Skills of communicating and chatting with others

Skills of communicating and chatting with others

Everyone knows the skills of communicating and chatting with people. When chatting with different people, try to leave the topic behind when you don't understand the problem, and don't speak too directly. These are all skills to communicate and chat with others. Let's take a look at some chat skills and communicate with people!

Communication and chat skills 1 0 1, chat with different people.

Chat should be divided into objects, at least you should prepare two chat systems: strangers and acquaintances.

When these two kinds of people appear at the same dinner table, we should be a little restrained to acquaintances and ask more questions to strangers.

Only by mastering the necessary basic materials can you judge whether this person is a serious person or an informal person, so that you will be more accurate when you hold the scale.

You can't run amok just because there are acquaintances present. In the end, I often lose my friend's face and my own.

Know your friends well, they know what kind of personality and person you are, and they won't overthrow you because of your words, but strangers who meet for the first time will easily leave a bad impression on others if you don't measure them well.

02. Give the conversation to the other party.

Don't give a closed-loop answer to a question you don't understand, try to throw it back.

For example, I don't watch football much. If someone asks at dinner, "Did you watch the ball yesterday?" If I answer "I don't watch football" at this time. This topic died here.

Why do you want to be a "king of the future"? Let's say, "I haven't paid much attention recently. What was the game yesterday? "

When most people ask questions, they will choose what they are good at and throw it to him. The other person is very happy, and you are also very happy.

Then in the process of listening, you just need to add "really?" "ah? What happened later? " "What was the score in the first half?" Wait, this topic is expected to be talked for a long time.

It doesn't matter if you don't understand. There is nothing more enjoyable than telling someone who doesn't understand but shows great interest in what you are good at.

Doing so can not only continue the topic, but also make the other person chat happily and have a good impression on you.

Don't speak too directly.

Avoid saying "I'm sorry, I said it more directly".

At any time, don't expect you to minimize the harm to others by saying "I'm sorry I said it more directly" after saying "direct words".

That will show that you have always been like this, and people will only remember the harm you have done to him, which will not help.

Therefore, when you are ready to alert each other with harsh words, pause will be more useful than this sentence to remedy.

Besides, if you are wondering whether your words are too heavy before you say them, don't say them at all.

Getting along with others is a particularly stupid way. It's better to get cheap, and I hope the other person will forgive you immediately if you say something ugly.

04. Praise should be moderate.

Everyone likes to be praised, but try not to exceed three sentences.

Too many compliments are either fake or fake.

Praise should come from the heart and pay attention to skills. Sometimes "you look fine today" is more practical than "you look beautiful in this dress", because maybe you can't remember whether she wore the same dress yesterday.

Don't think that you have finally seized the opportunity to praise others, just staring at it for a long time. Generally speaking, the person you praise will be a little embarrassed.

05. Ask questions if you don't want to answer.

If you don't want to answer, rhetorical questions are the best answer.

There will always be people who are short-sighted or even slow to reflect, asking questions that are embarrassing or inconvenient for you to answer.

At this time, if you are a person who doesn't know how to say no, ask him directly with the original topic, and try to divert your attention is also a reminder to the other party.

If the other person just wants to get to the bottom of it, then you don't have to save face if you don't want to answer.

06. Accumulate information.

Talking about resources often comes from your daily fragmentary reading.

This is especially suitable for that kind of colleague relationship, having dinner together at noon, meeting in the tea room in the afternoon, and occasionally chatting to pass the embarrassment.

Compared with gossiping about colleagues and leaders, it is better to spend ten minutes browsing current events, stars, constellations and other titles every day, or just look at the news in QQ and WeChat pop-up interfaces, which will basically become the most basic conversation materials.

Because these things may be known to everyone, so if you don't browse much, try to be an inquirer and a curious person, and let those who read a lot talk about it. Anyway, there will always be a lot of people who will pay attention.

07. Enrich your personal life

Cultivate one or two hobbies and make them part of your topic.

You belong to work in eight hours, and you belong to yourself in eight hours. How to enrich yourself is the beginning of a good chat.

Reading, music, these things sometimes pick people, not everyone can enjoy and have a * * * sound;

Making models and collecting specimens are particularly unpopular, and it is estimated that only people with the same hobbies can share them;

But most people will dabble in food and movies and express their opinions.

Try to choose one or two popular things to do, which will easily get more feedback from the crowd.

If you want to be a person with something to say, please start by enriching your life.

08. Submit a topic

When your speech is too long, try to throw the topic to the next person at the end of the topic.

It is inevitable that you will encounter topics that you are good at, or topics that you know better. There is nothing wrong with being the center of the topic, but if you are an introverted and shy person at heart, you always feel that the topic is over and you don't know how to end it. Then try to leave the topic to others to end.

For example, someone mentioned a star at lunch, and you happened to see a recent gossip about him. You finish in high spirits and don't like the end of the topic. Why not add a sentence at the end? How did you start to like him? In other words, didn't he also play a TV series recently? what do you think?

