Friends who experienced depression in high school, can you tell your story? How to adjust mood?

I have never experienced depression, but I have been depressed.

It's not that serious, but I feel sad every day. Every day, sad feelings always overwhelm me. I can't sleep at night, want to die, feel that I can't do anything well, and always deny myself ... I think many people have felt this way.

Tell me how I solved it and how I got out of such a dark day.

Hope can also bring you warmth and strength. Similarly, in the case of depression, writing down your feelings can also relieve yourself well. I wrote a whole diary in high school. I write every time I am depressed, and it will be much easier after I finish.

I hope my answer can help you who are depressed.

The experience of patients with depression can only be understood by those who have experienced it. Of course, professionals like us can understand. Many people think I'm talking big. In fact, many times consultants need to listen to consultants when consulting.

In fact, this questioner is helpless and has a certain sense of shame, hoping to get more help, so he sent this question. I also hope to have such a group to share their stories, regardless of the current situation. In fact, the process of sharing is self-treatment.

In addition, patients with depression can receive psychological counseling later, and they can also improve their ability to adjust their emotions by learning some skills.

Depression is not the same as depression. Depression has depression, but depression is not necessarily depression. Depression can be self-regulated, that is, everyone will be depressed for several days every month, and the duration of depression is relatively short. It is possible to feel comfortable when you wake up the next day, and depression is different. Depression sometimes appears continuously, and sometimes alternately, such as the morning is heavy and the night is light. I have experienced depression myself, and I am also a psychological counselor. Depression needs to go to the hospital for examination and be treated with drugs and psychology. Depression is a physical and mental disease composed of many factors. First of all, I admit that I am sick. The treatment process varies from person to person. For example, I have physical reactions during my own depression, some physical symptoms, diarrhea, and bad stomach, and I always feel that I have physical diseases. I went to the hospital for various examinations to rule out physical illness, and then I was not interested in anything, didn't socialize, shut myself up at home, lost sleep, and people became very indifferent. I don't know why I am alive, I can't find the meaning of living, I tried to commit suicide ... This is my experience of depression, and it took me four or five years to get out.

The truth of all so-called mental diseases such as depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, mania, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia.

Psychological and mental problems are very serious social phenomena at present, especially among children, which makes people feel sad. How many people are in despair, how many families are on the verge of collapse, and most people are still in the dark and don't know the truth and the way out. That's terrible!

What I want to tell you is that all the so-called psychological and mental problems, no matter what type, no matter how serious, no matter how complicated the symptoms are, actually do not exist at all. Why are these so-called mental diseases so difficult to cure? Because we have been solving a non-existent problem, how to solve it? The result will only cause more and more serious problems. Obviously, all negative emotions are normal emotions that everyone has, just like breathing. If you have to solve it, you can only solve your life, which is why many people finally choose to go to a dead end. Most people will let go of negative emotions quickly, but we can't. We must solve it, even if the larger foe breaks through, the result will be more and more serious. As we all know, there is no need to solve the problem unless it is solved. No matter how hard life is, there is nothing to let go of. When you leave this world, you can't take anything away.

Life is a drama, so why be so serious and bother yourself.

In fact, there are many people worse off than you in reality. Most people don't take it seriously or answer it. We not only pick it up, but also don't want to put it down. As long as you put it down, there will be no pain. If we can't let go, there's nothing anyone can do. But there is a painful way. Suffering is enough, and you will naturally let go.

I want to tell you that it is a very wrong choice to choose to end your life. Ending life is not the end of pain, but just the beginning of another endless pain. Life will never end, and every life has its meaning.

Anyway, what is the essence and truth of these so-called psychological and spiritual problems? Knowing this, all the so-called psychological and spiritual problems are solved. Because it doesn't actually exist, of course, there is nothing to solve.

Some people say, how can it not exist? The problems we face in reality are as real as the pain we bear in our hearts. We just can't sleep, our symptoms and diseases are real, I just can't see any hope of life, and so on. These pains obviously exist. Isn't it self-deception to say that it doesn't exist?

Yes, everything is so real to you. What I want to say is that these so-called real situations are only results, not causes, but also superficial phenomena, not essence. They are not static. To solve these so-called psychological and spiritual problems, we must start from the root causes. Whether through psychological counseling or drug therapy, everyone is using phenomena to solve phenomena and problems to solve problems. Instead of solving the problem, it will continue to worsen.

