What should I do for those who want to get something for nothing?

If you are a down-to-earth and positive person, if you observe with your heart, there must be many companions around you: for some difficult and challenging things, they don't want to work hard to overcome them, but they don't hesitate to flatter them, in order to hug your thighs and enjoy the results with you. How do you treat such people?

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Every noon, always when my food is about to be cooked, my daughter's hungry knock on the door rings on time.

Yesterday at noon, my food was served, and my daughter came in, looking a little wrong. I wonder: What is this girl thinking? But I didn't rush to ask her, or quietly began to eat. I know she will tell me when she wants to.

Sure enough, the girl at the dinner table opened the chatterbox while eating, and the opening was: Mom, I offended someone!

Oh, is it serious? Tell me! I looked at her with a smile and said.

To tell the truth, I still like my daughter's temper with something to say in her heart, and I am willing to share her growing pains and happiness. Children who always keep their worries in their hearts will have some influence on the formation of their character.

Sometimes, as parents, we should also reflect on whether children don't want to communicate with themselves. Is there a problem with your own concerns? Maybe it's because their children can't get the response they want from us?

While eating, the girl poured out all the troubles she had been holding all the way.

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It turns out that in the last class today, the math teacher announced that he would take a quiz.

During this period, the knowledge in math class is a difficult point in high school, and many children have some difficulties in accepting it. Parents also asked teachers to explain more in the WeChat group. The math teacher is a very diligent and serious old teacher. He often exhorts children to correct their learning attitude in class and practice independently after class.

These days, my daughter has to fight late under the lamp every night and go to cram school early in the morning on weekends. She said that she was not clever at all, and she would fall behind if she relaxed a little.

However, despite the teacher's request, some children's performance is still unsatisfactory. In the previous test, many children only got twenty or thirty points. In the liberal arts class, many girls came in to avoid math and physics.

There are two or three such children gathered around their daughter's seat. As soon as the teacher handed out the test paper, Zhang Manman and the girls said, hey, sister, it's all up to you. Don't go after writing. Help me copy the answer.

As a result, when the daughter finished writing, they all dragged her to hand in the paper, which alarmed the teacher. On the one hand, my daughter is annoyed by them, on the other hand, she is really hungry. When she was angry, no one asked her to copy, so she handed in the paper.

"Do you think they will hold a grudge against me and settle accounts with me?" The girl asked me trembling.

It seems that the shadow that was isolated a few years ago has been in my daughter's heart and has not completely dispersed. After all, friendship is still an important part of life for adolescent children.

"In fact, it is not only mathematics, but also exams in other subjects are always copied from me, and I feel particularly entangled every time. Don't copy, we are all classmates, for fear of hurting the peace. Make a copy for them. They usually don't study hard and play games, but the result is the same as me, which is unfair to me and other students who study hard! "

The girl sighed helplessly: "Mom, I really don't understand why some people always want to get something for nothing?"

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But there are really many such people! While feeling and thinking, on the one hand, it is the so-called friendship, on the other hand, it is conscience and justice. If I were you, how should I deal with this thorny problem?

Come to think of it carefully, don't we adults have such problems around us? In a team, there are always some people who go with the flow and even want to get something for nothing. There are always some people who stand on their own feet and do things in a down-to-earth manner. I have such a living example in my own work experience.

What should children be guided to do? It is wrong to act arbitrarily, and pretending to be a snake will not solve the problem.

It takes courage and wisdom to solve these problems.

School seems simple, but also an extension of society. Children are old, and some interpersonal relationships cannot be solved simply and rudely. This aspect involves the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence. Properly handled, children can get effective exercise, which is helpful for dealing with more complicated interpersonal relationships in the future. After all, working in society requires communication and cooperation between people.

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On reflection, I didn't answer my daughter's question directly, but gave her some advice.

As classmates and neighbors, we have a good relationship. Usually give them more help and guidance. Sometimes they don't want to study, perhaps because they are afraid of difficulties. When they teach themselves, they should be urged to drive.

Usually show them your bottom line. Answer your own questions during the exam, let them know what kind of person you are, and don't touch your bottom line.

Only when you have a bottom line and principles can you win a true friend!

You have to work harder to get rid of these low-level troubles.

In this life, every step of growth is a screening process. Only through your own efforts can you get rid of these low-level troubles on a high-quality level, which requires you to make more efforts.

Anyway, I suggest you get along well with your classmates. You are all grown up and sensible. If you have something to say, communication can solve many problems.

In the afternoon, when my daughter came back from school, I asked this question lightly. The girls laughed, but they didn't give me any trouble. In the afternoon, I gave them a lesson.

I hope my daughter can learn a lesson from this incident and be calm in the future. She should be independent and cooperative.