What do you think of "women, it is best not to be full-time wives for a long time"?

As a woman, I quite agree with this view!

Of course, I don't belittle my sisters who are full-time wives at all. I'm just expressing my opinion. Please don't mind. )

No matter what kind of family you marry, poor, average and rich. Strive for opportunities to participate in social work.

So as not to be out of touch with society and lose the ability to establish diplomatic relations with others! At least in this way, you can grow up with the external environment and make yourself better!

More importantly, you will be respected and affirmed by your husband's family, and you will be more capable of defending your dignity and family status!

A woman with a job will live a solid and fulfilling life! I have the ability to earn money, relying on my own talent, relying on my own ability, neither humble nor supercilious!

Woman, don't be an accessory to life at any time, let alone to marriage!

Women should make themselves more confident, attractive and valuable!

The above views only represent my personal views!

I think most people don't want to be full-time mothers. There are only two kinds of people who can be full-time mothers.

One is that the family is very rich, and the other is that no one takes care of the children and has to be a full-time mother at home.

Let's start with the first one. There is too much money at home to work. They can be full-time mothers, take care of children, cook, wash clothes, take care of their parents and go shopping when they are free.

However, there are also some disadvantages that will be looked down upon by her husband's family. She feels that she is spending her son's money every day. She also said that if you don't do anything at home, the children will play by themselves, so that the stay-at-home mother will be wronged. Obviously, after doing so much, others can't see it. On the other hand, it will be annoying to take care of the children at home. She is very tired and can't sleep well. Of course, families with good conditions can hire nannies, so the problem is not big.

The other is that the mother-in-law doesn't help with the children. At this time, stay-at-home mothers have no choice but to take care of themselves. Most of these families are not very rich and can't afford a nanny. They have to ask their husbands for money. At the same time, I have to do housework, take care of my children, and I can't bear to eat and dress myself. After a long time, people not only become ugly, but also have a bad temper and no money to go shopping. Husband doesn't like this kind of himself.

Of course, you can also be a full-time mother when you meet your husband's family, and you can do something you are interested in when you have nothing to do.

However, it is still not recommended to be a full-time mother. If you go to work by yourself, you will have income, and you don't need to ask anyone for money. This is a kind of self-confidence, and your husband's family will take it very seriously. You can dress up beautifully at work every day, make more friends, and get together with friends if you have nothing to do. This is the best.

The other is that there is no way. You must be a friend of a stay-at-home mom, and you must find a part-time job. You can find something you can do with your mobile phone or computer, or you can go to McDonald's for a part-time job when your child is in kindergarten. Anyway, it's best to do part-time work.

Go to work if you can. If you can't go to work, you should also work part-time. If you have time, you should dress yourself up. Just keep pace with the times.

I don't totally agree with this view!

The specific situation should be treated specifically! First of all, consider the woman's age and physical health. And family members. As a last resort, or enjoy a comfortable life?

Life is colorful! With the progress of the new era, the state also advocates a good policy of gender equality. It is no longer the pedantic traditional concept that men are superior to women in the old society! lovely

As women in the new era, we should adapt to the development of the new era.

As long as you are young and healthy, as long as you don't have to go out of the house and work as much as possible because of the special circumstances of family members. Can't derail with society!

Life will be meaningful because happy work can enrich your life!

However, some women have to do it!

For example, after marriage, we should not only take care of the elderly, but also take care of the healthy children, and also take care of the meals and environmental sanitation of the extended family members. There is no way to have to give up your beloved job!

Actually! Full-time women are very hard!

For the harmony of the extended family, for the elderly and children of the extended family, and for each member of the extended family to have a comfortable living environment, full-time women have no choice! This reflects the excellent quality of the great oriental women of our Chinese nation!

Therefore, we cannot generalize. Look at being a full-time woman at home objectively.

I am Saussurea involucrata, and I love life. I hope my answer can help you open your doubts!

