Tell me, young Xia.

Your attitude and image. Sincerity and frankness are the most important. Confession is not only shallow, but also courage. After she knows who you are and what you want, she will be relieved even if you ask too much. If she doesn't understand what you want, she thinks you are more dangerous.

You'd better appear as an ordinary person. Maybe you have watched too many novels and movies and are not satisfied with appearing in this image. But I'm telling you: you're not Superman. If you are too pretentious, it is unacceptable. There is no script in life, and you don't know what will happen in the next second, because ordinary people's brains simply can't process so much complicated information. If you pay too much attention to your glorious image, something will go wrong. Maybe you are standing downstairs, and the cool Star Master said, "It's a long night, I don't want to sleep …" The old lady upstairs put a basin of foot washing water on your head. You are not a star. You don't know what to do in such a situation, so you are short-circuited.

If you always keep the image of self-control, even if she accepts you, you will affect the other person, and she will be very stiff in front of you. That's why MM said, "I feel so tired with you." No matter how good a person is, he really wants to be cool, just once or twice occasionally. You can't always appear as a heartless person. If you are not interested in her, she will not be interested in you. And your own image is often decided at the beginning of contact, and you can't change it if you want to. Have you always been very steady and mature? Have you ever envied little P children fighting with MM recklessly? By the way, you are just an ordinary person with flesh and blood. Lower your noble head and put down your reserved self-esteem. Is it easy for us to accept a MM who is more like a naughty child in front of us?

All these should be put before you show your kindness, progress, perseverance and so on, otherwise it is meaningless. You have to be a man before you can fall in love and be kind and enterprising. If you are a god, the earth is not for you.

B rushed up to chat up. You may have seen many pickup techniques. If you ask me, those techniques are novel but the effect is not optimistic. And different from person to person, some skills can't be used-not only can't be used, can't be used at all. For example, last month I went shopping with my friends and met a beautiful woman. My friend caught up with him, then turned around and took a puff at that beautiful woman ..... and succeeded. Isn't that cool? If you learn from him, you won't hold your eyes well and have five more fingerprints on your face.

In other words, it is not feasible to simply learn other people's skills. As we all know, there is a muscular man named Stallone who was born with a pair of dead fish eyes and practiced in front of the mirror for tens of thousands of times before he could barely act in a movie. Again: one minute on stage, ten years off stage. Eight years ago, when I was a child, my friends and I chased MM together in the street.

We should not only practice, but also have correct theoretical methods. For example, judging whether a MM is a beauty from behind. Do people often do such things? Do they often make mistakes as a result? It can't be done without correct theoretical guidance. The theory is: don't look at the figure, look at the bones. Isn't it amazing to infer appearance from skull? It can't be wrong to look at a thousand mm (literally, there are more than a thousand. )

If you don't understand the theory, just learning skills is like learning other people's fencing without a sword, which can be said to be useless. Without the same individual, it is impossible to step into the same river twice. No matter how much you learn, how can you apply the same skills to different people? You can't even use it on the same person under different conditions. Even if Chen Chijin only knows three axes, people know when to use which one.

The theoretical premise of chatting up is to make the other party accept it. This is a common theory, even nonsense. But ordinary people forget this basic thing in pursuit of some fancy "tricks" What's the use of subtle tricks if you can't even reach the most basic purpose? Let the other side accept it or make it easy for the other side to accept it. This is something that everyone should keep in mind.

And to make people accept you easily, you must first be natural and reasonable. What is nature? A nurse, MM, it is natural for you to go to the hospital to find her for an injection. A student MM, you say in front of her: "My name is XXX, which level and which major." It's natural ... when you meet a senior, you say, "I want to chase you, I want to chase you." When I met my sister, I said, "I will protect you in the future." And my friend is an old rascal, and that MM looks very open. Blow her a cigarette. It's a steady change. Seeking novelty based on nature, not seeking nature based on novelty; We can't be wrong about this relationship. If we are wrong, there is no hope.

Then the expression is simple, direct and effective. Let people know who you are and what you want to do. The best way is to introduce yourself and make a speech, but it's a pity that MM won't appreciate it. Wang Xiaobo's simple word "take off" is shameless and direct, but it is much more effective and lovely than going around many bends. Of course, you can't say "take off" at the beginning, but this example can impress you.

