When you fall in love, you want her to be your girlfriend, not for you to be her cash machine.

When falling in love, we must always remember one truth: You are here to let her be your girlfriend, not for you to be her cash machine

That Why do some boys chase girls and become their cash machines?

Let’s talk about it first

What is a human cash machine: you pay endlessly for her, but you don’t get anything in return from her

Why would anyone be willing to be a cash machine? Here we are going to talk about a gambler’s mentality. What is a gambler’s mentality?

When a gambler loses money, he wants to win back what he lost. The result is that he loses more and more, and then the gambler will lose his mind more and more. He always thinks: This is It’s the last chance. The big bet is to win back all the losses at once. Then you won’t bet anymore

As a result, you know that you lost again, so just like that, you lose more and more. , always want to win everything back in the end, and lose even more

The gambler mentality is not just for gamblers, everyone has it, because the more costs you pay in the early stage, the less likely you are to If you are willing to give up just like that, you will convince yourself that I have persisted for so long and it would be a pity to give up. If I persist a little longer, it will be my turn.

The result is that you are stuck in it and can't extricate yourself.

So how do men in love fall into the psychological dilemma of gamblers?

First of all, when a boy meets a girl he likes, he will start to be irrational, get dizzy, and want to give all the good things he has to the girl, so the girl will not have any When you give, you have already given a lot

Secondly, girls who treat boys like cash machines are all scumbags at the rank level. The boys they meet are better than the girls that novice boys meet. There are too many

Otherwise, you will not be able to become a high-ranking scumbag, nor can you play around with boys

When you are dizzy and have paid a lot, start When you have a clear mind, you ask her for a clear answer. At this time, in order to prevent you from running away as a cash machine, she will give you a specious answer

For example:

Give me some time, I will think about it again

It makes you feel that you have a chance, so in order to increase the pressure and get her to give you a more clear and affirmative answer, you have to pay more, but In fact, at this point, except for her words, you have not received any substantial feedback for your efforts

In fact, at this time, you have entered the gambler's dilemma. You have paid to gain her favor, and she Without giving a clear answer, you work harder, hoping to get a clear answer from her

Finally, finally, she gives you an answer, but her answer is: I still haven’t fallen in love with you, I’m sorry

At this time, a scumbag with some conscience will let you go, but you may not be able to let yourself go. A scumbag without a conscience will still take your advantage

Because You have already paid so much in the early stage, and if you give up, it means that all your previous efforts have been in vain, all in vain, and there is no possibility of getting anything in return. And if you continue to pay, there may be a slight change, and she may change her mind. Although the hope is very, very slim, there is hope after all

And you also feel that she has not fallen in love with you. It is because you are not doing well enough, so under the guidance of these two wrong thoughts, you will even increase your efforts and continue to pay

The result is that the more you pay, the more reluctant you are to give up, until one day, You are overwhelmed

So how to avoid boys falling into the gambler's dilemma in love:

1. Don't rush to give

2. Give a little, If there is no corresponding reward, stop immediately and stop the loss in time

3. Learn and have the correct thinking about love. One of them is, don’t expect to bribe girls by paying money to get the girl’s love for you in return

This is a sign of a man’s inability to love

Only those who don’t understand love , only men who don’t know how to love will bribe girls with money and beg for this kind of love