Answer: I agree. It is best not to be a full-time wife for a long time. The economic base determines the superstructure. Since there is no source of income, it is not just happiness that is lost. ...

I have a little hairy forest. When I was young, my husband started a company in the sea and made some money. Considering Lin's hard work, he wants her to quit her job as a full-time wife and give her 1000 yuan a month. At that time, Lin's salary was almost 200 yuan a month, 1000, which can be said to be sufficient and generous. However, Lin Jian never agreed. She said that the college entrance examination changed the fate of her rural child, and she finally had a stable job, which she could not bear to give up. Facts have proved that Lin is right. In a few years, Lin's husband turned bad, turned against others and found a mistress with an age of 12. She not only had a showdown with Lin, but even tried to seize the property. At work, Lin, who is smart and opinionated, asked her good colleagues to help her make suggestions. A colleague asked her husband, a lawyer, to help Lin win the lawsuit. Lin is self-reliant, raising children independently, and has changed from an ordinary employee to a high-level unit. Her life is plain and happy. Lin called a few days ago, 1.5 years later. She bought a house next to Wuyishan Scenic Area with several girlfriends, and prepared to support the elderly in a beautiful environment. Her son and his family who work in Beijing also like to go.

The other is a relative. When he was young, he worked as a temporary teacher in a children's primary school. At that time, people expected him to turn to public service. Her husband drove for the leader in a unit, and drivers who drove for the leader were very popular in the early 1990 s. She didn't go to work after giving birth. At that time, I also advised her to take an examination of her academic qualifications while going to work and strive to transfer to a public teacher. She said disdainfully, What's the point of getting that salary? Later, her husband became an assistant to the boss of a company with a good income. She plays cards at home all day, sings in K Hall and goes shopping to buy famous brands. It's very happy. A few years later, when her husband became a mistress, she could only turn a blind eye. It's a pity that she was addicted to mahjong tables, didn't educate her son well, and when she was old, she idled and gambled outside. The creditor detained his son, said he would not pay back the money, and cut off his son's hand to pay off the gambling debt. The family economy returned to "before liberation", and her husband suspected that she was old and faded (she was three years older), lost confidence in her son, and simply divorced her and lived with Xiaosan. Bad things happen one after another.

A woman, unless her mother's family is very rich (or has a huge sum of money in her name), can make you worry about food and clothing all your life. Unless you can ensure that men are responsible and love you for life, it is too risky to be a full-time wife, and it is not recommended to do it for a long time.

Women had better not be full-time wives for a long time. I don't agree. Being a stay-at-home wife doesn't have to be so sad.

Who will take care of a woman once she gets married and has children? If there are elderly people at home, you can help with the children. What if there is no one at home to help? Is it a nanny? I hired a nanny myself. To tell the truth, there are several nannies who take care of their children sincerely. In recent years, there have been many black-hearted nannies abusing children in the news. Even if you meet a good nanny, can you have a mother to take care of the children?

Let's talk about it. The old people at home help with the children. The old man has worked hard to raise his children all his life. Why do they have to help their children when they are old? They have worked hard all their lives, shouldn't they enjoy their leisure?

I am a full-time wife. I have three children. The old man at home is in poor health and can't help me with my children. I have hired nannies before, and one is not as good as the other. Later, I simply brought my own. Because there is no one to help, and there are three children to take care of, there are many chores at home, not only to take care of the family's life, but also to help them do their homework. Sometimes I really feel that life is a chicken feather, but I can also experience a lot of fun. The children's growth bit by bit and progress step by step can make me feel gratified.

Because there are many children, the family naturally forms a big band and a small band. The three children are relatively independent, sensible, grateful and sharing. Because I love food cooking, I often take my children to cook all kinds of food together, which is also enjoyable; I like flowers and plants, and many colorful flowers are planted at home to decorate my life.

