Why can't you even make a joke?

I suddenly found that many people around me like to joke.

In fact, joking is a good thing in itself, which can adjust the atmosphere and bring people closer. But! There are always some people who keep exposing other people's scars under the guise of joking. Maybe he didn't mean to, but he really hurt others.

Something is wrong! It's okay for others to laugh at themselves, but some people just want to hold on to others' pain and keep talking. When someone retorts a little, he will say, "Oh dear! Don't be so stingy! I'm just joking. "

This joke belongs to your family! Open it if you want!

The so-called joke should be called a joke only if the person being joked really finds it interesting. Other jokes are just slander.

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I clearly remember one time when I went out for dinner, a classmate brought her friends with her. The more you eat, the more embarrassed you are, and it will end in a hurry.

When girls are together, they often discuss their figure and so on, and generally discuss the secret of losing weight. At dinner that day, everyone was saying that they had gained weight recently, and then asked if they had ordered more food and wanted to eat less to lose weight.

My classmate shouted at the top of his voice, "Never mind, never mind, my friend may have eaten it." Give it to her! " "

Everyone laughed in unison. I saw her friend on the side, first stunned, then looked up and said with a smile, "Yes, I ate a lot, it doesn't matter."

It is good that this matter has come to an end, and there is nothing particularly inappropriate. Unfortunately, at dinner, my classmates kept talking about this topic. One minute ago, she said that when they went out together, her friend had eaten two meals and was still not full. One minute ago, she said that her friend was very fat and didn't want to lose weight ... As she spoke, she put food in her friend's bowl and said, "Look, I know you. You're welcome. Eat more."

Everyone next to me felt a little embarrassed. I don't even know how her friend has such a good temper. If I were you, I would turn against her. Does it matter how much I hate you? Did I eat your meal? I put on a little weight. What's the matter, blocking your view?

I watched her friend laugh from embarrassment at first to unhappiness later, and I really wanted to gag my classmate. Later, the girl said she wanted to go to the bathroom. As a result, my classmate grabbed her and said, "You won't be angry! I'm just kidding! Don't take it too seriously! "

The girl squeezed out a smiling face and said, "No!"

After the girl left, I asked the classmate, isn't it good for her to tease her friend so much? But she said simply, "It doesn't matter, we are good friends! Besides, I'm just kidding. "

Oh! I'm kidding. Is there such a joke? Always expose the shortcomings of others like this, without any bottom line, but still confidently ask others not to take it seriously. Do you really think that everyone has to cooperate with you to finish this play?

I really don't think it's necessary to make friends like this. A person who can make such a joke should not think from the other side's point of view! Others treat you as a friend and show your true self in front of you without any worries, but you treat others as jokes.

03

You thought you were just joking, but did the listener really laugh?

When a friend buys a new dress, you say, "Alas! What kind of eyes do you have? You dress like an aunt. "

The students are determined to lose weight and go running in the playground. When you see it, you say, "What are you running for?" ! Even if I lose weight, that's it. "

My best friend is going to the library to review, but you did say, "It's no use reviewing your brain."

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Everything you say hits someone's sore spot, and what's more frightening is that you don't feel anything wrong with yourself.

If someone is unhappy after listening to you, blame him for being too stingy to joke.

You also said that you were joking with them as friends, not friends. You're not kidding!

But you know, this is not a joke! No matter how close a friend is, he can't stand watching jokes again and again! If you don't make such a joke once, you will hurt others once.

So, please stop complaining that others are stingy and can't afford to make jokes. No one can stand others playing with their scars all the time.

I often meet such friends, who have been tirelessly grasping that pain point. At first I will walk awkwardly, but then I will turn against her mercilessly. Call me stingy, or I can't afford to joke. I just don't like people poking at my sore spot all the time and pretending to enjoy it. Isn't this ridiculous?

Therefore, I sincerely hope that everyone who jokes can think about it from the perspective of the person who is being teased. Would you be happy if others said that about you?

We can joke, but please remember never to hurt others.

Not joking is a kind of cultivation. I hope you and I are both educated people, and fewer people can be hurt by invisible jokes.