Don't look at the bride's lamp?

Why don't girls watch the maiden lights on the fifteenth day of the first month?

There is a saying in many places that girls who get married on the fifteenth day of the first month don't look at the wedding lanterns, but why not celebrate them? Many people can't say clearly. Let me explain it to you. It was also explained by the old man at home.

Customs vary from place to place. On the second or third day of junior high school, girls and their husbands will go back to their parents' home to pay a New Year call to their parents. Generally, you should bring even gifts, depending on the financial situation of your husband's family, but it must be even. Generally, parents can't accept gifts. When the girl comes back, she should bring it back to her husband's house. When a girl goes back to her parents' house, if she has a nephew at home, she should give him lucky money, but generally girls can't stay at their parents' house on the fifteenth day of the first month, so they should leave their parents' house before lighting the lamp. The general reason is this:

The fifteenth day of the first month, also known as Shangyuan Festival, is an ancient festival to pray for a bumper harvest. On this day, you usually eat whole grains and drink conga wine. It is necessary for the whole family to have a reunion dinner together. The more, the better. Lantern Festival is generally celebrated by lighting lanterns to worship Buddha, lighting 15 lanterns, extinguishing 17 lanterns, playing lanterns and solve riddles on the lanterns. Everyone is praying for good weather and a long life this year. Daughter-in-law is also a member of her own family, and she usually takes it back for the holidays.

In ancient times, most people worked for farmers, because after the Tenth Five-Year Plan, even after this year, labor production will begin. Therefore, there is an ancient saying that "after the reunion dinner, go to work in the fields."

Once a girl gets married, she is a member of her husband's family. In many places, especially in the northern region, married girls are called "Mammy", and Mammy's return to her family belongs to distinguished guests. From the moment they return home, parents should be as enthusiastic as distinguished guests and need to be accompanied by wine and food, so that girls can fully appreciate their thoughts and care. Due to the underdeveloped productive forces in ancient times, to put it bluntly, during the Chinese New Year, people usually ate the surplus grain from the previous year, and every household had almost no surplus grain. In order to understand the hardship of entertaining guests at home, the husband-in-law usually takes his daughter-in-law back before the fifteenth day of the first month, which is also the delicate thinking of the ancients. The so-called "don't look at the maiden lights on the fifteenth day of the first month" means "push". In-laws usually let their daughters-in-law stay at their parents' home for a few more days, and their sons will accompany their daughters-in-law, but don't wait until the fifteenth. It's actually a metaphor to watch the bride's lantern, but don't stay for two more days, but don't stay until the fifteenth day of the first month. Your parents will push you out, and your face will be ugly, haha. ...

Of course, food and drink are basically not a problem now. As long as the girl wants to stay in her family, her family is welcome. So don't be too superstitious.

In some places, it is said that it is not good for a married girl to look at her parents' lanterns. In fact, it is explained like this: when a daughter comes back from her husband's house to visit herself, she usually stays for three days and two mornings, so she will go back to her husband's house. First, she will save her parents and brothers' hard hospitality, and second, she will go home to help entertain the guests at home. If the daughter doesn't want to go back to her husband's family until the fifteenth day of the first month, will the woman's parents think that her husband's family is mistreating her daughter? Why else would my daughter be homesick? Because in ancient times, it was generally the father-in-law who had the final say, and the woman's parents would blame the man, that is, the old man. This is also the reason why the argument against my father-in-law is unfavorable.

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