Love of overseas students

"In all suitable relationships, no one has ever sacrificed for anyone." In all appropriate relationships, no one can hide it from anyone. )-Ayn Rand

Sorry, here, I'm talking about the love story of North American students. Although the scope has been narrowed, it may take several days to finish a long speech.

I remember in "Clouds in Beijing", Yang Mi betrayed the promising young man Jerry Lee and got together with a rich second generation. Then one day, the rich second generation left her, and she was staring blankly at the empty shoe cabinet. Then I will follow suit and let love start with shoes.

In Sex and the City, the heroine's name is Kelly. One day, she couldn't afford the house, so she planned to borrow money from her friends. As a result, her friend went home to check her shoe locker and was surprised to find that she had 100 pairs of shoes with more than 500 yuan. Therefore, this friend is not going to lend her money. Carrie went bankrupt to buy shoes.

I have a female classmate who is also a luxury lover, and her family is just ordinary. I heard that she scrimped and saved money to buy bags and shoes. Later, when she fell in love, she began to upload some of her life to social platforms. I also know her movements through her own updates. She also posted her own shoe cabinet one day, and there were twenty or thirty pairs of first-line brand shoes online. A pair 1000 USD, and a shoe cabinet is worth 200,000 RMB. Half a year ago, she also announced her marriage to a rich second generation. On the wedding day, she showed off a pair of water crystal shoes, high-set, rhinestones, and hated the sky. Soon after, the girl took off her diamond ring and took a selfie with tears in her eyes.

The love between two circles is not abrupt in North America. Because, children who go abroad have fearless rich second generation and working-class people who work hard for education. Sometimes, a little girl slowly walks up to the rooftop in the dark with a lighted match in her hand; She will get the curtain of the so-called prince, because she was separated from the princess under Deng Hua. At this time, she put on glass shoes. The next moment, when the clock strikes midnight, she will take off her high heels and drag her bloody legs back to her pumpkin carriage.

I still have a girlfriend. For a long time, I felt sorry for her. This is not pity, but "empathy." Her family seems to be good, but she dresses simply. However, just wearing simple clothes to save your life is already incompatible with the girls around you. It is such a girl who found a boyfriend one day. Boyfriend is a North American doctor. I don't know when my boyfriend's Nike sneakers often spend the night in her hall. Accompanied by her sports shoes is a pair of wedge shoes. Judging from the shoes, the relationship between the two people is relatively harmonious. I have never seen a pair of Roger Weaver buttons lying comfortably next to a pair of Nike sneakers. Usually two people study together. On Sunday, two people will go to the supermarket to buy some snacks, and then take them back to their rooms to eat together. I don't remember them inviting anyone to dinner. However, I have never quarreled with anyone, just an ordinary student couple.

Living abroad, socializing equals spending. I don't want to spend money, just want to find a boyfriend (girlfriend) at home to send my boring grandson away. However, they should slowly release healthy or unhealthy emotions to the only other party, just like the gas in a closed room, no matter what its own breath is, it will be turbid and gloomy after mixing for a long time.

It is difficult for China students to find their favorite jobs in the United States (except for students majoring in computer science). However, some girls went to ABC to talk about marriage and finally stayed through marriage immigration. There are also happy girls like this. But in a relationship, without love, values, language, identity and political factors are easily overlooked, which can also prove how stubborn and cruel the girl who makes such a choice is. Because, the road she faces is, and all the decisions in China.

There is a girl, beautiful and smart, who graduated from a famous school. Her boyfriend is ABC and speaks Chinese very well. This year, girls really didn't want to stay in the United States for development, so they told their boyfriends that they were going back to China. The boyfriend looked indifferent and replied that if you go back, this relationship will be an "open relationship" for both of us. This boy allows my girlfriend to date someone else after returning to China, so she can have sparks with others. As soon as I heard my girlfriend say that, I was worried about her. Girls are emotional. She clearly knows that she will talk about breaking up after returning to China, but she needs the courage of her boyfriend to give her love. Love sometimes needs some impulse. For example, her favorite is Tory Burch flats. She loves elegance and grace. What she needs is to walk hand in hand, but her boyfriend is in a hurry, wearing a pair of clover sneakers. People who are all on the road can't wait. As soon as they walked, they dispersed. Fortunately, she is smart, independent, beautiful and proud. She has a life. Therefore, her happiness is not far away.

There is also a senior, brave and enthusiastic. She always knows what she needs. Just this year, her foreign boyfriend proposed to her. I remember last year, her friend Weibo wrote that she was happy for this girl because her boyfriend thought she was irreplaceable and rare. This is a high evaluation for both parties in a relationship. Because even white boys are sweet. When they evaluate their girlfriends, they will only honestly say mediocre words such as gorgeous, and will never exaggerate to use irreplaceable words such as in the cloud. I remember that seniors always dare to set goals for themselves and pursue them boldly. At the university graduation dinner, she took a fancy to a pair of jimmy choo high heels. I think now, even though she has shoes in her hand, her steps are steady.

