What topics do really smart women know to avoid when chatting with people?

What topics do really smart women know to avoid when chatting with people? In the adult world, there are no easy words. It is not easy for you to do one thing well, nor is it easy for you to solve your feelings with others. So we are cautious and very afraid of making mistakes. When we talk to others, we should also understand: "disaster comes from the mouth, and disease comes from the mouth." You must know how to talk to people and talk nonsense. In addition, you can't talk about some sensitive topics with others.

A lot of things are done, the more the better, but sometimes talking too much is not a good thing. When chatting with people, most women with high emotional intelligence know how to avoid the following three topics.

0 1. Family Conflicts Everyone has a difficult book to read. Your family is a little difficult, and others are a little bad. It is difficult for an honest official to break housework. Sometimes a person always complains about many things at home in front of others. When this person complains about this kind of thing, you may feel that the other person believes you. So you may have said a lot to each other, but you don't know it. Sometimes some of your words will make others feel uncomfortable.

Don't go through the hardships of others, and don't persuade people to be good. When you live in this family, you will find this person not easy. Sometimes what others say will make you feel uncomfortable. Because you think this person is always complaining about some things at home, maybe you have given this person some persuasion. But you don't know that these persuasion will make people feel worse. People will think that you don't understand at all, and they will think that they trust you so much, but you are not on your side yet.

However, if you are partial to this person and say something flattering, it will be bad to slander the other family. In that case, this person thinks that you are creating family conflicts for yourself and that you are not doing a good job, so this is not a good thing for you.

This means that no matter what you say, this person has his own ideas in his heart. Although others say some differences in his family, they may grin at some people, but you should know that this is also someone else's home, even if this person is annoying. But this person will also have such a tendency: only allow himself to say that his family is not very good, but if others say that his family is not very good, this person will be particularly unhappy.

Therefore, when chatting with people, we must avoid talking about family conflicts. If you say it, it may cause others' anxiety, sometimes it may bring inconvenience to yourself and you may lose this friend. What is even more frightening is that talking too much may involve some things in the other person's family. In that case, it is indeed a particularly bloody thing, and it is not good for yourself at all.

02. Money problem Everyone can't avoid some money grievances, but if you have no money grievances with this person, you must avoid talking about some money problems with others. A friend wanted to borrow money from me before, but this good friend was embarrassed to ask, so he told me something about money in a roundabout way, even though the other person was my friend. But after disappearing for many years, the other party never contacted me actively. After this meeting, the other party actually talked to me about money, and I felt something was wrong.

After talking, sure enough, the other party wanted to lend me 50 thousand. I didn't have 50 thousand at that time, but the other party always wanted me to find a way, so I borrowed 50 thousand from the other party Moreover, I lent this 50,000 yuan to my relatives and friends to each other. Later, I asked the other party for money, and the other party's attitude was not very good. I asked each other four or five times, but Dunfang didn't give it to me.

Two or three years passed quickly. During the two or three years here, I kept asking for money from the other side, but the money didn't come. The other party hacked my phone number and all my micro signals and QQ. At that moment, I realized that there are people in this world who really love money and can do anything for it.

Therefore, people should avoid being greedy for money, not only because you are afraid of others asking you for money, but sometimes when you talk about money with others, others may think that you want to borrow money from others, which will make both of them very embarrassed. Sometimes you will tell others how much money your family has. At this time, the speaker is unintentional, and the listener is likely to be intentional. People may think you are showing off. In that case, it's not good for you either. It may also alienate your feelings more and more, and there will be some misunderstandings in your heart.

When some women are with others, they always talk about how expensive a dress is and where they bought a pair of shoes in recent days. If you say this to others, you may think it is normal, but others will think you are attacking yourself severely, so don't say these words. This kind of thing is also related to money. If our relationship is not particularly good, we must keep our mouth shut.

03. Things that make others unhappy Some people have very high emotional intelligence. Chatting with a person, they know how to observe faces and colors. When they see a person unhappy, then that person will stop talking about these things. But some people don't understand this, and what they say is a little sensitive, which makes others unhappy, but this person continues to talk, and it is very likely that people will ignore you later, and you don't see what they mean.

When people get along with each other, they must not touch the ugly scenes of others. For example, this person used to have some bad habits. At this time, you must not mention them. If you bring it up, the other party will be particularly unhappy.

For example, the children of this family have been admitted to a particularly good college, but as soon as you hear that the children's majors are not good, tell the other party that their majors are not very good. Although the college is good, it is particularly difficult for students to find jobs after graduation. If you say so, it can be said that you are throwing cold water on this person and disturbing the happiness of others. Others think that children may be worried about their future development. Sometimes people will think that you are jealous of your children, so they will gradually get away from you in the future.

It's better to keep something in your heart than to say it. Because you think others will feel worse after going out, you must avoid topics that others don't want to mention. If you can't get around it sometimes, just mention a word or two, instead of saying it all the time.

Women with high emotional intelligence will avoid the above three topics when chatting with people. Sometimes talking too much will be bad for others and will make others feel depressed. But more often, it will make you worse. Obviously you are kind, but in the end you are so kind that you become a donkey's liver and lung. Therefore, we must be cautious.