A little white lie story, urgent! ! ! ! ! ! !

I will give you two small examples here:

I saw a TV report about an old mother who had kidney disease and her life would be threatened if she did not get a kidney transplant. At this time, the eldest son stood up and asked to donate a kidney to his mother. This was very painful for the old mother. She strongly opposed it and said that it would be better for her to die. She had no choice but to wait for a kidney that matched all the conditions. However, it is not easy to wait for such a kidney source. The son was afraid of delaying his mother's condition, so after discussing with his family, he deceived his mother and donated one of his young kidneys to his mother. After the operation was successful, the family still The most touching thing about what was hidden from this old mother was that the mother and her son lived in the next ward. The mother did not know. When the mother wanted to see her eldest son, the family just lied to her and said that her son was on a business trip. After reading this report, I I was moved to tears, friends, do such lies hinder integrity?

A little girl with leukemia, in the later stages of her life, when the doctor asked her what her greatest wish was, She said she wanted to go to Tiananmen Square to see the flag-raising ceremony. How could the doctors and parents not satisfy the last wish of a dying girl? But because her family lives in far away Xinjiang, if her request was met, the doctors would be afraid of the girl. Unable to withstand the fatigue of the journey, a collective fabrication of lies organized by more than 2,000 volunteers, doctors and the girl’s family began, from getting on the train to changing to a tourist bus, and all the way from checking in to the waiter. The tea pouring and even the conversation between the passengers were all deliberately arranged by everyone. Finally, they arrived at a school. In the national anthem accompanied by the military band, the blind girl thought she had really arrived at Tiananmen Square, which she had longed for. When they saw her feebly raising her little hand to salute in the direction of the national flag, everyone present shed tears. This collective lying action was organized by more than 2,000 people. Can you say that their white lies are detrimental to integrity?

Also, many elderly people do not want to let their children know immediately when they are not feeling well, for fear of affecting their normal work and study! Many children fall down and are in pain, but they still say no. It hurts, just to let parents say that they are brave! There are many women who are silent and dedicated behind successful people. They never complain, so that their husbands can do their jobs better with peace of mind and worry less about their families. ….There are countless such examples in a country like ours with a long civilized history. I won’t list them all here. Facts speak louder than words. To sum up, they are all lying, but their lies are all in good faith. , does not harm integrity...

White lies do not harm integrity

The reason why "lie" is called "lie" is because it is false and untrue , deceptive words. If a person often lies in his mouth to deceive others, he will lose people's trust over time. Just like the child in the article "The Lying Child", he shouts "Wolf is coming" every day to seek excitement and happiness. But when the wolf really comes, he has only one person to face it and bear it, no matter what. Shouting would not help, and no one would come to help him again. Because maybe the people who came to help him were used to his shouting and thought he was "teasing you" again. It can be seen that lies hinder integrity.

But today, the "lie" we are talking about has another attributive - well-intentioned. With the addition of this qualifier, the nature of lies has fundamentally changed. "White lies" are people's good wishes for things, the dialogue between people's kind hearts, the warmth that people comfort each other, and the tenderness that comes out of people's hearts... No one will go Investigating its credibility, even if the person who hears a white lie knows it is a lie, he will still try to believe it and will not feel the liar's hypocrisy. Sometimes he will feel grateful from the heart.

When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by a doctor, his parents, spouse, children, and all relatives will not tell him directly: "Life can no longer be saved." Words like "How long can you live in this world at most?" Although these are all true, who would be so cruel as a judge sentencing a prisoner to death and tell the truth to a loved one who is already in pain? At this time, everyone will form a united front, keep silent about the truth, and use white lies to make the patient full of hope for treatment, so that the patient can spend the remaining days of his life with a peaceful mind.

Could this be detrimental to integrity?

When a child who is not familiar with the world suddenly encounters misfortune and loses his relatives, how should he explain to him where his relatives have gone? We think the best way is: don't tell him the real situation for the time being, just say that he went on a business trip to a far away place, or studied and worked abroad. When the child becomes sensible and has a certain tolerance, he will tell the truth and the child will understand the behavior of his relatives and will not be angry because he did not know the truth earlier. Doesn't this also hinder integrity?

When the mother of a soldier who is on a mission in the field is terminally ill and takes her last breath, she wishes she could see her son for the last time. However, the son cannot come back and show his filial piety to his old mother. Taking care of the mother who had been worried about her son, he was very apologetic and missed her very much. The old mother understood her son very well and told the relatives around her that after she left, she should not tell her son who was far away or distract him. She should say that his condition had stabilized so that he could feel at ease and be loyal to the country. Is such a white lie detrimental to integrity?

