How to master the art of conversation

Directory method 1: first of all, you have something to say. Before talking to others, look at what kind of person he is and find some information about him (if possible). 2. Ask some topics that can make the other person talk about himself. 3. Learn to "invite" and "encourage". 4. Evaluate interesting topics. 5. Listen carefully. 6. Forget yourself. 7. Be polite and respectful when you disagree with each other. 8. Accept a short silence. 9. Sometimes you can say some taboo topics. 10, learn to tell stories, especially interesting stories. 1 1, I don't know when to say 12, and I know when to end the conversation. Speaking is an art, but it is not as difficult as we thought. No matter what kind of occasion-at school, eating or talking on the phone, both sides of the conversation should relax in order to have an interesting conversation. Refer to our suggestions and master the art of conversation.

Method 1: First of all, you have something to say.

1. Before talking to others, look at what kind of person he is and find some information about him (if possible). For example, you can look at his Weibo and intranet information and find some topics he is interested in. Just don't let others think you are peeping tom! "I came across you writing an interesting article when I was browsing the biochemical network! Why did you choose that theme? "

"I saw on the memo in the office that you are doing a survey of local schools. What happened? "

"Did you really go skydiving?"

2. Ask some topics that can make the other person talk about himself. "What do you usually like to do?" "What have you done before?" "What are you busy with recently?" What did you do last week? Politely ask some topics about him that interest you. People usually like to talk about their hobbies or specialties. If you don't understand what the other person said, take this opportunity to ask him more.

Make sure you are sincere. Keep eye contact and nod when you speak, and add some comments as appropriate, such as: "Well, that sounds interesting."

Try to ask some complicated questions that can't be answered with "yes" or "no", and let the other person say more. For example, "So you like gliding very much, don't you?" What are you so interested in? "

Ask some simple questions at first. If you feel that the other person is gradually relaxing, then you can ask some personal questions.

3. Learn to "invite" and "encourage". "Invitation" means that you directly or indirectly prompt the other party to answer the phone. It usually appears in the form of a question.

"Inspiration" means that you bring up an interesting topic and make the other person want to discuss it with you in depth. For example, you can tell an interesting story to remind each other of similar experiences; Or tell each other some of your thoughts about life and let them talk about their own views.

4. Evaluate interesting topics. Some people like reading newspapers and news. So when you have nothing to say, you can discuss current events or interesting things that have happened recently. For example, "Did you hear that an underground park is being built now?" Such questions are both interesting and informative.

5. Listen carefully. If you are always distracted and thinking about other things instead of focusing on the content of the conversation and what you are going to say next, it will be difficult to have a conversation. If you can listen carefully, then you can ask questions according to what the other person says. Translate what the other party said. "So you think skydiving is the most exciting thing you have ever experienced?" This will make the other party feel that they are respected and give the other party a chance to confirm or correct your point of view.

Encourage each other to talk more. In this way, he will feel that you are actively participating in the dialogue and you can get more information.

6. Forget yourself. As Carnegie said, "it is much easier to be interested in others than to make others interested in themselves." If you always think about yourself, or always guess what others think of you, then you can never relax. If you are nervous, the other person will be nervous.

7. Be polite and respectful when you disagree with each other. Before you disagree, tell the other person what you agree with. Try not to say "but", say "and". Most people think that "harmony" is much gentler than "but".

Don't always show off or impose your opinions in conversation.

8. Accept a short silence. Before you say the next thing, have a drink or eat something. Use the silent time to change a new topic.

9. Sometimes you can say some taboo topics. As social animals, people always act according to the code of conduct. It's no big deal to talk about topics that everyone avoids occasionally, but it will arouse each other's interest. When talking, most people are afraid to talk about religion and politics. If you can talk about religion and politics in a soft way, you can have a try.

Love is also a topic that is often avoided. We don't want to pry into other people's privacy, and we don't want others to ask about our stories. However, sometimes people really want to talk about this topic. If the other person doesn't want to talk about it, then all you have to do is apologize and start a new topic.

