Avoid online and offline analysis.

Why avoid not liking chatting and sending messages?

Analysis on avoiding the complete difference between online and offline;

1, the message is short, so we can't talk.

As long as you observe carefully, it is not difficult to find that the content of the avoided chat is very limited.

They are not good at using language to communicate their feelings, such as using emotional words, rendering the context and making intimate jokes.

This is equivalent to asking you to write an article. Adjectives, adverbs and mood auxiliary words can't be used, leaving only dry indicators. In addition to being unemotional, the instructions also have a feature: concise language and no nonsense.

This is also the principle of avoiding human behavior: simplicity/fear of trouble.

Usually intimate relationships make us relax and can't help sharing our innermost thoughts and feelings with our lover. Avoiding because of the lack of such "trust" in the relationship, chatting with lovers is not a thing that completely relaxes T A. It's like describing the same thing with relatives, friends, colleagues and leaders, and you will selectively hide some of it.

There is always a part that needs to be hidden deep inside, and it is not necessarily a secret. Sometimes it may just be Ta's subconscious self-protection.

2, the news is slow! I haven't been back for a long time, or the next day!

Some avoidance is not only reflected in emotions, but also in social interaction. It takes courage to ask for directions and say hello.

Habitually close your heart and communicate with the outside world, you need to think clearly and think about it after brewing. You may be worried about exposing your unacceptable side, or you may be subconsciously hesitant.

If he often doesn't reply to messages in time, or doesn't reply when chatting, it may be that his daily rhythm is disrupted; Or can't keep up with your thinking rhythm; Or feel tired and bored.

The following is the angle of avoidance

I don't talk because I want to do something else.

Sacrifice sleeping in and reading books because reading can improve yourself. Small talk is no good. Chatting is equivalent to squeezing the time you used to study, fall in love and work.

If you have to talk, the sudden mood/quarrel is even more disturbing (or troublesome).

You need a certain amount of time to chat every day, and it's not that you don't talk at all. For example, if you lack energy, don't want to do anything and feel bored, then chatting becomes meaningful.

Because I am a passive person, it is easier to find something to do by myself even if I stay alone. Reluctant to promote this relationship. Naturally there is less motivation.

Some people need to chat to relieve boredom, while others need to learn to improve their fitness and have fun. Chatting is an indispensable part, but it can't replace a sound, a treasure or a game. Work can't bring pay. Unlike self-improvement, it can bring future rise, self-strength and security.

Chatting should also be controlled within a certain range, neither less nor more. Marginal utility decreases.

The above is to avoid chatting. Stripping the "emotional interaction attribute" of chat, the chat motivation is obviously insufficient. This is also to avoid a big conflict with lovers.