So, I insist that white lies not only do not hinder integrity, but also greatly enhance the friendship and feelings between people, and also have an indelible effect on social stability. I would like to suggest that you use white lies when they should be used, and there is no big conflict with whether they are honest or not.

White lies do not hinder the four arguments of integrity

Now, I will make a concluding statement on our position.

First: White lies are motivated by good intentions and have the purpose and starting point of safeguarding the interests of others. As we all know, contradictions can be divided into universality and particularity. Particularity is included in particularity and is different from universality. The nature of a white lie itself determines that it is not a bad thing, but is based on inner sincerity and kindness, while a malicious lie seeks benefits for the liar, using strong desire and weak rationality to Behavior that is only used by others as a means to harm others. Lies that kind-hearted people are "forced" to tell under certain circumstances are kind. Such lies are a kind of kindness and concern for the subject. And people with evil intentions, no matter how they disguise themselves, how they use rhetoric, or how they rack their brains to put a good-natured hat on their malicious lies, the lies they tell all have malicious purposes. Obviously, white lies do not compromise integrity.

Second: White lies are a way of dealing with the world and a manifestation of the quality of thinking about others.

The relatives and friends of a terminally ill patient always use white lies to make his illness appear to be minor and encourage him to cooperate with the doctor’s treatment. I believe that none of you here will accuse them of dishonesty because of this, right? ! On the contrary, it is the truth of malicious intent. A prisoner revealed his own troop deployment under the inducement of the enemy. Does anyone think he is honest? Sincerity to the enemy is betrayal to the country!

The director of the Judicial Appraisal Department of Guangzhou Brain Hospital said: "Lying is a human instinct. As for whether you are honest or not, the key lies in what kind of lie you are telling."

One sentence does not directly hurt A lie that expresses rejection of love on the basis of the suitor; a lie that expresses inability to satisfy a warm-hearted man but is unwilling to disappoint the inviter is indispensable in interpersonal communication. It allows us to be more calm in the world, unlike a multi-edged stone that scratches other people's heads and bruises ourselves.

It can be seen that a layer of protective color and lubrication are needed between people. Since the expulsion from the Garden of Eden, people have no longer been naked but have been surrounded by bark and grass leaves, right?

Third: Although white lies are a type of lies, if you cannot tell lies, it will definitely hinder your integrity. Specific issues must be analyzed in detail.

The reason why integrity is respected by everyone is because it is good faith and does not deceive. On the surface, white lies seem to hinder the principle of integrity, but in essence, the reason why it exists is Because telling the truth goes against the principles of kindness.

White lies and integrity are actually in a unified relationship of opposites, and the so-called violation just provides a useful supplement to integrity, not a hindrance. For example: stipulate the same direction on the road. Pedestrians can only occupy half of the road, so it doesn’t hinder everyone’s passage!

Fourth: A world without lies is like an earth without dust. Just because we agree that white lies do not impede integrity does not mean that we advocate them, the key lies in the degree.

What is lying? If it is indiscriminate, it is defined as: not seeking truth from facts, telling lies, exaggerating, covering up, and distorting the truth. Then our lives are full of lies, big and small, from inflammatory advertisements to sweet words between lovers, all are filled with exaggerated words, and even literary works themselves have become lies. Everyone has a standard for lies in their hearts. How to grasp this level is the first thing we think about. Compared with lies with bad motives, white lies can make people's feelings more harmonious and harmonious, and make life more interesting. They can cleverly avoid conflicts and achieve emotional communication and smooth interactions. How can they hinder integrity? What's up?

Therefore, we must learn to identify malicious lies and protect ourselves from harm; at the same time, we must improve our self-cultivation and think about the best way to solve problems. "The way of a university is to be virtuous, to be close to the people, and to strive for perfection." As for those that are warm and make life full of interest; as for those lies that are full of kindness and compassion, let them bloom!

Isn’t there such a saying: White lies are beautiful. When we tell moderate lies for the happiness and hope of others, lies become understanding, respect and tolerance, and have magical power.

Let’s take an example. There is a student who is not very good at long-distance running. However, in a test, the teacher told him that his long-distance running speed was faster than other students, and also said He had the opportunity to represent the school in a competition and told him to work hard. After hearing the teacher's words, the student was very excited because he, who had always thought that he had no talent for long-distance running, could actually represent the school in a competition. From that day on, he really fell in love with long-distance running and insisted on running every day. After a while, he was actually selected to represent the school in the competition.

