How to crack it when you go back to your hometown and ask your elders for money?

This situation needs specific analysis.

If your grandparents, grandparents, grandparents and other "close relatives" give "lucky money" during the Chinese New Year, or give "rewards" because they have achieved good results in a certain aspect, you can "accept it gladly" and just say "I am very happy" or "I will do better", otherwise it will be unhappy. Money can make grandparents and grandparents happy, so why not?

But if it's just an ordinary elder, such as a second uncle, an elder sister-in-law, a neighbor's aunt, it's best to decline politely at this time. Because, these people force money, often because of face or what they want from your parents, most of them are not "willing", so it is unacceptable. But how to refuse, that is, to achieve the purpose of not "ill-gotten gains" and to save the other party's face?

Try the following "tricks".

1, "I have a lot of money in my hand, I will ask for it next time!"

To this end, tell each other that our relationship is so good that I can accept your money, but I don't need it now. Please take it back first. The other party thinks that if you don't treat him as an outsider, you will have a chance to reach the purpose of contacting feelings, and you will temporarily forget it.

2. "You keep it for me first, and I'll ask you for it when I need it!"

The reason is that we are welcome, but I am not short of money now. When I am short of money, I will come to you and get it directly. The other party will feel particularly useful when they hear that they have become your "guarantor". All right, keep it.

3. "You don't have much money, keep the flowers for yourself!"

This may make the other person feel humiliated, but it will be effective as long as the attitude is sincere, not condescending and not contemptuous. The other person feels understanding and considerate, and then feels that he is really in a difficult situation, so he will not insist.

4. "I can't have it, my parents will hit me!"

This move is a bit suspicious of transferring contradictions. Tell each other that my father is very strict with me and won't let me ask for other people's money and things casually. Once I do this, I will be killed. Hearing this, the other party said, alas, family education is so strict that you can't beat people with your own money. Well, don't forget. Can't be a villain.

5, "You leave some delicious food, just as I honor you!"

Ah, this is a bit hypocritical. Let people buy things by themselves with their own money, and you are filial to others and let them return your feelings. Really high! On the other hand, you are still so considerate. If you can think about filial piety and know how to repay him, you will feel very happy. Maybe I will give you more money next time! Ha ha.

In any case, the money given by the elder shows his (or her) kindness and care. You should accept it sincerely, express your gratitude sincerely, and make the other person feel respected and have face.