And I also have my own living space. When my children go to school during the day, I will dress myself up beautifully, arrange myself to study, attend classes, attend salons or chat with friends, have tea, enjoy flowers, taste wine, go shopping ... and keep learning and improving myself, so as to keep pace with the times. As a stay-at-home wife, I am not completely dependent on my husband financially. I also work part-time and have my own income.

We should not only take good care of our children, but also communicate with our husbands frequently. We can talk about family life, children's education or work, and I can also offer some suggestions for discussion.

Seeing my silent dedication to my family, my husband is more concerned and responsible for my family. Our family will arrange to travel abroad twice a year, and the whole family will constantly broaden their horizons.

So I don't think being a stay-at-home wife is necessarily sad. The key is what you do. Many women in the workplace are not necessarily happy. As a woman, I think the key for both housewives and working women is to be self-confident, self-reliant and self-reliant, constantly improve themselves both at home and abroad, and keep pace with the times, so as not to be dragged down by life and eliminated by society.

If there is a job in this world that is available 24 hours a day, has no year-end bonus or even salary, and is discriminated against, it must be a full-time wife.

First, let others look down. Stay at home all day, accompany the children, wait on the husband and clean up. I completely became a senior domestic nanny who accompanied me to eat and sleep, and my home was cleaner than my face. Wash clothes, cook and clean from Monday to Friday, study with children on Saturday and Sunday, and make up lessons. Husband will give you a smiling face when he comes back in a good mood, and he will look down on you with anger when he is in a bad mood. I support you, but you don't make money, you are nothing. A woman was tired to death after a busy day at home. Her husband's words made her feel worse and her heart cooled. Do you still have dignity? Second, it can't reflect its own value. Women must go out and have a job of their own, even if they don't necessarily earn a lot of money. This is a kind of value. Only when you create value for society will society recognize you and others will recognize you. When you get the money you earn, you can spend it with peace of mind and happiness, because you don't have to ask your husband for money anymore. When you earn more money than your husband, he will look at you and even wash and cook for you. At that time, you not only had freedom and dignity, but also had the ability to control your own life. Women, economic independence is the most important.

Third, it is difficult to set an example for children. It is difficult for a nanny mother to raise a good child, because every day the child will watch what you are doing and he will have his own ideas. In his eyes, you can cook, wash clothes and take care of children, so you can't give him more hope. And a good working woman, children will see in her how to set goals, how to make unremitting efforts for their own goals, and the sense of accomplishment after reaching the goals. This is the real role model for children. The power of example is infinite, which will have a far-reaching impact on children's future growth, and it is subtle. The most difficult thing for a full-time wife is not endless loneliness and tedious housework. The hard part is that the other party can't see your efforts and efforts. The hard thing is that you can't get social recognition and respect outside, and you can't get your husband's understanding after you go home. Are you willing to do this?

Women, it is better not to be full-time wives. I am a woman, and I agree with this view. I like women's independence.

Why can't you be a full-time wife for a long time? What are the disadvantages of being a full-time wife?

1. Being a full-time wife is an unprofessional occupation. It is not easy to work hard at home for housework and children, but in the eyes of outsiders and husbands, it is a leisurely life at home, which is not understood and is suspected of thankless.

2, being a full-time wife at home, basically not interacting with the society, in the long run, the mind is not open, the vision is relatively narrow, which is not conducive to the formation of individual independent thoughts and is highly dependent on men.

No matter how much you love your husband, being a full-time wife has no economic autonomy. Whoever earns money will master the financial power, giving you a fixed living allowance every month, and spending money is timid.

I have no right to speak at home. Because staying at home for a long time, full-time wives will become insecure, thinking that they don't know what's going on outside, and they are afraid to make decisions at home, so they will listen to their husbands.

5. There is no guarantee for providing for the aged, because the husband earns money alone. If your husband leaves you one day, you will have no financial resources, and the problem of providing for the aged is a problem. Unless you have endowment insurance and rich savings, it is really hard to tie your personal destiny to another person. So it is better to rely on others than on yourself.