My undergraduate stage is still like high school life after the successful burden reduction. Even if everyone is in love, it is a green campus. However, in North America, teenage girls face adult social places, such as dancing and climbing stairs. Of course, they need to choose the sexiest clothes to arm themselves. Of course, they need to train their eyes and gestures to tease men. Just as we rank in exams and apply for GPA, socialization is an important part of American universities. It is on these occasions that they deal with the comparison and competition with their peers. I think this adult education is very important. Every party queen will be the most successful PR lady in the future. Imagine that a senior member of a sorority in a private university seems to have to deal with dozens of corporate heirs when holding a party. At the same time, his flirting skills are enriched and his social skills are not boasted.

In private universities, the most common love among international students is mostly the past between the rich second generation and the official second generation. I still can't forget it. I once witnessed a 18 freshman girl accepting her boyfriend's breakup proposal on the phone. She fell into the quilt and cried, tears streaming down the sheets. However, after a while, she walked out of the room, greeted us casually, and then had dinner together. She was still smiling when she was eating. The love of foreign students, no matter how old, is like a child when it comes to feelings. Because studying abroad doesn't involve work pressure, you don't need to buy a house, you don't need to be troubled by trivial matters and daily necessities, and life is simple and love is difficult. Because, for a young man, they no longer have close relatives and friends around them, and the focus of their life is only a boyfriend (girlfriend). Boys and girls in their late teens know how to date strangers and teach themselves to flirt. These, when I was in college, I just couldn't imagine.

Maybe I'm shallow-minded Among China people, I haven't seen many who can successfully join sororities and fraternities. However, people in China also climb many ladders. A bottle of chivas regal, a bottle of vodka, two cases of beer and a few bottles of orange juice are enough to support a party lasting eight or nine hours. It starts at ten in the evening and ends at five in the morning. A deck of playing cards, a boring game of kings, is all the social activities of overseas students in China. I have been to a famous white party in the circle. She and her sisters are wearing Valentino heels and holding McQueen's handbag at home. Gao Fushuai on the opposite sofa is kenzo or Givenchy's sweater. There is fashion, but it's a pity that some fashionable places are home. When social life retreats to the living room of the apartment, the love life field of North American students is really simple enough.

Many young students from China met on the ladder and exchanged WeChat with each other. After going out for a few dates, WeChat became a boyfriend and girlfriend after chatting for a month. Efficient people can call each other "husband" and "wife" in a week or two. It's a pity that I haven't seen many couples who can go to the end. Studying abroad is an adventure in life. The high tuition fees brought by children studying abroad, cold families and helpless children are all signs of unhappy life. For young couples, it is a comfort to meet each other in a foreign country and then "fall in love".

At this point, I suspect that I am digressing. North American love story, why I can't write love. Starting with shoes, I'm talking about matching the material conditions of love. Speaking of social circles and parties, this is a field of writing North American love stories. Am I writing about love? Think again, even if it is a love story in Beijing, how much love is there? It's not that I don't believe in love, but it's hard for me to evaluate love. Next, let's talk about how to get along in love.

I used to have a good impression on male doctors. My eyes lit up when I heard about the prestigious doctor. Because I worship knowledge and talent. But after coming to America, I have some other views on male doctors in North America. First of all, most male doctors are science and engineering doctors, and almost all of them live on scholarships and meager wages issued by their tutors. Some boys, almost 30 years old, haven't graduated from the doctor, and have been working for the boss. Such a boy, living in torment and under pressure, how can you make him in the mood to talk about his preferences with others? Even if some of them are budding, they are not clear about their present situation and future development. Because there are fewer people in China, doctors, masters and undergraduates in the same school have more contacts. I know several male doctors, and I have found undergraduates over eight years old to fall in love and live together. The most ridiculous thing is that last month, I heard that a male doctor was approaching 30. Because he took care of a girl 18 years old who just came to the United States to study as a freshman, they became lovers. Two people who have been together for less than a month actually live together. At that time, I thought there was something wrong with this boy's personality. If you think this is beyond reproach after reading this, please throw away my book. We have different views.

