As a parent, you really need to take a long-term view. If you beat the teacher, will your child become outstanding?

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Sister Chen is my friend, a woman with a cheerful personality who likes to speak loudly. But recently she began to criticize her son's teacher.

Why?

Sister Chen said that her son has always sat in the bottom row of the class and has never broken through the third to last row. She was afraid that her children would feel inferior if they always sat in the back, so she asked the class teacher to change their seats. The head teacher replied: "The child is too tall and cannot sit in the front."

Sister Chen went to the teacher several times and got the same answer. Sister Chen was very angry. She pondered for a few days and came to a conclusion: "Isn't it because we didn't give him a gift? I don't tolerate him!"

Although she decided not to tolerate the teacher, Sister Chen But I felt indignant in my heart, and even became more and more angry as I thought about it, so I complained about the teacher in front of everyone. She said all the ugly things...

We advised her not to always complain about the teacher. The child is still studying with the teacher, and complaining is not good for the child. Sister Chen said:

"I didn't scold him in front of the class teacher, and I didn't name him by name. Don't say he didn't hear me, so what if he heard me?"

That's right too. , Sister Chen did not scold her son's teacher by name, she was scolding the current teacher...

This... isn't this a contradiction? If you want to scold your child's teacher but don't let the child's teacher know about it, what does the scolding mean? Are you playing with your own European style?

Besides, if you are dissatisfied with a teacher, but dare not let him know, and then vent your dissatisfaction and anger on the teachers... Is this appropriate?

I once read in a book that the teacher was a red candle and a soul engineer, and I followed suit. Later, my two children went to school and came into contact with more teachers, and I gained new insights:

Teachers are ordinary people with different personalities, good and bad tempers.

My daughter’s class teacher is a slow-moving person who takes his time all day long, but he cares about his students very much. The Chinese teacher is impatient, walks in a hurry, and is very strict with students.

My son’s teacher is timid, makes a lot of fuss, and takes good care of his children. Another teacher has a very high emotional intelligence and gets along very well with the parents, like friends.

I am very lucky that we did not encounter a bad teacher.

But I never think that there are people with poor quality in the teaching team. People come in all kinds, and don’t teachers also come in all kinds? People are good and bad. Teachers are also human beings. Aren’t they also good and bad?

This is so normal.

As parents, we can only hope that the relevant departments will strictly select teachers so that the overall quality of teachers will be better. But we must also be aware that the quality of teachers varies. This is common sense.

When encountering a bad teacher, parents should not only complain about it, but also have the courage to report it. But if you haven’t encountered a bad teacher, please don’t complain about the teacher based on hearsay or even imagination.

For example, Sister Chen mentioned at the beginning of my article, isn’t her complaint about the teacher entirely based on imagination? Her son was tall, and the teacher asked him to sit in the back row, so she said he sat in the back row because he didn't give him a gift...

There's no need to blame him!

Parents can complain about teachers, but they should pay attention to three things:

(1) Complain by name, and don’t always say “the current teacher.”

Don’t swallow your anger at the bad teachers you encounter, but spread your grievances on the teachers.

Which teacher made you suffer, complain about it by name, don't always say "the current teacher", after all, there are 20 million teachers now, and you can't know them all.

(2) Only complain when you really encounter a bad teacher, don’t make trouble over nothing.

However, within one day, the Xuzhou Education Bureau announced the results: It was purely a rumor. There is no such school and no such teacher in Xuzhou.

Netizens who follow the trend and trample teachers, has that non-existent teacher ever offended you? Were you blushing after the turn of events?

(3) If you really encounter a bad teacher, complaining will not have any effect.

Please use a more efficient method.

Some parents complain about teachers because they really encountered bad teachers, but more people complain about teachers because they are just following the trend.

If you ask them which scumbag teacher they have met, they will definitely say:

Listen to what their friends say;

Listen to what their classmates say;

I heard what my neighbors said...

In fact, they have never experienced it, but they complained very enthusiastically. Why?

In fact, it’s just a way to vent your emotions. Most people nowadays are under a lot of pressure. It is fun and safe to complain about the teacher. Anyway, the teacher has no power and cannot do anything to him...

There is also a very cruel reality:

There are mainly two types of people who like to complain about teachers to vent their emotions:

(1) People who do not have children in school at home, or whose children have graduated;

(2) People who do not pay attention to education, People who don't care about children's studies.

Parents, in fact, no matter whether we encounter a bad teacher or not, we don’t need to blame the teacher. Because blaming the teacher has no effect at all except to use your words.

If you encounter a bad teacher, collect evidence and report him;

If you don’t encounter a bad teacher, gather some moral integrity.

There is no use in blaming teachers. It is easy to defeat teachers, but children will not become outstanding because of it.

As a parent, you really need to take a long-term view and don’t waste your energy on arguing with teachers. Because it's meaningless.

Finally, it is again recommended to legislate against malicious smearing of teachers.

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