If you have grandchildren, to be honest, do you really want to take care of the baby?

I really want to help with my grandchildren, that's what I mean. Why? I have been engaged in education all my life, and I feel that the experience of my generation can take good care of my grandchildren after retirement. I am a child myself. Because I was young and busy at work, my children didn't get a good education when they were young. Now that they are in good health, let's give full play to their residual heat.

Many people told me that it is not easy to be too tired to take care of children. I've thought about it. I can't be selfish. Helping to take care of children also helps sons and daughters-in-law to work better, so that they have no worries. Indirectly, I also contribute to society.

Nowadays, society is changing rapidly and young people are under great pressure. They need to keep learning and making progress to keep up with the times! If the elderly have the ability and physical strength, they are also suitable to help take care of children. It is human nature to simply help children with their children, and it is also a fine tradition of our country, except for the idea of fatigue and responsibility.

Some people say that young people are cheating their parents and can't bear the responsibility themselves. It seems unfilial for parents to help take care of their children after working hard all their lives. Because I did it voluntarily and happily, no one asked me to do it, so I was full and happy. Efforts are inevitable and can be overcome. Some young people may be too demanding of their parents. If parents are disgusted and unwilling to help, there will be some contradictions. I also admit that this will happen in society. Then, according to the parents' ideas, the son and daughter-in-law bring them by themselves.

Don't you know that old people like me are active, and the fun of helping with children is greater than anything else. Any recreational activities, such as traveling and dancing, are not as fun as my help with the children.

If the way of raising children is different from that of sons and daughters-in-law, discuss it first and then choose the right one. Old people must listen to the opinions of young people. After all, times have changed and the ways of raising children have changed a lot. Modern parenting methods are more scientific than in the past, and it is more convenient for young people to learn quickly and look up information online. Therefore, the elderly should not stick to their own opinions and stick to the rules.

As long as it is good for children, the elderly should live in harmony with their children, create a warm and harmonious family environment, let the baby grow sturdily, make the elderly happy and have something to do, and let their sons and daughters-in-law work with confidence, which is beneficial to both sides.

The situation of each family is different, and each family has its own problems. If you want to study hard, you must understand each other, support each other and be happy at home!

The above is my opinion! For reference only!

To tell the truth, I don't want to bring grandchildren or grandchildren from my heart! After decades of hard work, I finally retired, and I finally had time to pick up my old hobbies and carry them forward. I also want to do what I wanted to do when I was young, such as backpacking! Although I can't bear to bring my grandson, it's very hard for the old man to bring his grandson. Moreover, it is not the obligation of the elderly to take care of grandchildren. However, helping the elderly to take care of their grandchildren can reduce the burden on young people! With a grandson, your daughter can return to the workplace. With a grandson, your daughter-in-law can bring her son to earn money to support her family!

I am the future mother-in-law. Although I have retired, I haven't left the workplace, just changed my working environment! Save some money for retirement, and don't bother your daughter in the future. I also have my own hobbies, financial management, reading, writing articles on the platform, and arranging a trip every year. I am very busy!

If one day, my daughter gives birth to a child and needs my help, I will not hesitate to go-not because I like children very much, but because I don't want to embarrass my daughter. Most importantly, I don't want my daughter to become a housewife because of the fetters of the baby. That's not what I want to see! My daughter, who I trained with my heart, received higher education, but because her child passively returned to her family and was out of touch with society, she finally earned her social status and returned to the starting point overnight!

@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫 Conclusion:

Whether you like children or not, when children need help, you should try your best to help them and take care of your grandchildren as long as your physical conditions permit. Although it is not obligatory, it can solve big problems for their children. It is not easy for young people to work hard in the workplace. Once their children, daughters or daughter-in-law return to their families, it is unfair to women. If they return to the workplace in the future, it will be very difficult and hard, and they will have to work twice as hard, and there may not be ideal results! Helping children when they are in trouble also lays the foundation for their later years! I am a young man who is about to become a father. Through my usual communication with my parents, I know that they especially want to help us with our children.

My mother always said, "Have a baby soon"! Because of busy work and heavy pressure in life, I usually refuse her. She immediately retorted: "You are only responsible for the birth, I will help you bring it, help you raise it, and it won't cost you two a penny." This sincere language is not a performance. But a voice from the heart. I believe that grandparents all over the world will be as happy as my parents to help take care of their grandchildren.

Why am I so convinced that grandparents all over the world are happy to take care of their grandchildren? First, "every generation of parents" is not just a statement. But a true expression of reality. How many grandchildren have not been brought up by grandparents in the present family, especially in the countryside? Due to the increasing pressure of life, parents of children usually go to work in cities and go back once a year. Children need the care of grandparents completely.

Second: for grandparents, because they are old, they basically lose their labor force and do nothing every day. Taking care of children is also one of their careers in their later years. So many old people like to take care of their children and keep themselves busy. For them, raising grandchildren is their only spiritual sustenance. Only in this way, their bodies will always be healthy and their mentality will always be young.

Third: In fact, many grandparents love their sons very much. In order to reduce the burden of life for their sons, they would rather spend money to take care of their grandchildren and make money when their children work with peace of mind. In the traditional thinking of our country, there is a saying that "continue to burn incense". For grandparents, because of the influence of birth age, they pay special attention to this issue, so they are willing to help take care of their grandchildren and pass them on to future generations.