Finally, we should also consider environmental factors. If a place is noisy, you can't express it too delicately. Not in school, you can't use "my name is XXX", so people will think you sell insurance. You can even express your intention without voice. For example, on the bus, a MM wants to get on the bus with a big box, and you reach out to help her carry it without saying anything-provided that you don't look like a robber.

These seemingly complicated methods and techniques, as long as you remember the premise and cooperate with environmental factors, you will know when to use which trick.

No matter how long the road is, step by step, it won't be long. You should set the expected goal at the beginning of your relationship with mm, such as contacting you for the first time. You should have a goal in mind: let her say her name or ask for her contact information, even make her smile in front of you, and even you can talk for three minutes. If you mess around aimlessly, you will not only get twice the result with half the effort, but also lose your motivation. You may never find her again. )

Tips.

Your evaluation of others usually affects them. For example, an introverted MM, if you praise her warmly and generously, will probably appear in front of you with a warm and generous image in the future. Since then, it has changed her character. However, it should be noted that this evaluation must be positive. If you say she is lazy ... of course, she may deliberately show that she is not lazy in the future, but she will not have a good impression on you. This assessment must also be made at the beginning of contact. When you get to know her, it is hypocritical to say that she is warm and generous, so it is not influencing her, not just flattering her, but also flattering her.

You probably can't remember so many clauses, because other people's nature is a subconscious acquired in many battles, and it is very reluctant for you to recite these before getting cold feet. In fact, you can think of the first contact as the second. If the embarrassing first time has passed, this is your second contact with her. This will make you more natural.

4 siege

No matter how effective your first contact is, as long as you are not beaten, strongly rejected or motivated, you will meet the premise of the attack.

The hardest part is actually in the beginning You have finished the hardest part. What's left? But because the hardest part has been done, you can still choose to give up. You've got practice. Anyway, you are not interested in that city. It is a good choice to muddle through.

But I have to assume that you choose to attack because you say you are inexperienced. Before you decide to attack, I have two things to say.

A If you don't want to hurt others, you have to make her notice your three-point joke and careless attitude. Originally, our premise was to make everyone happy, and then you can get away easily in the future. If you let MM believe that you are serious at the beginning, you will run away after catching up, and maybe you will be hacked to death one day. -if you walk for a long time at night, you will hit a ghost. Not only that, only with higher benevolence can we practice higher martial arts. These contradictions will eventually be unified, which I will talk about in the next section.

B it's not easy to chase someone, and it's even harder to chase someone without feelings. Not serious attitude is just for her to see, just your attitude towards this relationship, not the attitude you pursue. You have to chase it honestly and seriously. Make sure the attack can't stop before you get out, at least not by the way. Perseverance in anything will have good results; Don't be like the college classmate I mentioned above. You can chase after him if you want, and wait for a few months if you don't want to chase him. In this case, you are doomed to catch up with anyone and waste limited resources.

Are you still going to attack?

The pursuit of theoretical guidance is to make her happy and make her feel. Is it easy to do? The easiest way to pursue it is to let her talk and laugh. I told this method to a scholar in high school, and my cousin became his girlfriend. -The world is beautiful. This shows that life may be simple, but you see it as complicated.

There are two models in this regard.

It all started with friends.

It should be noted that the "friends" mentioned here are different from ordinary friends. In other words, you start with a lower posture than the pursuer, but let MM understand your intention properly.

I mentioned "How to chase MM written by a MM". The author said: "Girlfriend is a fact, not a promise ... I know best that I didn't ask" Would you like to be my girlfriend "until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend! "So, don't rush to break the enough paper. The more hazy the situation, the better for you."

If you notice that fact, who will stop you from giving MM some aphrodisiac? Of course, we should pay attention to the results, but we can't ignore the process. If you just want to have sex, isn't it easier and more reliable to find a lady?

Many years ago, I was fascinated by such a long-term love solution. I also think that "if you don't mention' chasing' at all, then girls won't have a chance to' refuse' you." The successful examples are Mr. and Mrs. Zhang Cuishan. After practice, I found that this theory has limitations. First of all, it is difficult to guarantee that we can get along for a long time, unless it is my classmate, colleague, neighbor, etc. Secondly, the other party can't be a beauty, and there can't be competition. So what is the value of such a theory? Our goal is to catch up with anyone you may catch up with, not to let you choose a girlfriend among classmates, colleagues, neighbors, etc.

