Youth inspirational touching story

Conditional friends can often look for some, so what are they? Let's have a look.

It is the great wisdom of young people to do it first and then say it.

Author: Su Mang

People like us who live in fashion circles repeatedly have long been used to walking into the hole of time difference, not only between Beijing and Paris, but also between Shanghai and Milan. We watched the model's tulle swaying on the overpass in fur. We just made zongzi with Nini on the Dragon Boat Festival in May, and in a blink of an eye, the midsummer in August spread all over the country with her smiling face.

However, these are not the jet lag I want to talk about. There is a kind of time difference, which is worse. I call it visual time difference. One day, you suddenly want to climb the mountain. It seems that the height of the mountain is only a few hundred meters, and it takes only two hours to climb back and forth. You are going to wash your face in the mountain spring, visit the shops on the hillside, buy an ice cream to take photos at the church on the top of the mountain, and then go down the mountain before the sun shines on your head.

However, the hypothesis is just a hypothesis, and you can't predict what kind of scenery you will see and what kind of strangers you will meet. Whether there is a church on the top of the mountain is not even for you to decide. So, your entanglements, choices, and plans are just fantasies.

People always say that if you want to succeed, choice is greater than effort. However, for young people, what is worse is over-selection. When you can't see the whole picture, don't rely on assumptions to piece it together. It seems that only such a sense of form can be responsible for yourself. In fact, before the age of 30, as long as you are smart, diligent and have a good personality, and are willing to concentrate on doing only one thing for ten years, you will surely succeed. Young you are far from mature enough to make a choice.

Many excellent post-80s generation asked me about my career choice: "Should I give up my stable job and start my favorite career from scratch?" ? But will there be nothing? ""How can I become a woman like you? " "Should I get married or start a business first? Should we get married and have children before starting a business? "... I just want to say: Son, you think too much. Don't think about anything before you do it.

Today's young people are facing an era of diversified values and many opportunities. It seems that they made the right decision, just like betting on treasure, which changed their fate in an instant. In fact, in this seemingly arachis duranensis era, doing is more important than thinking.

You are too young to make a hasty decision. You don't even know what you really want. How can we look at the whole world and weigh the pros and cons? You can't see the whole world at all. In your experience, you can't even see half a game. With your current wisdom and vision, you can't see the scenery upstairs, a bigger game of chess, accidents, opportunities and risks. You live in a 20-year-old body, but you have to imagine that you must reach the peak of your life at the age of 35 with an advanced and mature mind, so as to infer how to invest accurately every day in the future 15 years.

Your so-called rational analysis, perfect inference and impeccable life planning are all buildings built on ice floes, which may collapse at any time. You can never spell out a comprehensive plan that can be advanced, attacked, retreated and defended. If there is, it must have died of a false strategy of moderation. Don't be afraid to change, lose, be unknown, get out of control, turn sharply, be challenged, or even-don't know what you are afraid of. These fears come from your desire for success, lack of security and anxiety about unfulfilled ambitions.

When people get old, they will be afraid of losing control, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and stand still. And you, young and beautiful, are like a young gambler who jingles in his pocket and smells of hormones. Whether you win or lose, you dare to make endless bets with the world. Only by doing it first and walking first can we see the scenery in the next step and see the bigger river, and then we know how to go next. Don't think so much, it's no use. You should take the first step in 1 minute, not one or two years, to calculate the risk of gain and loss.

It is the great wisdom of young people to strike first. If there are some choices to be made before the age of 30, then there are only:

Follow your heart at every intersection. Listen to your inner voice and you will never regret it.

: not afraid of living a good life

Author: Han Songluo

I have a friend, just call her V. Every time I think of her story, I always feel blocked.

V grew up in a seemingly rigorous but harsh family, and his parents grew up in want, fearing that giving their children a good face would corrupt them. As a daughter and a second child, she became an out-and-out sandwich biscuit. Her whole childhood and adolescence were spent in the humiliation, dwarfing and uglification of her parents, and her appearance, academic performance and housework level were severely criticized.

The consequences of all this gradually emerged after she became an adult. The university volunteered. She thought that she "couldn't get into a good school, and it would be a joke to enroll in a too good school", and only enrolled in one or three colleges, although her grades were enough for her to go to a better place. At school, whenever the teacher shows her importance, she begins to escape and refuse. Her denial of herself lasted the whole college life, including all the opportunities a college student might get. She thinks that she is "impossible to give a speech on stage, and she will definitely screw up", "completely impossible to be competent for the work of the student union" and "short legs and unable to dance on stage". With this mentality on stage, she really degenerated.

Stumbling into society, this self-mockery began to spread to every corner of her life. Going to the mall to buy clothes, she struggled to give up what she liked and was able to buy, and chose one she didn't like; When she bought furniture, she obviously liked and could afford solid wood, but chose panel furniture. After moving home, the strong smell of formaldehyde lingered for half a year, so she had to get rid of them and go back to buy solid wood, which cost two yuan and suffered a lot. Asked what was going on, she said that her mind was blank. Perhaps, whenever she has to make a choice, her inner self-mockery mechanism will start: you don't deserve it, you can't.

Her love life is really not strange. Obviously, a man with good conditions showed a certain degree of affection for her, and she also liked him, but she avoided him and treated him coldly, and finally got entangled with a man who was not as good as herself in all aspects. On one date, we pretended to be guests sitting at the next table to help her recognize him. The man is less than 1.7 meters tall and has a dark face. When paying the bill, he took out a handful of money from his trouser pocket and steel splashed everywhere. Obviously, it is not this man who attracts her, but the sense of shame and self-abuse brought by this man: you only deserve such a person, and you can only lead such a life. Good people and good lives are beyond your power.