With the development of the times, there is another phenomenon in the countryside now. Grandparents want to help with their grandchildren, but sons and daughters-in-law don't want to. Why is this happening? First, because rural people attach importance to education at present, many young people prefer to take care of their children under pressure. Because they think grandparents have limited knowledge, they can't help their children go to school well, and they can't let their children lose at the starting line. So many young people are reluctant to ask their parents to help take care of their children.

Second: doting psychology. As grandparents, I will definitely love my grandchildren. When they took care of their children, the children made mistakes and dared not criticize them. As long as they cry, grandparents will find ways to meet their unreasonable demands. It is easy to spoil children and lead them to form unhealthy personality characteristics. Therefore, many young people are willing to rely on their own efforts to cultivate children's sound personality characteristics from an early age.

Third: I don't know if you have found out that the children raised by grandparents are completely different from those raised by parents, and you can tell them at a glance. It is because of different age groups, different eyes, different clothes for children, and usually do not pay much attention to children's hygiene. So many young people want to take care of their children, ensure their image, and satisfy their vanity at the same time.

I am a child from the countryside and have been working in the city since I graduated from college. My parents will be very happy to take care of their children in the future, and I will let them rest assured. But on the premise, taking care of children can not make parents tired, and children can become the spiritual pillar of parents, not their physical burden.

/kloc-in 0/7, my son gave birth to a grandson, and our whole family was so happy! Every day, the whole family revolves around grandchildren! My wife and I are busy washing diapers and drying bedding every day! Now the grandson is three years old and still looks like a baby. My daughter sends him delicious food every three days, goes to kindergarten in the morning and the whole family drives him. I work outside and video with my grandson almost every day! Go home on vacation every year and take your grandson to play every day! Grandson woke up early in the morning and will call me! Say grandpa will come to play with me! I'll get up and play with him right away! Grandson brings joy to the whole family! Taking care of my grandson is my happiest thing!

If I have grandchildren, I want to take care of them. First of all, children and grandchildren are a generation, and when they see children, they see hope. Children are different every day, and they bring a lot of fun to themselves in the process of growing up. Secondly, at that time, I took my own children, young and ignorant, and didn't know how to treat them. I have no patience when I work and take care of them and the children cry. Sometimes I yell at my children, even ignore them in anger, and even hit them. Now I read some books and videos about children's growth and education, only to realize that I don't care enough about and care for children's growth, and there are many inappropriate educational methods. When I want to take care of my grandson, I will take care of the next generation. Third, I grew up taking care of my children while working. Many of them are hard and helpless, and I have tasted what it is like. Nowadays, young people have a faster pace of life and greater pressure. Do your best to help them. Finally, I want to say that love is a process passed down from generation to generation, and it is also a process of giving to each other. Only when you truly love the next generation will the next generation truly thank their parents.

If you speak, you must help with the children.

I remember when I was a mother, I was discharged from the hospital after giving birth and lying in my own bed. On the left is a baby who needs nursing, and on the right is me waiting for my father to come home from work for one day (there was no 15 days of paternity leave at that time! Without the help of in-laws! There is no new moon! After eight hours of waiting, I made up my mind: when the child grows up and needs my help, I will definitely turn my back!

From the perspective of economics, society has developed into an era of extremely high monthly supply. Learn a nanny certificate or something, show your child the certificate and you will be admitted. Of course, the premise is that you are willing to work. If you don't want to go to work, it may be because of your physical condition or other circumstances (for example, you are still at work and your income is higher than a gold medal ...), then you can consider taking a month off to help.

Psychologically, parents who don't want to help have a problem: one generation doesn't care about the second generation, but I work hard. Maybe I have conflicts with my children on parenting concepts and communication issues. Isn't it a thankless thing? Therefore, the fundamental solution to this problem lies in the communication between parents and children! As for children, it must be remembered that parents are only helping themselves, and they don't have to help their babies. Be sure to pay attention to the way of communication in speech. Parents should learn how to raise their children scientifically, accept new ideas and listen to their voices. If there is a communication problem, don't be angry and don't worry. Remember, there is nothing that family members can't talk about. ...

Physically, if you can't afford it, you can adopt the rotation system of parents of both children, or do hourly jobs or monthly jobs according to economic conditions. Families that really can't afford it, do it yourself.

From the heart, so lovely baby, willing not to witness the growth?

China's parents give everything for their children (buying a house to support the real estate business ...). Traditionally, most of them agree with their grandchildren, and the problem of getting along with each other causes contradictions.

Of course, some parents disapprove of bringing grandchildren, which is normal.

Whether there are grandchildren is a problem for every family. Welcome to @ Left-handed Scenery and Right-handed Cuisine, or share your opinions in the comments section.

I don't even want to bring it.

The fact is that the son-in-law or daughter-in-law nowadays is not a good pile. In their eyes, they think it should be. What they get is not gratitude, but hatred.

I'm sure I can help. Children have to go to work, how can they have time to take care of them? As parents, we should help them, as I told my children. If you have children, ask me to bring them, and I will bring them to you. It is your choice not to have children, and I will not participate in your life.

To be honest, I really don't want to bring it. If no one really brings it, I can only bring it.