I have met many people, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". One sunny afternoon, I accidentally held her hand, kissed her, went to bed ... and finally broke up. If you play with MM on purpose, you can't break up. What if it is serious? It is not a crime for a man to cry. )

I said the reason for breaking up at the beginning: love is first and foremost a feeling, and feeling is based on feeling. There is no feeling of love in the process of ordinary friends becoming good friends and then becoming very, very good friends who talk about everything. If your love goes like this, then you should pay attention to giving each other feelings in the future. Otherwise, when someone like me stands in front of her and stubbornly says, "I'm here to chase you," you lose. Because she has never been chased by you, never had a strong heartbeat with you, never had excitement and expectation ... I may object to this, probably most people's love takes this road. Go back and ask your girlfriend, how many times have you appeared in her dreams?

This kind of love, which has the result first and then the name, will be vulnerable in my eyes if it is not consolidated. If you give it to someone who has never felt strong sensory stimulation, it only takes 4 hours to catch up with the shortest record of one mm, and the love story on Titanic should not be forgotten. Although it is a movie, it is reasonable to be accepted by people.

Don't talk so much nonsense. In short, remember that if you want to start with friends, you can only start with special friends. Don't break the paper, don't talk about pursuing, but you have to do what you say. The advantage of starting with friends is that the difficulty ahead is very low and it is easy to get started. This mode is more effective for dealing with uncompetitive MM below quasi-beauty, so you won't be too nervous. Don't underestimate this tension, if you are too nervous, you won't be able to play it out.

Of course, nervousness is also a feeling. The reason for your heartbeat is that there are neurological factors in it. It is not advisable to escape this feeling, so I recommend you to use another mode.

B was a suitor at first.

Starting as a suitor doesn't mean you have to say, "I'm here to chase you." Let's start with the classic confession. In fact, all this is self-evident. Unlike starting with friends, you have to break this paper and you can't get mixed up. Seize any opportunity to show love, even show love.

For example, when the sun sets, MM stands at the window, her eyes wander. This is a good opportunity. If you are her ordinary friend, good friend and friend who talks about everything, you can't seize this opportunity. What can you recite at most: "The sunset is infinitely beautiful and buried by the coming night." At worst, you can only say, "It's dark and windy, so be careful not to catch a cold." But you are a suitor, and there is no such restriction at all. So you can lean over and say, "Shall we all watch the sunset together in the future?" She was shocked by your feelings before she could react: "Bah. You are so cheeky, who wants to be with you? " Actually, you don't hate it You often make her happy and comfort her, don't you? So she's lying. Ignore what she says.

For example, if you "send" her home, you actually have to follow your thick skin. At this time, MM had an opinion: "Why are you always pestering me?" This is another chance. MM, how can asking questions not be an opportunity? You've been mopping for so long, it's time to start to understand. Give sb. a satisfactory answer quickly. If you are any of her friends, it is difficult to seize such an opportunity. The best you can do is say, "I care about you. Recently, there are a lot of BT on the street. " You have to use your brain to come up with such an answer. Since you are a suitor, you don't have to work so hard. I blurted out a sentence that I wanted to say for a long time, and even you were a little wronged: "Because I like you."

There are many such things, and MM will think, "Do you want to be with him? ... strange, how can I have such an idea. " MM is likely to think of what you did to make her happy today before going to bed, or laugh and scold her: "this bastard." Or moved to extrapolate (see "color empty"). Anyway, you gradually replaced the prince charming she expected. Quantitative change leads to qualitative change. She is used to having you around, and you gradually become an indispensable part of her life. She will call you when she is unhappy and think of sharing it with you when she is happy. Once the relationship between pursuing and being pursued is established, you will stand at the starting line. If there is competition, you must run. What if it's not? Without you, it would be the first, and the prizes are all yours.

Once MM admits or acquiesces in the pursuit of relationships, catching up with her is like going from Xinye to Xiangyang and all the way to Ye Ping. Fighters can arrive in one day.

Recommend the pursuer mode, mainly to exercise your thick skin. Indeed, it is difficult to start like this. What is difficult is that ordinary people can't stand such pressure. The thought of starting with a suitor makes you feel flustered and weak, doesn't it? In fact, no matter how good a pilot is, his body will react violently when climbing and diving vertically. At this time, close your eyes and let go of the joystick. Can you swing in the hangar? No In that case, even if you survive, you are not qualified to be a pilot. I have said long ago that you should exercise your psychological quality in order to wait for this day of being hit or even insulted.