6. When a man betrays you, because you have tied your happiness to that man, you will feel that you have lost miserably, that you have nothing in life, that you are unable to work to support yourself, and that you are unable to get back the custody of your children. Of course, this is just in case.

If the family conditions are good, the husband's income is enough to maintain the family's economic life, and women can't leave home, it is not impossible to be a full-time wife at home, but women should not just lie at home and look after the kitchen and children, but also have their own social circle and pay attention to improving themselves. Don't widen the gap with men, let men see your self-worth in marriage, and at the same time think more about your future and leave yourself a way out.

In short, in modern society, men and women are economically independent, and some families really need a full-time wife. Be a smart and enterprising full-time wife, not a lazy full-time wife who only does housework.

According to my experience, I suggest: don't be a full-time wife for a long time, and don't give yourself any reasons to be a full-time wife.

There are many reasons for being a full-time wife, such as taking care of children, taking care of the elderly, poor health and so on.

I am a woman, too. Retired in March this year. Joined the work at the age of 20, and retired for exactly 30 years this year; This year, my daughter graduated from college and was admitted to the graduate school of her choice. Look, it's so easy now, but it's so emotional all the way.

Stay-at-home wives are in fashion now. At that time, it was quite unacceptable that neither men nor women had jobs, and so were our parents. They work harder, but they are proud of their jobs.

I also experienced the process of birth, taking care of children and picking up and dropping off schools. During this period, it was also difficult and difficult. In order to take care of the children and go home, finding a job is greatly restricted, but no matter how difficult it is, I insist on working and going to work. No matter how much your husband loves you, women should have their own financial resources!

Everyone has bad habits, men and women alike. Confidence is based on the value of self-expression. If people want to respect you, they should make themselves valuable. In the same way, being a husband and wife is the same. Family status also needs to be fought for. Needless to say, I feel like a full-time wife. Just waiting for someone to give me money every month, I feel powerless, let alone status.

It is because I know that women are particularly difficult, so the cultivation of my daughter, especially my heart, is to expect her to have the ability to support herself under any circumstances and live a quality life that is not dependent on anyone.

I have been married for 25 years until I retire (I am here now), but my husband still respects me very much. This respect must have something to do with my husband's personality, but I earned it myself.

So you don't have to be a full-time wife. There is really no way, and try not to let yourself be a full-time wife for too long.

A woman has been a full-time wife for a long time. In one case, she was forced to be a full-time wife at home. No one takes care of the children, and she has no stable job, so she has to take care of the children at home. The other is that family conditions are superior, and women do not need to go out to work to earn money to support their families. Another kind is that lazy women don't want to go out to work, so they have to stay at home and be full-time wives.

I am the first one. After I got married, I made a living by doing business in other places. I had been helping my husband before I had children. After having children, I can only take care of them at home. But sometimes my husband is too busy, and I still have to take the children to help.

With Bauer, it can't help at all. If you consider a big baby and a small baby, how can you help them? The two children have been busy enough, and they have really become full-time nannies since then.

The second is good family conditions. Men earn money and women spend money. This is the real stay-at-home wife. People who have money to spend money are suffering. They don't have to work hard for their lives. They go out shopping to buy clothes every day, get together with their little sisters to chat and enjoy the beauty of life.

The third kind is a lazy woman who doesn't want to go out to work. She stayed at home all day, followed the drama, lived a muddled life, had no pursuit and ambition, muddled along, ate and drank, and virtually became a full-time wife.

No matter what kind of full-time wife, I think women should have their own careers, their own preferences, and spend their own money with peace of mind. Even if her husband gives money, they always feel that the money they earn is not at ease.

