a completely heartless and righteous person.

Life shows numbness and indifference. When no one loves you, your life has no energy, and it is a dead silence.

I was chatting with a boss before. He was beaming for a long time and became more and more enthusiastic as he talked.

I asked: "Why are you so passionate and energetic all day long?"

He seemed to see something, and then told me straightforwardly: "I know What do you lack? What you lack is a spontaneous love in your heart."

I nodded.

I see employees’ performance reports every week, send them salary forms every month, watch them buy cars in their twenties, and grow with our company all the time, because I love the company. To love each and every one of them. And this loving feedback makes me wake up every morning and think of the smiles of the employees, and I feel that it is very meaningful for me to work in this company.

I have thought deeply about it for a long time, and it is true that I have lost all my love.

Perhaps, after experiencing this conversation, I can understand the rules of this world a little deeper.

It turns out that all vitality and all motivation come from oneself and the ability to love.

When we master the two extremes of things, then we will master everything about things.

Those who are discouraged, please look back and let’s work hard together.

Originally, life is meaningless, and everything in the world is meaningless. It is just that everything cooperates with each other to create and give meaning.

You create a life, then you regain your feelings bit by bit, you will slowly radiate the love in your heart, and the other party will give you feedback, then, all of this will be significance.

Okay, I have written so much, and I hope that people who are destined to read it will also read it. I hope that my feelings can help you, and I will also try my best to warm your heart with my love.