How to get out of the grief of losing your mother

How to get out of the grief of losing your mother

In life, we will always encounter the pain of many relatives leaving, and the most painful thing is the departure of parents. So how can we get rid of the grief of losing our mother?

First of all, laughter therapy

One afternoon, somehow, I opened Friends, my favorite American TV series, which was stored in my computer. Every episode I watched before made me laugh. On that gloomy afternoon, I just wanted to help myself try to get rid of my sadness, even for a short time. Because at first, I hardly believed that I could still laugh. But when the lovely Joey on the screen gave a loud laugh again, the room outside the screen suddenly couldn't help laughing. The laughter was not very loud, but for the first time in my life, I felt that I smiled so clearly. Next, there seems to be a clear stream flowing back in my heart. Ah, I still have the ability to laugh. So as long as I can still laugh, it means that I am not numb to life.

At present, an idea flashed through my mind. Like grasping at straws, I decided to spend more than 20 minutes watching comedies every day. Learn how to laugh again.

Later, I accidentally caught a glimpse on the internet, and it turned out that laughter had amazing benefits. Because every time we laugh, our bodies secrete a similar kind? Painkillers? Is that matter? Endorphins? It will make us feel happy, relieve pain and calm down, and keep us optimistic.

Second, read Beethoven's biography.

I met Beethoven's biography by accident and went out to visit the book city. That's how I met. This biography of Beethoven was written by Mr romain rolland. Picking up a book, I was shocked by a sentence as soon as I opened that page. Only true suffering can drive away the suffering of romantic fantasy; Only by seeing the heroic tragedy of overcoming suffering can we help us bear the cruel fate; ? From the preface of the translator Mr. Fu Lei. At present, I have decided to take this biography of Beethoven home. When reading this book, I used the Fifth Symphony (commonly known as the Symphony of Destiny) as the background music. Whenever I hear the sound of fate knocking at the door, it makes me feel refreshed. I seem to hear the music saint who died a hundred years ago, raising his arms and shouting, encouraging me to say: stand up and bravely accept the challenge of fate! Young man. ?

Third, go to see your friends.

I am very grateful. During this time, several of my college friends were very concerned about me. As before, go out with me for fun. We talked and laughed all the way. Sometimes, I feel like I'm back in college. We are a group of carefree college students. What worries me most is which industry to join after graduation.

Stay with them and don't talk about pain. Only happiness, the purest happiness.

Fourth, integrate into the most ordinary life as much as possible.

Sometimes, I will go to the market to buy some fresh fruits and vegetables. When I see these foods that used to look ordinary, there is a kind of warmth in my eyes. Just like Gu Long said,? If a person is desperate and wants to commit suicide, let him go to the vegetable market. ? That means that no matter how dirty, messy and poor, the vegetable market is like a small society, with all kinds of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. What's this called? Grounding gas? Life. Close to it, it seems that the heart will warm up.

After that, when the weather is better, I will go for a walk in the nearby park. I haven't had such a leisurely morning for a long time. Even sometimes, I just sit on the bench and watch the old man in the distance calmly beat Tai Ji Chuan. I feel very happy.

Five, peace with your emotions * * *

At first, I will deliberately ignore those sad memories. When they came to me unexpectedly, I just rudely stopped them from jumping into my thunder pool, thinking that this would isolate the pain.

As we all know, a few days later, they took revenge on me. Even a short memory will make me cry. I want to go now. It may be because I intentionally suppressed my emotions before, which led to the big bang later.

Therefore, at this time, don't refuse the sadness thousands of miles away. When it knocks on the door, it treats it like an old friend and invites it in for a cup of tea. But after a while, he gently asked it to leave. Say to it: I'm sorry, I can't keep you too long, because I'm going to find my happy friend. ?

6. Be grateful for what you have.

Finally, I want to say let bygones be bygones. Yesterday has passed, and tomorrow is still on the road. Only today, only now, is in your hands, as Tagore said: When you shed tears when you miss the sun, you will also miss the stars. ?

So every night before I go to bed, I will spend five minutes thanking all the wonderful things that happened today. This is a habit formed by studying positive psychology at Harvard University before. Now, I want to pick it up again.

I am grateful for the good weather; Thanks for the delicious food; Thanks to the strangers who helped me; I am grateful for the beauty that happens in my life, even the smallest beauty.

Now sitting in front of the computer, summing up these six points, I remember Mr. Jiang Yang wrote in The Three of Us: There is no simple happiness in the world. Happiness is always accompanied by troubles and sadness. ? When I was young, I didn't understand. Think that happiness is happiness, either black or white. Now, I think it's probably like what the predecessors said: Life is like a play, and play is like life? All right. When we were alive, we have been experiencing those joys and sorrows. The choice before us is simple: to die or to live.

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