No matter which pattern you like to practice, you have to consider returning it when it comes to her. Holding hands is the last fortress standing in front of you. After that, what is left is not pursuit but love. Now Enemy at the Gates, conquering it is a piece of cake. This is your best chance to escape and your last chance. If you continue to develop, you will have feelings. If you have a little love, you will not earn it.

Slaughterhouse It's not necessary. Don't hurt anyone unless necessary. Getting a MM that I don't love just bears some responsibilities and causes some troubles for no reason. Why waste your time and energy? Now don't worry about this MM, you have another friend of the opposite sex, and your capital is stronger. This may be harmful, but for her, contacting you is also an exercise. Moreover, happiness is far more than that disappointment. We caught up here. We go back and prepare to attack the next one. Your long-cherished MM is waiting for you. No? Remember, deficiency is better than abuse, and it will always happen.

four

Benevolent invincible

In fact, I should put this paragraph in a kit and solemnly give it to everyone, saying, "After a few years, when you meet a MM who can't catch up, take it apart and have a look. Remember to remember. "

This is because: without considerable experience, there will be no relevant understanding. When I was a child, I recited Tang poems and saw this sentence: "People don't know where to go, but peach blossoms are still smiling in the spring breeze." I don't even understand if I want to break my head. When we walked out of the ivory tower and returned to our school after many years, it was still delicious and colorful; In those days, those young cherry trees also became lush and colorful. The name you carved on the tree is still clear, but the person you first loved can't be found anymore. Look again at this time: "People don't know where to go, but peach blossoms are still smiling in the spring breeze." Such a sentence, you don't want to, don't want to understand and can't come out.

In the same way, only after the tempering I said above can you really understand what I am going to say next. Because if you haven't experienced a lot of what I have to say this time, you will think that I am inconsistent.

On the internet, I can't wait for three or five years to update this post, so I can only assume that this is many years after I first taught you to chase after MM, and now you have fought many battles and can keep pace with many lovers. You are no longer satisfied with going to the park with these insensitive MM's. You want to find a MM who makes you feel good, so you can stop pretending to be romantic.

So you found a good MM, but unfortunately she is not only beautiful and temperament, but also has a dignity in her temperament; That's something similar to some GG that is not angry and arrogant, which makes people afraid to face it. For example, in Zhang Yide, Guan Yunchang, people like Zhou Yu stopped there and didn't dare to scratch his heart, but the timid people were scared to death. In addition, this MM has been killed for a long time and has been seen by countless people. So in front of her, you are just better than a child who is at a loss, and you can say a few words. You get up the courage, either arrogant or deeply inferior, and you can't find the feeling of the past. And your attacks have been skillfully resolved by the other side, and there is no effect at all. Just as good as you? Not exactly. )

Congratulations on your luck in finding such a MM first. Good idea, too. Once you have such a MM, there is nothing to expect. However, to pursue such a MM, you must be in a leading position in your game.

When it comes to kung fu, I think of Tai Chi, form and meaning, and gossip, which are called the upper three classes, and can also be said to be the most powerful martial arts. All roads lead to the same goal. These are just different forms of attention. Kung fu itself has no advantages and disadvantages, and individual cultivation has its own advantages and disadvantages. ... if I want to use it as a metaphor, I want to say it more like Tai Chi.

Now that I am old Zhang Sanfeng, you are naturally a generation of young Xia Zhang Wuji. I'm going to teach a set of Tai Chi for chasing MM. Of course, I dare not compare with the real Tai Chi. The order has been changed.

Nothing. What caused the dust?

The first step is to make you forget.

Forget everything I told you many years ago, forget your own opinions, forget your achievements over the years, and forget your hard-won status as a big brother. You are still that little p-boy who knows nothing. In your eyes, there is neither "right" nor "wrong" in this world. You know love is infinitive, you can express or understand, you can't. For example, I told you that starting from the pursuer is to exercise. Why start with the pursuer? You can kneel down and propose to her, or you can say, "Tomorrow you will be my bride."

If you forget these things, you will reach the realm of not crossing the line. Everything you do in front of MM is unexpected and reasonable.

The wind is rustling and the water is cold.

