What should parents do to make their children love each other?

As parents, the greatest hope is that children love each other, help each other and support each other.

But sometimes parents' casual behavior will make children feel that their parents don't love him and only love another child.

In a family with many children, can parents really treat their children equally and love them equally?

In fact, the most important thing is what parents do.

Families with many children, as long as they do these things, I believe that children can feel the love of their parents and they will love each other.

0 1. Let the children know that one more child in the family means one more person who loves you.

Our family is a pair of twin babies. When the children were very young, I repeatedly said a word to them.

I will say to my brother, "Baby, it's good to have a brother. Not only mom and dad love you, but also a brother loves you. We all love you. "

Similarly, I will say to my younger brother, "Honey, it's good to have a younger brother." Mom and dad love you, and my brother loves you. "

In this way, let children know from an early age that one more brother and sister in the family means one more person loves me, rather than one more person competing for the love of mom and dad.

Input this knowledge to children from an early age, and children will know that mom and dad love me and everyone loves me.

Similarly, when a child helps another child, I will give him timely feedback. For example, my brother and my brother share delicious food.

At this time, I will say to my brother, "Baby, mom saw you sharing delicious food with your brother. You are really a good brother who is willing to share. My brother is really happy to have you. "

I will also say to my brother, "My brother just shared delicious food with you, which is really good. You are so happy to have a brother who loves you. "

Let children know how happy they are to have brothers and sisters.

02. Children don't compare.

In a family with many children, some parents like to compare two children. I always blurt out some words inadvertently.

"How can you be so ignorant? You see, people's younger brothers didn't say anything about buying toys. As soon as you came out, you bought this and that. "

"My brother got 90 points in math, and you only got 80 points. You should learn more from your brother. "

Is the above statement familiar?

Once parents compare their children, it will not only destroy the relationship between children, but also form a competitive psychology.

Children will build up the cognition that as long as I perform better than the other party, my parents will love me more.

As a result, children will win the attention of their parents in various ways, even if it is some inappropriate behavior.

What parents need to do is to see what each child has done well and see their advantages, not to compare them.

As long as parents realize this, the child's heart will not be barren because of comparison.

03. 10 minute special time

Set aside 10 minutes to get along with children alone every day to create a special time for parents and children.

In the meantime, just the two of you. You can chat together, express your thoughts and communicate emotionally.

The special time of each other makes children feel the attention and love of their parents.

Similarly, choose another time period to establish a special time for you and another child at home.

In fact, what children want is very simple. Sometimes just a warm hug from mom 10 minutes, patient listening can warm his heart.

The relationship between parents and each child is positive and has established deep feelings with each child. Then the relationship between children will be very good.

/kloc-the special time of 0/0 minute is to connect with each child emotionally and establish a positive and beautiful parent-child relationship.

Parents' rich love flows in children's hearts, and children treat their compatriots with love. Because they get the best nutrition from their parents.

04. Establish intimate and friendly family rules.

Older children can participate in making family rules together. When a child is involved, he will be more willing to enforce the rules.

Being close to family rules is not to restrain children's bad behavior, but to input more positive family concepts into children's subconscious.

Love family rules, the core is love. Then the formulation of the content must be loving and warm.

For example, we can make such family rules.

We are a loving family.

We are a shared family.

We are a big family that helps each other and is United and friendly.

In our family, we choose love, kindness and active communication.

A family is always happy together.

We have made rules to be close to loving families, which can be written down and posted in conspicuous places at home. Read with children every day.

Sometimes children behave badly, so we don't need to nag and preach. As long as you point to the house rules posted on the wall, older children will naturally understand.