Anyone with normal logic will be alert to the situation of a 18-year-old girl coming to the United States for the first time. I graduated from college when I came to America, and my English was good. Of course, I can handle all the problems. But I will be grateful to those boys who occasionally help me when I experience trivial troubles such as renting a house, buying furniture, assembling furniture, shopping on foot, cooking at home, and learning discomfort. Because, in America, everyone takes care of their own lives, and you will cherish those who have the energy to help you. However, the boys who can help you also have their own motives. You just came here, so your English is not good. He takes you through all kinds of formalities. You just got here. Don't you have a car? He drives to and from school every day. You just arrived. Are you homesick? He listens to your troubles for free. A simple 18-year-old girl lives with a 30-year-old male doctor. That girl, just graduated from high school, knows nothing. Any 30-year-old man with rich life experience is enough to be her life mentor.

After talking about simple female classmates, let's talk about simple male doctors. I know a male doctor, who is nice, but his family condition is not good. He wanted to pursue an undergraduate course, but after he was rejected, he tried again. The reason why girls refuse is that "the family background is completely different and there is a gap in life." Personally, I think this girl thinks very clearly. Boys are cute, but not realistic enough. The girl he likes loves famous products, pursues quality life and knows nothing about her major. The spiritual communication between the two is almost zero, and the boys are not handsome enough. How can a girl give him a hard time with her own eyes?

I also dated a male doctor. I had dinner and Japanese food first. I ordered a salad and he ordered several plates of seafood. After a meal, I shared the bill with him and he didn't object. Besides, he asked the waiter to pack up the sushi he didn't eat and take it away. So, on the first date with him, I only ate a salad of 10, and I had to pay 50 dollars for his meal. I'm not worried about my fifty dollars, but worried about him.

This male doctor is exactly thirty years old this year, and his emotional intelligence is so low in love. Because I am a "bad guy", I only dare to spit behind my back. I went to the movies with him after dinner. He bought a ticket first, and when he came over, I found that he only bought a movie ticket. At that moment, I was really embarrassed. When I bought the ticket, the black aunt who sold the ticket was worthless to me and whispered to me, "I just confirmed with that young man that I just want to buy a movie ticket." He has the courage to say yes. "I actually laughed out loud. That movie is also a science fiction movie he wants to see. Really boring, but uncharacteristically sleepy and restless. I can't wait to get up and leave at once. In other words, this 30-year-old male doctor is also a friend who can get along in life. However, as a boyfriend, he is Takeshi Kaneshiro, and I won't agree.

From my example, we can draw several facts:

1) Different family backgrounds. To be a couple, you should start with friends and do true love.

2) Different consumption concepts make lovers need to be cautious;

3) A boy is stupid no matter how high his IQ is or how low his EQ is.

You can ask me, if that boy is Gao Fushuai, and he won't feel bad about money, then I'll treat you to a meal. However, before having dinner with him, I knew the present situation of his poor family. I still promised to have dinner with him. Then, this meal, for me, is to give him a chance to show his other qualities. To put it bluntly, as long as he plays a normal role, treats people politely, and confuses me with my favorite knowledge of mathematics or physics, I will definitely treat him differently.

Finally, tell me the warmest story I have ever heard. When I first came to America, I met a helpful couple. The boy is a doctor. He has been in the United States for three years, finished his graduate studies, and is now a second-year doctor. His girlfriend is his college classmate, and the graduate students are studying in China. The two have been in love for more than three years. Just this year, the girl got a PhD offer from a university in the same state. They will get married in America at the end of the year. Seeing the stories of so many male doctors such as Lao Wang and Lao Zhang, the story of the doctor couple can be said to be very warm. I once saw them on campus. Both of them wore T-shirts, jeans and sneakers and went to the library hand in hand. I looked at their backs and almost shed tears.

I think, in North America, love is hard to be firm. Because, after returning to China, the dust settled. After the dust settles, things may be different. However, if you do, please don't disappoint your love. No stage of life will lose its meaning because of the next twists and turns. No matter whether it is a year or a semester, what kind of people you love and what efforts you make for them will change your own lifestyle and your inner self.

I also hope that students who are going to study abroad after reading this article will make some realistic expectations for your life in North America. Not everyone can walk the red carpet in glass shoes. Sometimes, you spend 1000 yuan to buy it, but it is just a pair of glass shoes that squeeze your feet. After a few steps, they will break and pierce your feet. Please don't regret wasted youth, and please don't regret past stupidity. At the same time, I also want to tell you that space is as precious as time. This is the advantage of studying abroad. You can live in different countries and build your own new space. This new space will give you a different breadth of life.

So, love. Better love, love hard, the premise is-fall in love with someone you think is worth it. Of course, please don't compromise too much when you love him. Because, a person who has not entered the society will never be a qualified adult. A person, who doesn't know his social value and has no social orientation, how can he correctly position your existence in the planning? An individual is an individual.

Living in North America, the personal value is constantly magnified in loneliness. Please cherish yourself and seriously think about the value and significance of love.