The fear of a better life may have more hidden psychological motives. Because it is set in advance, I am insulated from happiness, has nothing to do with opportunities, and belongs to two worlds with excellent people. When misfortune happens, when life is getting darker and darker, everything has an explanation: this is fate. Not believing in happiness often becomes an excuse not to live hard.

In the post-60 s and post-70 s, such people are everywhere, because they live in poverty and have to use this fear of a better life to suppress their yearning. Unfortunately, like crows, they often smell this kind of people, which makes them feel that self-mockery is true and reasonable to avoid. Many heartbreaks, many tragedies, and so on. This is the biggest doubt and a prayer of self-destruction: happiness must have nothing to do with yourself, and it is often achievable.

Therefore, I especially respect those who were born in an era of poverty, but are not afraid of living a good life. They jumped out of the shackles of their own environment and believed that they could live a good life, and they deserved it. They look for true love until they can't find it. When love comes, they are also willing to rearrange their lives. Even if they don't get the life they want in the end, this pursuit of life makes their life different from their peers.

The quality of life and love often lies in refusing to live, refusing to make ends meet, respecting one's own desires, not being wronged by outside eyes, seeking goodness in life and love, and getting rid of the dead part of life in time. Therefore, once you find yourself with this tendency, once the voiceover "You don't deserve it, you can't" appears in front of love and opportunity, you must cover it up, dare to face it, dare to challenge the limit, meet love and try opportunities, at least try to see if you deserve it.

You seem to be working hard.

Author: Li Shanglong

Once in class, a girl said to me in dismay, "Teacher, I took the CET-4 four times and I haven't passed it yet. Why on earth? "

I said, "Have you done the real problem? Did you recite the words? "

She took out the real questions that had been turned over and said, "I even remember the answers to all the questions you said, and I have recited the word book many times." I am working so hard, why can't I pass? "

This is a student who impressed me particularly, because in my eyes, Band 4 is not difficult. It is said that the annual pass rate is about 80%, and those who fail also include naked students and those who give up treatment for a long time. In my opinion, a person needs more perseverance to persist in not taking the exam in the last 20%.

However, looking at the students' full notes, I thought, it seems that I have worked very hard, why can't I pass the exam?

Because of the time, we chatted for a while, and I continued my class.

On the way, I thought of her again and didn't find a solution. It feels like a doctor knows that the patient is sick, but he just doesn't know how to treat it.

The next day, she asked me with a thick note.

I can only use the "big trick": "You have worked so hard, don't worry, you will definitely pass next time."

The student said with a wry smile, "I hope so."

For this world, there is no "cause" and no "effect". Even if "cause" can't be seen now, it must exist. Soon, I found the "cause" of this girl.

That was the last time I saw that girl, and she never appeared in my class again.

On the day of class, I went to her seat, pointed to her seat and asked a girl next to me, "Do you know her?"

She said, "Yes, she is my classmate."

I asked, "Why does she always skip class?"

She smiled and said, "She has more things to do."

I learned that this girl is the president of the student union and the head of several societies. She takes an active part in and organizes activities and has many friends. But the only thing she has no time to do is to be alone. Learning English is a process that requires solitude. You need to read it many times and meditate for a long time before you can print it in your mind. But she just did the real question once, answered the answer hastily, and then rushed out of the study room to continue her student union work. For this set of questions, she just left the idea of "I worked hard to do a set of questions" in her mind. In fact, she can't remember a few words at all. Just like she told many people that she signed up for an English class, but she hardly took any classes; Just like she talked to many people about how to learn English, but she never really remembered anything. It is easier to deceive others than to deceive yourself. However, it is a bit difficult to cheat the cause and effect of this world.

I think of another girl who always likes to ask me to recommend some movies and books to her, and it is more difficult to understand. Therefore, every time I finish reading a book, I will show it to her. Every time she reads it, she will send a Weibo, and there will be countless praises below.

Once I chatted with her: "Did you remember anything after reading the last book?"

She said, "I forgot."

I was speechless after listening. When I got home, I looked at her circle of friends and said, "I finished reading another book." This time she gained some "likes".

Another friend, Xiao Lu, especially likes to go to the study room. Every time I see her hair in a circle of friends: I am very tired recently; The exam is coming, and I have worked hard these days; go out early and return late ...

I think she really works hard. However, it still cannot pass. All her exams seem to leave all kinds of twists and turns and helplessness.

Because after all, all efforts are not for others to see, what matters is whether these efforts really reach your heart and become your ability. Once in self-study, I saw Lu Xiao bring an accounting book, an English book and a test paper, but all this was useless because she also brought a mobile phone.

She spent the whole morning brushing her circle of friends and Weibo. This so-called effort, in fact, just looks very hard.

It seems that I stay up late every day, but I just clicked countless praises with my mobile phone; It seems that I went to class so early, but I made up for last night's sleep in class; It seems that I have been sitting in the library for a day, but I really just sat for a day; It seems that he went to the gym, but he was just chatting up handsome guys or beautiful women. Around us, there are always some people who take notes carefully, but their exam results are not ideal; There are always some people who do well in their studies, but they don't seem to be serious. Many people define them as smart. In my opinion, they just abandoned the temptation when they were studying and worked hard wholeheartedly. Those efforts were not seen by others, and there were no other disturbances during that time. Later, they played with great care.

Before studying, did you make a plan and tell yourself what I want to learn, recite and master today? Efforts without goals and struggles without plans are just for show.

Whether your life is the same as others'; Are those so-called hardships really brainstorming, or just looking at them?