The second step is to unify the contradictions and generate courage.

When you forget this, I'll tell you why it is said that only higher benevolence can practice higher kung fu. Taiji gives birth to two instruments, and everything is contradictory. There was nothing in this world, and the concepts of "right" and "wrong" came into being at the same time. If you don't know what is right, then you won't know what is wrong. If you pursue this contradictory aspect alone, you will encounter obstacles and bottlenecks if you go far enough. Just as you have been pursuing "truth, goodness and beauty", but you have no deeper understanding of "fake, evil and ugly", then your "truth, goodness and beauty" can only stay at a certain height. This is why a playboy GG is more single-minded than a person who has always been single-minded. Why should a person who knows kindness practice such lethal kung fu? Peace-loving people invented more terrible weapons.

I taught you from the beginning: if you like someone, you will openly conquer and hunt for sex. This is because our education of "fearlessness and great sacrifice" contradicts this naked pursuit of true self. At that time, I said this because ordinary people attach too much importance to fearlessness and self-sacrifice in love, that is, they have done too much in that respect and have reached the bottleneck.

Yes, these are two sides of the contradiction. Believe me, for so many years, you have gone too far in pursuing interests and satisfying your own desires, and you should pursue the spirit of selflessness and sacrifice in turn. Only by completely abandoning your own interests and forgetting the gains and losses of success or failure can you have the courage to throw a moth into the fire and die. And only this kind of courage can ensure that you will not flinch when standing in front of the last BOSS-level MM.

It is meaningless to emphasize this point before you have experienced a lot; At that time, you wouldn't believe at all: self-sacrifice and interest pursuit will eventually be unified, and even anything contradictory can be unified. What will happen if we are unified? In front of MM, you also feel inferior and painful. But that feeling is separated from your thinking, as if something is separated by a layer, and no matter what kind of blow, it can't touch your heart. Your spirit transcends your own feelings, and in your eyes there is only a fact as simple as a line. Don't you believe in this state? Have you seen Braveheart? As a real soldier, he may be more afraid of death than many ignorant people. However, only those who unite this cowardice and courage will finally say, "I am a hero again after eighteen years!" " "

After understanding this, you see the disdain and disgust in MM's eyes, your body wants to retreat, and your spirit objectively tells you: "How to change her view of me?" How long can I stay in front of her? "You have to do this first. On the premise of ensuring that you won't be killed, you can say that it is a big competition of strength.

By doing so, you won't back down at any time in your life. You have reached the same height as those legendary heroes. If necessary, you can plug the leak and blow up the bunker. Of course, I'm not asking you to make unnecessary sacrifices. You should find comfort in danger and excitement. You are very confident, aren't you? If you are hit, you will never die. At this time, your courage will no longer be limited by your psychological quality, and you can behave completely beyond your normal level like Li Xunhuan. The greater the pressure, the more outstanding your performance will be, and the stronger you will be. The more MM attacks you and despises you, the more it sets off your unshakable quality.

Also like rouge painting peony.

The third step is that you practice again.

Chinese painting pays attention to artistic conception and verve. It is a leap from form to spirit, and it is also the most important criterion to measure you. Painting peony must be glamorous, painting cold plum must be aloof, painting pine and bamboo must have integrity ... Good works meet this condition. If you can only achieve modeling, then you will never create a masterpiece handed down from generation to generation. Reciting other people's theories is only a means, not an end.

There is a saying: double cultivation is for personal use. The meaning of this sentence is: the body should be cultivated in two ways? I appreciate your idea very much, but the original meaning of this sentence is: "Everything in the world has a form, and there is a form in the form." Body is quality, and users are the wonderful use of quality. Words are used to support the body. This is the Tao. "Used here means: on the one hand, it is the cultivation of abstract theories, on the other hand, you should apply all these theories. It is only useful to understand it by saying "sincerely open the stone" You have to carve it into your brain and become subconscious. If you think of this sentence every time you do something, you will no longer be a mediocre guy. If you really know the method of double major, your reaction will be faster than your thinking, so it doesn't matter even if you are born with poor qualifications. (What we say: "Diligence can make up for mistakes" also means something. )

Under this premise, with the continuous understanding of the pros and cons of a thing, we will continue to enrich ourselves in depth and breadth, and finally reach the realm of light desire and heavy desire. To do this, no matter what happens, you can react faster and do better than others. When MM feels cold and others are still thinking about what to do, your coat has been put on her shoulder.

