Stepmother: I have served your father for so many years, and I have a share in the inheritance. What do you think of this matter?

Uncle Huo has an only son. At that time, there were relatively few only children, and there was such a precious son at home who was loved and loved.

My son is smart, independent and independent. He has a job since he was a child, and his academic performance is good. In the eyes of parents, the son is definitely a child who can "achieve great things" in the future.

The son lived up to his parents' expectations. It seems that I was admitted to a key university without any effort, and found a fairly good job after graduation.

My son didn't get married until he was in his thirties. His parents urged him many times. Uncle Huo wants to have grandchildren early, but his son's idea is to take care of his family first and then consider personal problems. According to the son's words:

"Mom and Dad, you raised me from childhood to work, and I can't eat your flowers any more. I earn my own money, honor you and support myself. I want to find a daughter-in-law and a filial one. "

For this matter, Uncle Huo lost his temper with his son several times. Sometimes, when he was in a hurry, his son wouldn't let him go, and the father and son quarreled a lot.

My son keeps his word. After working for several years, I got promoted quickly and got higher and higher income. Then I talked about a girlfriend, and they hit it off. This just got married, which is a worry of Uncle Huo.

Daughter-in-law knows filial piety very well and makes the old couple happy every day. Uncle Huo shows off intentionally or unintentionally in front of his old colleagues from time to time:

"It is said that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult, and the cut in our family is closer to daughter-in-law than daughter. My son is good, promising and promising. "

My son seldom cares about money. On holidays, parents are given a big red envelope. Husband and wife blind date, gave their parents everything to their daughter-in-law; For my parents-in-law, my sons are here. Their idea is clear: isn't it just to make the old people feel at ease and comfortable by showing more in front of their parents?

Therefore, the success of a family lies not in how much money it has, but in how deep feelings it has.

Family members who intend to "be mistresses" and have conflicts with their sons will always come in and out.

Uncle Huo is over seventy years old and intends to find another wife. At that time, the original match had just left for about three years.

When Uncle Huo talked to his son about this idea, his son didn't accept it emotionally:

"Dad, my mother has just left for two or three years, and you are thinking about remarriage. Are you sorry for my mother? Besides, you are so old. Why should someone come over? Born in peace.

Dad, are you worried that there is no one around to wait on you? Tell me, how is my son? When did I not run home every three days when my mother was still here? My mother is gone, and you're worried that I don't care about you? "

Although the son speaks a little impulsively, he is really filial to his parents. Although the son has no right to interfere with his father's remarriage, his feelings for his mother are psychologically contradictory.

At first, Mr Uncle sit through and discuss with his son:

"I'll find a wife to wait on me, won't it also reduce your troubles?"

Don't say ok, son a listen to these words more unhappy:

"Dad, if you really think so, I am more opposed.

Are you looking for a wife just to serve you? What do you make people think? I'm just asking, if someone comes to you and asks you to serve in the past, will you? "

Said a few times to no avail, Mr Uncle also nasty:

"I coaxed to discuss with you, see you to this one. Do you want me to call the shots? Don't tell me these useless things! "

Uncle Huo didn't listen to his son's advice and found a "young" wife, six years younger than him.

The matter has been settled, and the son didn't say anything. He can only continue to do what he should do-go back to see his father and aunt regularly, handle some household chores for the elderly, and still give red envelopes to the elderly on holidays. ...

At first, in the son's view, the relationship between father and stepmother is good, and the stepmother is at least close to herself in attitude.

Looking back, it is also true that people, regardless of their age, have spiritual needs. At the beginning, my own objection said that I would not accept my father's remarriage psychologically because of my feelings for my mother; It may be selfish to put yourself in others' shoes-just from your own point of view, without considering your father's spiritual desire.

But in any case, for his father's remarriage, his son always has a small knot in his heart.

Father's words don't count. In a blink of an eye, it has been more than two years since my father remarried.

One night after work, my son bought some fresh vegetables for his father. As soon as the door opened, the living room was dark and the lights were on. The son subconsciously shouted "Dad", and the father replied in his ear, which startled his son:

"Dad, are you there? Why don't you turn on the light when it's dark? "

The son turned on the light and the father sat on the sofa next to him. The son glanced at the dining table, which was empty. Nervously asked:

"What's the matter? What's the matter? Why don't you cook so late? "

The words sound just fell and aunt came out of the room:

"I can't afford to wait on your father!"

Apparently, they quarreled. It seems that the body should be fine. Son slightly wider tone, ask a way:

"What's the matter?"

No one spoke, and after a while, the stepmother spoke first:

"Ask your dad!"

Say that finish twist a head into the house, locked the door.

Uncle Huo looked at his son and said:

"It's okay, make a little uncomfortable, it's not a big deal. Go home if you have nothing to do. "

In this case, how can my son go back? Touching into the kitchen, I simply cooked something to eat and called my aunt to eat, but she ignored me. The father and son were relatively silent, so they simply ate a little and the son went back.

My son has been thinking about it for the next few days. Aunt's words are reasonable, definitely not because of simple life trivia. I called my father several times to ask about the situation, and I have been prevaricating. Later, I was forced to tell my son the truth:

"When I was looking for your aunt, she offered to add her name to the house, for fear that I would not be guaranteed if I walked first. I thought about it and agreed. "

Hearing this, the son understood and asked 1:

"Did you really think so?"

Mr Uncle paused, come up to two words:

"No."

My son is in a hurry.

"Dad, you see you do this!

