Being a human being: able to bend and stretch

On the journey to success, you will encounter various difficulties and challenges. Many people can endure harsh environments, but they cannot endure the slightest bit of mental humiliation. In this case, even if there are good opportunities, they will often be missed. Hou Hei Xue Zhong tells us: "A real man must be able to bend and stretch." Many times, if we just tit-for-tat, we will only get a bloody head and get no benefit at all. But if you use the ridicule and humiliation of others as your own strength to forge ahead, you will gain greater rewards.

Be able to bend and stretch, be wise and wise to protect yourself

If a person wants to achieve success in his career, he must have a "thick-skinned" ruthlessness. No one is willing to do something embarrassing, but many times people cannot help themselves. After all, the world is difficult, and it is difficult for people to guarantee that they will not be embarrassed at any time. If you want to have a chance of success, don't worry about face. Only in this way can you get more opportunities than others. There is no shortage of great men in Chinese history who were able to bend and stretch. Gou Jian suffered the humiliation of his crotch, Han Xin's humiliation, and Liu Bei's three visits to the thatched cottage. They all endured humiliation that ordinary people could not bear before they achieved great deeds.

Once during the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao invited Liu Bei to a banquet. Liu Bei didn't know what Cao Cao wanted, and he was always uneasy. When the wine was in full swing, suddenly the sky was covered with dark clouds and a heavy downpour was about to fall. Cao Cao said to Liu Bei: "Xuan De has traveled all over the world, so he must know the heroes in the world very well. Please tell me what you think." Liu Bei named Yuan Shu, Yuan Shao, Liu Biao, Sun Jian, Liu Zhang, Zhang Lu, Zhang Xiu, etc. Celebrities and ambitious people. Unexpectedly, as soon as he finished speaking, Cao Cao burst out laughing and said, "These are all people who have done nothing, so why do they matter?" Liu Bei said, "I don't know about the rest. What do you think, the Prime Minister?" Cao Cao said, " All heroes have great ambitions and ambitions for the world. "Liu Bei asked: "Who does the prime minister think can take up this responsibility today?"

Cao Cao first pointed at Liu Bei and then at himself. , said: "Among the heroes in the world today, only you and I, Cao Cao, can take on this responsibility." Hearing this, Liu Bei was shocked and the chopsticks in his hands fell to the ground unconsciously. At this time, there was a loud thunder outside, and Liu Bei He calmly bent down and picked up the chopsticks, and said, "The thunder was so loud, it was really scary." Cao Cao smiled and said, "Are men afraid of thunder?" Liu Bei said, "A thunderstorm changes the color of the clouds. In such weather, Who is not afraid?" In this way, Liu Bei saved himself from losing his composure after hearing Cao Cao's words. Although Liu Bei behaved very cowardly, Cao Cao felt that he had no ambitions and would not include him as an enemy from now on. Liu Bei won a good environment for the development of his career.

If a person does not know how to hide his talents, he will easily suffer criticism and jealousy. Such is life. Liu Bei knew how to protect himself wisely when the world was in chaos, and retreated bravely. But he is not passively avoiding the limelight. He is recharging his energy and waiting for the opportunity to revive the glory of the Han family. He even visited the thatched cottage to invite Zhuge Liang to come out. No matter how arrogant and arrogant Zhuge Liang was at the time, he didn't care. If you want to succeed in your career, you must be able to bend and stretch. Only in this way can you have more opportunities.

People will inevitably encounter various difficulties in life. People must learn to be flexible, learn to tolerate temporary humiliation, and learn to control their emotions and minds. Only in this way can they cope with more and more difficult situations in the future. question. Just as a soft-bodied insect contracts in order to get a chance to stretch, the reason why a dragon or a snake crouches is to protect itself. Throwing away your long-term goals for the sake of temporary anger may not make you feel anything at the time, but when you think about it, you will definitely regret your decision. When you are in a situation where the enemy is strong and we are weak, you must learn to be flexible and flexible, so that you will have more opportunities.

Sima Yi's Flexing and Extension Technique

When Zhuge Liang left Qishan on the sixth day, he personally led a group of troops and stationed them very close to the Wei camp. He repeatedly sent people to challenge, but the Wei soldiers refused to come out to challenge. So Zhuge Liang came up with a plan to stimulate Sima Yi. He took a set of women's clothes and put them in a big box, attached a letter, and sent someone to deliver it to the Wei army camp. The generals of Wei State led the people to see Sima Yi.

Sima Yi opened the box in front of everyone. Inside was a set of women's clothes and letters. After taking it apart, it read:

As a general, you command the Central Plains army, but you dare not fight with force to decide life and death. Just content to hide in the earth nest, afraid of being hurt by the sword. What is the difference between your behavior and that of a woman? Now I will give you a set of women's clothing. If you still don't dare to fight, kneel down respectfully and accept my gift. If you still have a sense of shame and manliness, then return it and we will decide the time limit. Determine life and death.

Sima Yi was furious after seeing this, but he pretended to be calm on the surface and said with a smile: "Does Kong Ming think of me as a woman?" He accepted the clothes and ordered to treat the messenger who sent them favorably. .

When the generals of the Wei army learned about this, they were very angry and came to see Sima Yi and said: "We are also considered famous generals of the Wei state. How can we endure such an insult from the Shu army? Please order us to go to war immediately. "Sima Yi said: "It's not that I am willing to endure the insult, nor that I dare not fight, but the emperor has already made a clear decree that we must not fight. If we fight now, we will disobey the emperor's order." The soldiers were still angry. Hard to breathe. Sima Yi then said: "Since we are going to fight, how about waiting until I report to the emperor, so that everyone can work together to face the enemy?" The soldiers agreed.

Sima Yi wrote the memorial and sent an envoy to the capital. Emperor Cao Rui opened it and understood what had happened, and said to the ministers: "Since Sima Yi has already insisted that he will not go to war, why does he ask for war now?" A general said: "Sima Yi did not want to go to war in the first place, just because of Zhuge Liang's insult. The soldiers were so angry that they deliberately issued this memorial. I hope that your majesty can reaffirm your intention not to fight and curb the anger of the soldiers." So the emperor sent people to the Wei army camp to announce that they were not allowed to go to war. Anyone who disobeys the order will be killed. When the Wei army officers heard this, they had no choice but to obey. In fact, Sima Yi had already guessed that this was Zhuge Liang's method of provoking generals, but he also knew that if he went into battle blindly and fell into Kong Ming's plan, he would be defeated. Sima Yi could only endure Zhuge Liang's insults. He insisted on not fighting, and Zhuge Liang had nothing to do. This is Sima Yi's ability to bend and stretch.

Principles of human conduct

You can bend and stretch, but in fact humiliation is only temporary. The purpose of enduring humiliation temporarily is to achieve long-term careers and ideals. If you cannot endure temporary humiliation, you will not be able to achieve your goals and realize your ambitions. Opportunities in life are often just one step away. If you can endure the temporary difficulties, you can reach your ideal state. People who achieve great things never care about temporary humiliation, because their goal is right in front of them, and it is reasonable to pay the price for this goal.