A moment that should last forever.

The last step is to ask you to give up.

I understand that you are serious this time and don't want to give up. But there are MM in this world that you can't catch up with. Not those you can't touch, like any twin. You can't see a shadow, so where do you catch up? Or maybe you have committed something, been raised by the government, and there is no MM around you. Everyone has learned the immortality theorem of matter, and we can't make it out of nothing.

We're talking about people you can reach. No matter how good your kung fu is, there are still people you can't catch up with. As I said before, talent, strength, experience and skills. I also said that in the end, you and MM started a strength competition. You are talented, experienced and skilled, but you have no strength. This strength refers more to money, which is helpless. You have chased many people, and you know that you don't need anything to chase MM, but you need everything. For example, before that, you read so many books, had so many hobbies, and had so many friends ... all these can be counted as needs, and they can also be said to be your strengths. Rome was not built in a day. Now you meet a MM, which means you are not strong enough. If you barely catch up, it is likely to be overdrawn, or you can't catch up or can't catch up. For example, MM wants a notebook, but you can't afford a good one, so you can only reluctantly buy her a second-hand one ... Instead of leaving this regret, it's better to give up at the beginning, try to accumulate your own capital and don't miss the next one.

Besides, this is due to factors beyond human control. One possibility is that you enter the competition as a player and the referee is not you. No matter how well you do, you won't necessarily win if you win everyone. MM may not choose you, because God knows. That's what "hit eight feet, one foot is hard to find" said. Another possibility is that MM is going to another city, and it is unrealistic to pursue it in different places. -Why didn't Alexander go to America? Once this happens, you don't have to worry about it anymore. If human power is compared to nature, it is like a candle trying to change the cold of the whole winter; The spirit is commendable, but the result can be imagined.

Giving up for any of the above reasons can only show deep sympathy. Although it is painful to give up like this-it is not that you can't catch up, but that the conditions limit you. But in any case, you have to let go of what you can't catch: you have to wait in the afterlife and then set foot on the beginning of each other's stories.

By the way. It is precisely because of these factors that some people say that they don't want to last forever, but just want to have it. It's not that I don't want to, it's really that I can't get the second best. Little p children don't know that the feelings that can last forever are also holding the attitude they once had and giving up the people they should cherish at will.

After completing the above four steps, you can award your lover the degree of old rascal. The class of chasing MM is over. At that time, when you came to see what others said, "What must be done to chase MM" or "What is necessary to chase MM", it was easy for you to understand.

First of all, it is indispensable. It is right to chase like this, and it is right to chase like that. No matter what you do, you can find an effective reason. Followed by seeing mountains or mountains, seeing water or water. MM angry is angry, happy is happy, there is no need to get to the bottom of it. No matter how beautiful the MM is, it is just an ordinary person. You won't feel anything special about them, and they can't have any bad influence on you. Finally, these theories and all your experiences are deeply rooted in your subconscious mind, and your every move is "murderous" Nothing can hide your sharpness, which is too sharp for ordinary MM to resist. The same thing, the same words, it makes people feel artificial and ridiculous when children do it, but you will show a kind of harmony. Any opportunity you seize is a series of continuous attacks. Unless you stop yourself, MM will have to respond to your every step. And her reaction falls into your calculation, even you react faster than her. The old man said: at this time, you go after MM, which is no different from my personal arrival. What you owe may just be the temperature.

However, all this soon became boring. Just like when I was a child, I saw people riding two-wheelers, which was wonderful and felt good; I was black and blue all over, but I seldom rode it after I learned it.

five

appendix

I have been reluctant to make things too specific, just pointing out the premise and direction. Just like writing a strategy, I think many details should be left to the players to explore. If you write down how to pursue arrogant MM and how to pursue introverted MM, your thinking will be easily restricted. Because of this, something seems to be missing.

Love letters Now you know that love letters can exist or not. If you must write, you must aim at everyone. Tell me your true feelings about her. So I never write love letters to others, because I don't like the MM he likes, and it's hard to impress MM if I write against my will. If I like it, I won't help him write it. Love letters are usually regarded as "hidden weapons", but in fact they are not as effective as face-to-face attacks. In black and white, you still boast about what MM doesn't like in your letter, which is not as flexible as have it both ways's face-to-face observation.