There was once a teacher who made a lie and said that he could predict the future for his students: you might become a mathematician in the future, he might be a writer, which one has artistic talent... Under the guidance and influence of the teacher Through education, encouragement and shaping, children become diligent, sensible and eager to learn. A few years later, a large number of students entered the university with excellent results, and the village became famous for it. People think that this old teacher can calculate and perceive the future. In fact, the teacher’s good intentions are to plant a beautiful lie in the heart of the child, just like sowing a seed in the soil, which will eventually flourish. Mao, blossom and bear fruit.

My eyes always get wet when I read the American short story "The Last Leaf". When the sick old man looked at the withering leaves and felt desolate and despairing, the loving painter used a carefully sketched green leaf to decorate the withered tree of life, thus maintaining the dying light of life for a while. Isn't this the ultimate lie?

Lies born out of good wishes are the nourishment of life and the source of faith. It ignites a fire of hope in people's hearts, convinced that there is love, trust, and touching in the world, and thus finds more reasons to smile at life. White lies are the spirituality given to human nature, embodying the delicacy of emotion and the maturity of thought, prompting people to be strong and persistent, to strive hard involuntarily, and finally to overcome vulnerability and survive in desperate situations.

A lie from a parent can make the face of a child who is not familiar with the world as bright as a flower; a lie from a teacher can help hesitant students no longer be confused and grow better; a lie from a doctor can make the fearful students no longer confused. The patient goes from destruction to rebirth...

Dear friends, wake up. In fact, white lies do not hinder integrity at all. Don’t think that white lies will hinder integrity anymore, because As long as you are thinking about others, then a white lie is precious. It will neither cause a crisis of trust, nor tarnish civilization, nor distort human nature.

White lies have the magical power to inspire you to make progress again and again and never give up for the dreams in your heart. Because the road ahead is completely illuminated by a happy mood, and life becomes better because of it.

If being honest and forthright is a mistake, I choose to lie.

If true confession and frankness are a kind of harm, I choose to lie.

If it is to save yourself or others from pain and sorrow, what’s the harm in lying more?

Example 1:

There are more examples of life-saving lies. On August 2 last year, water leaked from the roof of the Wenlian Coal Mine in Downlow Town, Pu'an County. Xiao Hong, Yang Tongshun and four other people were working underground. ; In ten minutes, the water flooded the alley and the roof. The way out was blocked and there was no way out. They were forced to a platform one meter high and three meters wide above the alley. The water level was still rising. The situation was extremely serious. Critical.

The four of them divided into two groups and took turns digging coal ash from the top of the platform. They dug out two steps over one meter high in two days. With no ammunition or food, they dug up two steps over three or four days. Without food, hunger, cold, fear and despair struck together. In order to encourage everyone to fight against the approaching death in a desperate situation, Xiao Hong lied again and again that the water level was falling. Whoever could persist would be able to get out alive. .

On the fourth day of persistence, someone in the tunnel with thin air had already collapsed and passed out. But at this moment, the water level really dropped. The four of them felt that it was an opportunity to escape, and they took a step to support each other. They climbed up to the wellhead; at this time, the nine water pumps at the wellhead were draining water day and night. The people on the well thought that the four of them must have no hope of survival, but unexpectedly they won the final victory in the fight against death.

Example 2:

There is another example: In the last century, an American transport plane encountered a sandstorm and made an emergency landing in the desert. However, the plane was severely damaged and could not resume takeoff. The communication equipment was also damaged. , communication with the outside world was interrupted; nine passengers and one driver fell into despair; their survival instinct caused them to fight for limited dry food and water.

In an emergency, a temporary ride Passengers on the plane stood up and said: "Don't panic, everyone. I am the aircraft designer. As long as everyone works together and listens to my instructions, the plane can be repaired." This was like a shot in the arm, stabilizing everyone's mood. They consciously saved water and Dry food; everything was in order, and everyone united to fight against the difficulties of the sandstorm.

More than ten days passed, and the plane was not repaired; but a camel caravan of businessmen traveling to and from the desert rescued them when they passed by. .A few days later, people discovered that the temporary passenger was not an airplane designer at all, but an elementary school teacher who knew nothing about airplanes. When someone knew the truth, they called him a liar and angrily asked him: Everyone's life It’s almost impossible to save your life, but you still have the heart to deceive us? The teacher said: If I didn’t lie at that time, would everyone be alive today?