While expressing your own opinions and ideas, you should also give others a chance to talk and talk.

09. Silence without humor.

Humor is used correctly, and silence is better when used wrongly.

Humor is cultivated by personality, not by backrest jokes or jokes.

So if you are still a novice, I suggest you first find someone in the circle who you find humorous, then memorize his jokes and stalks and practice your hands at another party. If there is a response, it is good humor. If there is no response, just try it. There is nothing wrong with it.

Don't learn by rote, it will be a trivial matter to hurt your self-esteem then, and it will be more troublesome to leave a shadow.

A student once shared her experience as the host of the company's annual meeting. The host of the partner has prepared a lot of baggage, and she has to pave the stalk herself. The student was very worried at that time and told the other party that it was best to learn to use it, but the other party still worked hard to recite the lines. As a result, the chairman's sudden toast was interrupted as soon as he appeared, and the words were forgotten. The hosts behind him basically dared not speak. The next year, I gave up hosting completely.

Therefore, it will be easier to do what you are sure of. If you want to be a humorous person, you can read this article.

10, don't worry about the ice.

Don't be afraid of ice. Anyway, that's everyone's problem, not your responsibility alone.

I had this obsessive-compulsive disorder for a while, and I was afraid of a topic gap. I felt embarrassed that several people were sitting face to face, so I started talking, but after a period of talking, there was always an empty field.

At this time, I always feel that I have a special obligation to fill this "blank field". As a result, the more I want to talk about it, the more I want to stir up the atmosphere, and the more embarrassing the scene is.

Now I am smart. In the face of this silence, I can calmly pick up the cup and pretend to drink water. Let the silence stop here. Someone will talk again anyway.

As long as it's not because of you and you're not sure that the venue will heat up, let it fade and give it some time, just like China's "blank space".

Use it to chat and communicate first. When you have a familiar feeling of communication with your customer, he will gradually trust you and be willing to cooperate with you.

Communication and chatting skills with others. Dating and chatting skills

1, good at finding topics

Cut to the theme with the topic you are good at. For example, why you chose this restaurant, what interesting places are there, and what's new recently. Remember to look each other in the eye when you speak. You must make eye contact and observe each other's reaction. Generally, you can know the topic she is interested in from her tone of voice. In communication, you must not talk to yourself. Communication and interaction is king.

Step 2 leave a good impression on each other

In fact, girls are very concerned about details, with natural expressions and casual and comfortable manners. Don't be too formal, speak clearly and generously, which will make people feel confident, have seen the world, smile, be positive and optimistic, and be enthusiastic and cheerful. Please remember, boys must not cross their legs or smoke. Please remember to go to the smoking section. Men must give women a sense of security, don't hesitate, and be confident that others will infect others. The language is powerful and concise, generous and powerful.

Step 3 control time

If there are fewer topics for two people to date, then the first date must be controlled. Not too long. For too long, there is nothing to say between you. When talking about a topic of interest, you can pause for a while and listen to the other person's thoughts. Many times, a good listener will be liked. Sometimes, you can't expose all your things at the beginning, keep a little mystery, leave a little sense of topic, and give each other some ideas that you want to meet again next time.

In addition, in terms of dating and chatting skills, both boys and girls should not be busy eating by themselves when eating. For food and this meal, you can talk about your understanding of various dishes. Many girls don't resist desserts for studying in the food market, and a delicate dessert will quickly capture the hearts of girls.

Second, how to find the topic of chatting and dating?

1, talk about what he is interested in.

Generally speaking, people feel more comfortable when they talk about themselves or what they like. Why? Because everyone knows a lot about these topics and has already thought about them, let's talk about his favorite books, movies, or music, sports and so on. Guide the other person to speak a little more and ask her what she is interested in. Of course, you should listen carefully and nod your head from time to time to make a good impression.

2. Tell me something interesting

If the other person's interest is over, you can see that the other person is a shy person, so you should talk more. If the familiar majors are all science and technology, and girls can't understand them, don't keep talking just to express yourself. In this case, the other party will feel bored if they don't understand, so you can talk about some interesting topics you know.

3. Talk about work and the future.

You can talk to each other about your plans for work, and whether you have dreams about your future work plans and future plans. These can not only make two people have a topic of dating and chatting, but also see if there is a big gap between your dreams and goals, not on the same channel.

4. Family and friends

Family members are people we have known since childhood, so there are often many interesting topics. If you talk about family members with girls, it will bring you closer to her. But you must share your information first, for example, from the topic of I have a friend, before you can ask the other person's information, otherwise the other person may not want to talk about it!

5, the principle of proximity

If chatting and dating really can't find a topic, you can also focus on the place to eat and start the topic. What do you think of this place? What is the environment like? Is the overall layout ok? Say something that you both can see now. After she says it, you can agree.