Self-cultivation of a middle-aged woman

After the reading volume of A Day for Middle-aged Women exceeded 500, the writing enthusiasm increased greatly. After all, my circle of friends is only 39 1 person, and one third of them are blocked by me, which means that half of my friends have read or forwarded articles on it. I appreciate it and send you a sister article.

Like stanislavski in the actor's self-cultivation? Say the same thing: actors, like soldiers, must abide by iron discipline. I think an excellent middle-aged woman is probably the same.

The first rule of self-cultivation for middle-aged women

Have the ability to support themselves.

Recently, I reached such a * * * insight at the small-scale middle-aged women's tucao conference hosted by me. Most middle-aged women think that spending other people's husbands' money is the least painful (violating morality and resolutely resisting); Spending old people's money is second (of course, marrying into a rich family is a matter of luck and face value); Spending her husband's money will be more painful; The most painful thing is to spend your father's money; The most confident thing is to spend the money you earn. How to improve the ability to earn money, I won't go into details here, after all, I'm not good at it either.

Self-cultivation of Middle-aged Women Part II

Have aesthetic ability

Zhu Guangqian, a master of Chinese studies, said in Talking about Beauty that life is a relatively extensive art, and everyone's life history is his own work. How to construct one's life history depends on one's aesthetic ability.

I have always insisted on sending my daughter to study art because I was once shocked by such a scene. One of my Taurus girlfriends showed me around her studio. Two double-bed sized drawing papers almost occupy a wall, surrounded by all kinds of pigments, oh no, pigments. A picture of a ship sailing slowly appeared on the drawing. I still remember the light in my best friend's eyes. She studied painting since she was a child, not only in large-scale works, but also in aesthetic vision, even in the manual work of parent-child classes in kindergarten. This has strengthened my determination to let my daughter learn art. Even if girls don't take the road of professional study, they can learn more about some aesthetic foundations, at least in matching clothes.

In life, it is not difficult to find that there are always some women around us who are inexpensive to buy clothes, but they are self-contained and natural; The home area is small, but the decoration is unique and unforgettable; Life is not expensive, but life is enjoyable and self-satisfied. Look, the aesthetics of middle-aged women are everywhere.

Self-cultivation of Middle-aged Women Part III

Have the ability to make overall plans.

According to incomplete statistics, the unread news in my circle of friends can reach three digits in half a day, all from more than 20 groups in my WeChat, including daughters, sons, classes, extracurricular activities, work units, friends, family members and parents ... There are many kinds of temporary organizations, such as hosting crowds and cheerleading. Task of children's class group: 1. Remember your homework well in case the child doesn't remember it well. 2. Keep in mind the precautions of various activities in case the children forget. 3, all kinds of homework to upload, it is best to build a home. 4. Pay close attention to class dynamics and exams. , catching up with parents' activities is faster than the internet speed, and it is properly killed. Tasks of extracurricular classes: 1. Photos of children in class should be collected. 2, children's activities should be well remembered, especially the changes in class time, so as to avoid missing classes or running in vain. Children's homework should be handed in in time. 4. Communicate with the teacher about the children's class. Company group: all tasks of each group must be completed in time, such as list task and sales number management. Family groups talk about what to eat tonight and when to pick up the children.

There are many groups for different tasks, so I won't list them one by one. You must have a big head. At this time, the overall planning ability will be tested. Do you remember the post-80s generation? There is a passage in the primary school text that explains the principle of overall consideration by making tea with boiling water. I suggest making a list in four quadrants: important emergency, important non-emergency, unimportant emergency, unimportant or non-emergency, and mastering it by yourself.

Article 4 Self-cultivation of middle-aged women

The ability to release stress.

Middle-aged women are so entangled, how to release pressure? My suggestion is short cycle and low cost. Don't gather people to spit out what you can digest. Talk about the past if you can, and don't always dig up old scores. My own decompression methods are as follows: First, watching American TV shows, the Big Bang Theory is the first choice; The second is to sing in the bathroom (at this time, my husband plays drums in his heart); The third is to talk to my sister (my husband must show some sincerity at this point).

Article 5 Self-cultivation of middle-aged women

Have the ability to speak eloquently and play dumb.

If you don't make it clear, don't frown if you should say it. In the chaotic logic, make clear your position and explain your reasons.

Don't walk into a dead end, if you are confused, you will be confused and play the fool. Living is not a tucao convention, nor is it a strange statement. There is no square opposition, and there is no debate chairman and referee.

Self-cultivation of Middle-aged Women Part VI

Have the ability to improvise.

What should I do if I attend the parents' open day and let me speak on stage? What should I do if I go to KTV to pick up my husband and ask him to sing a few songs? How about friends getting together for a drink? What should I do if I want to cook two dishes for my children's kindergarten activities? As an excellent middle-aged woman, she must be prepared to change with the constant.

In addition to the above abilities, middle-aged women after the age of 30, I ask you to put on some light makeup, dress appropriately, speak substantively and behave appropriately. In the second half of life, we should all be beautiful and cruel.