Mu Zi also agrees with this view very much. Women had better not be full-time wives for a long time. Because the occupation of a stay-at-home wife is easily defined by others as a person who "earns money only by her husband and does nothing all day", and the economy is controlled by others, so it is impossible to achieve real "economic freedom", so Mu Zi does not recommend girls to be stay-at-home wives for a long time. But this is not to deny that all women who are full-time wives can be full-time wives. It depends on whether their husbands can understand their "work". Mu Zi answered this question from two aspects: "Why it is best for a girl not to be a full-time wife" and "Under what circumstances is it suitable to be a full-time wife".

First, why is it best for girls not to be full-time wives? Because the occupation of full-time wife is easily defined by others as a group of people who only rely on their husbands to make money, but do nothing all day. Among them, "others" may include not only relatives and friends around the subject, but even their own partners. Without the understanding of relatives and friends, the subject may face their pointing fingers and bear certain public pressure; Without her husband's understanding, the nature of the problem will be more serious. It is difficult to achieve "economic freedom" in the family, and even be accused by the husband. Then the two men had a series of contradictions.

Therefore, Mu Zi advised girls not to be full-time wives. This is not because all men in the world can't understand the work of a stay-at-home wife, but because we should rely on ourselves more than trusting and relying on others. In the face of many problems, we are more confident to deal with them, instead of always feeling constrained by others and suppressing ourselves.

Knowing that being a full-time wife may be constrained by the other half, why are many women still willing to choose to be a full-time wife?

On the one hand, it may be that no one at home takes care of children, parents are old and weak, or it is too much trouble to take care of children. On the other hand, the child is a piece of meat that falls from the mother, so she should participate in every stage of the child's growth in time. But sometimes we just make a choice, but we don't consider the result after the choice, so when we face the choice, we should consider all aspects of the problem and try to come up with the best solution with our husband.

Take the first case as an example. If the financial conditions of the subjects' families are ok, then the couple can consider asking a nanny to take care of the children. If the family's financial situation is relatively difficult, the subjects can discuss with their husbands who will stay to take care of the low-paid children, but also consider the difficulties of the child-care party, and the working party should give the child-care person the greatest financial security. In the second case, the subject has a very strong desire to take care of the children, but at this time, she should also consider the family economic situation and the wishes of the other half, and have a clear time division for the occupation of a "full-time wife", so she can wait until the children go to school before continuing to work.

Second, under what circumstances is it suitable to be a full-time wife? Being a full-time wife should meet the following three points: first, from the subject's own point of view, she had better be a full-time wife; Second, the husband's salary is enough to maintain the expenses and operation of a family; Third, the topic of being a full-time wife has been understood and supported by her husband, and he had better have the idea that full-time wives and workers only have different division of labor in a family, and they are both paying for the family, not much.

Only by meeting the above three points, the experience of a full-time wife will not repeat the same mistakes as the subjects, and the husband will not misunderstand the subjects because of conceptual prejudice, thinking that it is easy to be a full-time wife, but it is hard to earn money outside, and the subjects may be happy in the career of a full-time wife. In this case, the subject can be a competent full-time wife without any burden.

Conclusion In fact, sometimes, Mu Zi thinks that there are too many prejudices against women in society. For example, when a family needs to take care of their children at home full-time, most people think that their wives should take care of their children, which is also related to the family education concept they have received since childhood. But in fact, it is not necessary for a wife to take care of the children, but a decision made after two people truly respect each other. One prejudice may be prejudice against stay-at-home wives. Many men feel tired of working outside to earn money, and their wives enjoy the money they earn at home all day, so she should boss around by herself. But they ignored two points: first, full-time wives and workers are actually two kinds of division of labor in the family, and there is no question of who pays more and who pays less; The second point is the lack of mutual understanding. A husband doesn't think from the wife's point of view. A stay-at-home wife has to do housework at home and cook for her husband. Finally, she has to bear the hardship of taking care of children, just as hard as a man working outside. A husband should understand her from the wife's point of view, instead of complaining blindly.