Why do brothers and sisters become more and more alienated after remarriage?

In psychology, two people can influence each other, depend on each other, and can be said to be related. When two people are very dependent on each other, this relationship will be considered intimate. Intimacy is not limited to heterosexual relationships between couples. Family friendship is also an intimate relationship. Why are you close to your brothers and sisters, and why do you alienate them? Why do brothers and sisters turn against each other? Does your intimate relationship bother you?

In a family with many children, because brothers and sisters grew up together, their relationship is very close. In space, everyone lives under one roof and meets every day. Emotionally, we have experienced various family changes together and faced the same family environment together; In the experiment, in the same area, you may go to the same school, have the same relatives and friends, watch the same TV and feel the same surrounding environment; However, this intimate relationship changes quietly with the changes of space, emotion and experience. For example, many people say that since they left home from college, they have less and less contact with their brothers and sisters and less and less affection.

There is a saying that human whole body cells should be replaced every seven years. In other words, every seven years, everyone becomes a new self. How many times have you met your brothers and sisters by chance in the past seven years? If you don't have a life of 10%, or even less, it means that this intimate relationship no longer exists. In other words, brothers and sisters are only close friends in the first half of their lives. With the passage of time and changes in various situations, brothers and sisters may become strangers.

There is another concept to be inserted here, that is, population mobility. In recent ten years, the population of many small and medium-sized cities in China has been migrating to big cities, which has also caused many young people to travel away from home. In such a social environment, family ties become alienated and helpless due to geographical changes. The reason why brothers and sisters turn against each other when they grow up If the intimate relationship between brothers and sisters, like childhood playmates, classmates and friends, naturally becomes alienated because of the differences in geography and growth, it is nothing disturbing.

It is enough for everyone to settle down and live a good life, and the rest is to pay attention to and bless each other from a distance, that's all. However, after losing intimate relationship, brothers and sisters have to face many things together, especially the conflict of vital interests, which is the fundamental reason why once close people eventually become strangers or even enemies. The conflict of interests mentioned here does not necessarily mean money or material things, but may also mean taking care of parents.