Is it a bad stepmother to ignore her stepson, not to fight, not to scold and not to abuse him?

No, stepmother is hard to do. If you ask too many questions, you will be accused of meddling and being a bad stepmother. Because you were not born to him, your views on stepmother and biological mother are also 98 thousand miles different. This is the most difficult relationship to handle. Unless you have no hard feelings for your stepmother, take the initiative to find her. Whatever you want, it naturally becomes a mother-daughter relationship.