My mother always talks nonsense. How to enlighten me?

People's words, deeds and feelings are all derived from their life needs. But people often don't realize this.

Your mother may have spoken like this because her life was difficult when she was a child. He believes that he is facing a powerful external world. He only showed weakness. Only then can we have some control over this world. to meet your own life needs. This is a habit formed in childhood. This has been his way of doing things as an adult. He didn't realize there was anything wrong with this way of doing things.

You hate it when your mother talks like this. It's because when you hear him say this, you think that the dignified life needs that family members should live have not been met.

Let people truly understand their needs in life. will change his words and deeds. You can talk to your mother using nonviolent communication.

People’s habitual communication methods are mostly to criticize and judge each other. When they judge the other party, they actually want the other party to change and meet their own life needs. But when they judge the other party, the other party often instinctively defends, resists or escapes without changing. Therefore, judgmental communication is a tragic communication method because it is ineffective and cannot meet the life needs of both parties.

The communication method of non-violent communication believes that people's words and deeds are based on their life needs, so there is no right or wrong, good or bad. During the communication process, do not criticize or judge the other party. Just listen to the other person’s feelings and needs. Help the other person express their feelings and needs. Then express your feelings and needs to the other person. Let both parties understand their life feelings and needs, so that a good understanding can be achieved. Find ways to solve problems that meet the needs of both parties in their lives.

You can say this to your mother. Saw you just now. When buying groceries, I bargain with others, saying that I am poor and hope it is cheaper. I felt so embarrassed. Because I want my mother to live with dignity.