How can you just promise this? How do you think? The house is not yours alone, but yours and my mother's! What does this have to do with her?

To say the least, since you promised, you won't do it. Isn't that a lie? "

Uncle Huo heard the tone of his son's questioning and complaining, and his anger came up again:

"After your aunt came over, eating and drinking Lazarus took my money. What happened to her? If you have to talk about the house, aren't you thinking about my property? So toss, leave! "

My son didn't want to do what his father did at first. Since my father insists, forget it with the wishes of the old man. Who knows father is still so fussy. What are you doing with these things?

From a more objective point of view, my father's motives are not much better. Of course, this condition put forward by my aunt was not kind to my son.

4 property, I agree to give you this matter, my son is very difficult to deal with.

Encourage father to divorce? There seems to be some disagreement; Ask father to add aunt's name to the house? It is even more unacceptable. The helpless choice can only be that they live as they like and do their duty as sons.

Since then, every time my son goes back, he always feels particularly uncomfortable.

A few years later, Uncle Huo passed away.

After handling the matter, the aunt took the initiative to find her son and talk about the division of the estate.

"Your father should tell you to add my name to the house. After all these years, I didn't cash it when I left. I didn't mean anything by it. I just want someone to lean on. I should share the property left by your father. I want to live in this house. What do you think is too much? "

About the father, or the inheritance of parents, the son didn't think of it until his father remarried. Aunt so direct, son also there is no need to hide:

"This house belongs to my parents. There is my mother's share in it. After mom left, I had 1/4, and dad had 3/4.

Now that my dad is gone, according to the law, you and I should share 3/4 of my dad, you have 3/8 and I have 5/8. "

Aunt disagreed.

"Your father has promised to add my name to the household registration book. This house is half that of your father and me. Now that your father is gone, you can only take half of him and half is mine.

You said that, which makes my aunt very chilling. Waiting on your dad for so long ... "

After listening to these words, my son really disliked the aunt in front of him.

"You're welcome to say, you don't have to say that you are so poor. You are not kind at all, and my father is a little impure. So this is what I just proposed. No one should say anything. This is in line with the law.

You can stay if you like. After all, you took care of my dad all these years. If you don't want to live, I'll give you how much your share is worth and transfer the house to me.

Two options, you choose. "

Aunt is angry:

"Your family is not kind!"

The son didn't explain anything, but simply replied:

"I admit that my dad's ideas and practices have problems. After all, you have no good intentions. How to choose, you decide. "

Conclusion According to the law, a son should not interfere with his father's remarriage.

However, I have to say that as children, no matter what considerations, it is inevitable that they will put forward their own views, ideas and even concerns about their parents' remarriage in their later years.

Let's start with Mr. Huo. According to the reason why Uncle Huo remarried, it is really hard for his son to accept it. One is my feelings for my mother, and the other is a very important reason. A son has principles. One of my father's motives for finding a wife is to find someone to wait on him. He has already found someone six years younger than him. So the son thinks that his father's motives are not pure.

Tell me more about my aunt. At that time, I remarried with Uncle Huo on condition that my name was added to the real estate license. It is said that she wants to live a stable life. Can you say that she doesn't want to divide the property? The more critical issue is that Mr. Huo actually agreed, but failed to deliver. So, menstruation felt cheated-who is the reason, who is the result, who can make it clear?

So the conclusion is: neither side is kind.

As a son, in desperation, he can only choose to respect the law.

This is a problem that remarried families are likely to face in their later years. Uncle Huo's property belongs to his premarital property and has nothing to do with his remarried spouse. But once he dies and inherits, the other party has the legal right of inheritance and can have the right of division.

In reality, it is estimated that most children are unwilling to accept such a result-after all, property is earned by their parents, and they are also very filial to their parents, so they should not be so willing to be separated by a person who does not have much feelings and has no contribution to family property.

According to Chinese law, children should not interfere with their parents' decisions of divorce and remarriage. Freedom of marriage. From this perspective, remarriage in old age seems to have nothing to do with children. However, it should be noted that remarriage in old age is not a matter for two people, but the relationship between parents, children and stepparents. It is unreasonable to separate either side.

Through this matter, there are several points to share with you:

1. The purpose of remarriage is very important.

I hope every old man can live a happy life in his later years-filial piety and caring for husband and wife. However, we must find out what the purpose of remarriage is. Uncle Huo, the motive is to find someone to serve. Can you expect the other person to get something for nothing? Aunt, for example, regards property distribution as a condition for remarriage. Can you expect Uncle Huo, including his son, to believe that it is "pure" sunset love?

Therefore, it's my own reason that the purpose is different and whether the result is satisfactory or not. Don't blame others.

2. The interests of remarried spouses and children should be taken into account when the elderly remarry.

It is wrong to simply give all your property to your child without considering the other person, or to give your property to the other person without considering the child.

Families who remarry in their later years should take into account two "responsibilities" at the same time-to the remarried wife and to the children.

The remarried wife is the one who accompanied her through the last journey, and she can't "dump her when she's finished". Don't give it to your children. Attention means filial piety, leaving too much trouble. From the perspective of property, on the premise of pure motivation, realize the interests of both parties-

Solve the problem of property distribution by will. You can choose to leave your property to your children, but ask them to do their duty to support their stepparents, or keep their right to live in the property-make an effective and conditional will; You can also choose to leave the property to your children and give some liquid assets (such as cash) to your wife-the inheritance of the property is relatively troublesome and more likely to cause disputes.

Don't place your hopes on legal succession.