All psychological and mental problems, no matter what kind of negative emotions, will be manifested as uncontrollable thoughts, constant thinking, unable to eat, unable to sleep, physical and mental fatigue. They just want to understand that the more they think about it, the more uncontrollable the vicious circle will be until it collapses. This is because in this process, our energy will gradually run out and we will lose the ability to control our own thinking more and more. In the end, even our own lives will be given up, which is an illusion of low energy state. In that energy state, even a sesame seed will become a mountain and crush itself.

In this case, only by increasing energy can it be changed. This energy is not only eating and resting, but more importantly, it is to stop the erosion of negative energy (negative thinking) and constantly improve positive energy. To break the vicious circle, stop thinking (you will never think about it, and you will never think about the result) and turn to positive thinking to save energy. With positive energy, you can control your own thinking and everything in your life. With positive energy, the problem that bothered you in the past has changed from watermelon to sesame.

So how do you stop thinking? We just can't help thinking! In fact, we can't control our thoughts because negative energy (all negative emotions) is so powerful that we are controlled by negative energy. Because different people have different negative emotions, physical symptoms are more strange, and there are all kinds of so-called psychological and mental problems, in fact, the essence is the same.

As long as the essence is grasped, all the so-called psychological and spiritual problems naturally do not exist and do not need to be solved at all, because there is nothing to solve. No matter what your situation is, no matter how serious it is, no matter how real and difficult the real problem is, no matter how serious your health is, even if you are terminally ill, there is only one root cause and one solution. Find the root cause, all the problems in life are soap bubbles.

What is the root cause? The fundamental reason lies in the wrong three views and the wrong pursuit of value. At present, it can be said that 99% people in the world are pursuing the wrong things. Pursue material things, all kinds of desires, pornography, unfilial, do not cherish life, only know to take but do not know the meaning of life is to give rather than take, and have pressure (have to pursue a specific goal or requirement). Because of these wrong views, every thought, every word and every action in our hearts are directed at desires and needs. There must be a desire behind every negative emotion. There are also many parents who impose these misconceptions on their children, blaming others for hurting their children and blaming themselves. All our desires and negative emotions are negative energy, which will be constantly entangled and amplified. In the end, positive energy will be less and less, and even we will be proud of negative energy and ashamed of positive energy. Isn't this a common phenomenon in modern society? Why do most people live in pain? This is the general source. Everyone's performance is different, some are physically ill, some are mentally ill, some encounter setbacks or disasters, and so on.

When we get the so-called mental illness, we begin to blame others, think that we are unlucky and think that heaven is unfair. In fact, God is the fairest. Every mistake you make, you have to bear it yourself. And everyone is choosing to avoid responsibility, but how can they escape? Some people want to talk to a psychological counselor, but actually talking is releasing negative energy, which will not only solve the problem, but also attract more negative energy. Some people hope to solve it through drugs. It's obviously a matter of heart. How to solve the drug? Isn't that ridiculous? Others want someone to help them. How does the other person in your heart make it work? How can others understand your whimsy under negative emotions?

You live in a dream and only wake up. Who can interpret dreams? Wake up. What's the problem?

To solve this problem, you must first understand where you are wrong and that no one is punishing you. It's all your own fault. The universe is the fairest. If you are still happy when you are wrong, it is really unreasonable. In fact, it's nobody's fault outside, it's all your own fault. Don't complain, just reflect on yourself. The theory of family origin simply doesn't exist. Are harmful. You decide your own destiny, so don't give yourself any reasons or excuses. Don't think that it is caused by all practical problems such as family environment, others bullying you, interpersonal tension, lack of money, stress, physical illness and so on. Wrong, these problems are also phenomena, the result of three wrong views, the result of the same root as your psychological and mental problems, all appearances, and all have the same root of mistakes. Even if these problems are solved, your psychological and spiritual problems still exist, and there will be bigger problems to remind you.