10, learn to tell stories, especially interesting stories. Interesting stories are the spice of life. As American essayist Dion said, "The story we tell is our life", and a good story can make us get rid of the triviality of life and enter a broader space. Pay attention to some tips when telling stories: take your time. Don't tell all your stories at once. A little pause will have an unexpected effect. A well-told story will attract the attention of the audience.

Tell me your story. Speaking of practical jokes, I met something similar not long ago. Starting with this sentence will make the other person feel natural, like an extension of the original conversation.

Tell a true story. True stories are always more powerful than fictional stories.

1 1. At the embarrassing moment when I don't know what to say, I simply satirize such embarrassment. At this time, you should be relaxed and humorous: "I'm sorry, I think we've had enough pleasantries." What do you want to say? "

"We are in such a hurry to find words, we must have missed something. You don't like cats, do you?

"I believe we must have the same topic to say. Why don't we go for a drink and let the alcohol continue the dialogue? "

12, know when to end the conversation. Even the most interesting conversation will become boring or interrupted at some point. All you have to do is smile and tell the other person that you like the whole conversation. Ending the conversation with a positive attitude will make the other person look forward to talking to you again.

Tip: There should be a pause between each sentence. This can give the other party a chance to ask questions or comment. You're talking, not a monologue.

Keep smiling when necessary. This doesn't mean that you need to smile all the time. But smiling can encourage correctness and promote dialogue. The other party will also be willing to disclose more information because of your attitude. Remember, facial expressions are very important.

Speak with confidence. A confident person will make the other person feel confident and comfortable. Confidence is the key to a good conversation.

Answer the question carefully. For example, if someone asks you, "How was your day?" If you say "Yes!" Then the next step is silence. You can say, "I feel particularly good because I finally finished that project!" " "In this way, the other party can ask you some questions about the project, and you can enjoy an interesting conversation. Another way is to identify with other people's problems. When someone asks you something, you can say, "Well, I like this question. "This will encourage the other party to want to know more.

Compliment others in conversation. Say, "I like your handbag." This simple prologue can make you talk about shopping or fashion.

Ask some simple questions. For example, if someone asks you about your plans for the weekend, you may not know how to answer. In contrast, simple questions are better, such as "What did you do today?" Or "How is your study? Still so annoying? " In short, make sure that the answering party enjoys the process of answering. If you find that the other person doesn't enjoy the whole conversation so much, then you may need to improve.

Start the dialogue at a time suitable for both parties. If the other person is in a hurry to leave and you insist on talking, he may feel annoyed.

Convening a group of people to discuss a topic is not that simple. The ideal topic should not be serious (religion, politics), but it should interest most people. The way to find such a topic is to watch more news and discuss some facts or some interesting stories.

If the conversation is boring, don't stick to it. Maybe the other person is in a bad mood, doesn't want to talk, or is distracted.

Discuss the interests of both sides.

Ask questions according to each other's belongings. A friend of mine saw a big bottle on my desk and asked me if I like drinking water very much-he was absolutely right.

Sometimes, a wonderful conversation will move you and make you want to go to the activities that the other person likes or the places he has been.

If you already know each other, you can continue the topic you have already said. For example, their children, or the projects they are working on, or some experiences shared with them.

Pay attention to those interesting "talking points". Talking points are topics that can lead to interesting conversations. But sometimes, if the other person's hobbies are really different from yours, the conversation point may not be so easy to find.

If you really can't get along, don't waste your time on him.

When talking to others at school, you can end the conversation by saying "I'm leaving". Bye! "If your conversation goes well, he will look forward to talking to you next time.

Ask the other person if he likes something. For example, you can ask, "Do you like playing chess?" Another person may answer, "no, but I like playing monopoly." In this way, you get some information.

Assess the surrounding environment and what just happened. For example, after class, you can ask others, "What do you think of today's class?"

Cultivate your hobbies. If you have your own hobbies, it is not difficult to talk about them. With the psychology of willing to try anything, expand your knowledge and cultivate a wide range of interests. In addition, you can also ask some questions about each other's hobbies. For example, if your opponent likes football, you can ask him which team he likes, or ask some questions about the formation.

I warn you to be serious, don't rely on luck!