Every pain reminds you that you are wrong and makes you turn around quickly. Once you look back, pain loses its value of existence. The sea of misery is boundless, and turning back is the shore. As long as you don't look back, the pain will follow you. Behind every pain, there is a persistence and a desire. Only let go of persistence and desire. The past is the past, and everything is of my own making. No one has hurt you, and no one can hurt you. Accept what you are facing. This is the result of what you have done in the past and cannot be changed. What we can do now is to recognize our mistakes and correct them. From now on, keep positive thoughts, words and behaviors, stop spreading and releasing negative energy, including at home and on the Internet, starting from the side, starting from small things, starting from housework, helping others, dedicating yourself, letting go of selfishness, desire, material desire, honoring parents, cherishing all life and fearing nature. These are the true meaning of life, returning to humanity. Where will there be any psychological and mental problems? Where are the life problems to be solved? Where does it hurt? What's unfair?

Also, parents with children's problems, please let their children go, let them go, don't care too much, give them a correct outlook on life education, give them freedom, and don't give them too much pressure. Internet generation, less contact with video games, pornographic websites and other addictive things, stop killing children with drugs! ! !

Finally, I can tell you that I used to be a so-called serious mental patient for more than twenty years, no matter how desperate and helpless I was. Now, I have been born again. I hope to share my experience gained with blood and tears with you, and I hope to help more people who are still trapped in the bottomless abyss of pain come out. I hope to save more families and children on the verge of collapse.

Thinking that you have so-called psychological and spiritual problems and trying to solve them is the real cause and beginning of all the pain. With the process of solving, the pain is getting bigger and bigger. This is the fundamental difference between normal people and so-called mental patients. All real problems in life are the same, and not solving them is the best solution. Do nothing. Do nothing. Most people have done it backwards, so it's miserable.

Many people say they can't let go. Nothing can't be let go. People have to put it down when they die. No one can take it away. If you don't put it down, you will continue to suffer on your back. There is no choice, and no one can help you put it down. The only way to let go is to accept, accept what others and yourself have experienced, and accept everything that may happen!

Friends with feelings, I hope everyone will forward more. Helping others is helping yourself.

Read quietly, preferably "Life Graduation Ceremony".

Adjustment is only to ease, and we must fundamentally and completely reverse the direction of life! Get out of here completely! I've been depressed for almost 20 years, learning from Li Jiaqi, a teacher from Happy Life College! Find the right direction in life! Everything is fine now!

People with qi deficiency, yang deficiency and blood stasis are prone to depression. Don't think of it as a psychological problem yet. It's actually a physical problem. Through the conditioning of Chinese medicine, depression will naturally stop.

Find a small notebook and fill it with your feelings about society and the country. Burn it immediately after writing, and your mood will recover the fastest.

Another year. Thank you for your hard work.

○ Positive and negative effects of thinking

The positive and negative effects of thinking prove that thinking is the same, which leads to different situations and results in the brain. For example, when you were a child, you were smart and your thinking was smart. When you go to college, you spend a long time thinking, but there are people who are stupid, slow and persistent in learning. The human brain can think independently. Some people in life have physiological habits of thinking and understanding. Once something flows into their hearts, their brains can't stop thinking, and they don't want to think about it, but they just can't control it, because their brains will unconsciously think about their sad past. Because I want to form a physiological habit, I turn unconsciously, because I want to use it alone. This is why people who are anxious and depressed are always thinking about things. Physical reasons are also people.

○ So what's the difference between people knowing things with thoughts and not knowing things with thoughts?

Please verify the following phenomena in reality! ! !

○ 1. Can you see the color of the text in front of you when reading silently?

When you see the font color, are you trying to read silently? Do you want to stop?

Can you see the color of words when you are thinking and typing?

4. When you look at (see) the color of the letters in front of you and type at the same time, are you thinking? Can you get rid of physical habits when thinking?

5. Look at those mental patients who are slow to respond and act slowly. You ask them, do you do things while thinking? For example, how do you want to cook while cutting vegetables? You asked them about cutting vegetables. Do you see the color of the object in front of you? For example: the color of the dish, the color of the cutting board?

When people's eyes see the color of the picture (object) in front of them, they think it will stop. Then when you think about things, you can stop thinking by looking at the color, find things once, look at the color once, stop thinking once, find and correct once, just like getting rid of your bad habits, but it takes time to change your physiological consciousness of thinking and understanding, about 3 years and 9 months. You can also use color, because you look at the color of objects and realize that your thoughts are useless when doing things. Look at the color in front of you and act, so as to change the physiological habit of thinking while reading silently and doing what you want to do.

○ This is just a brain fan caused by the negative influence of thinking, and future generations may not necessarily think about it, because there are many reasons for brain fans.