A 52-year-old middle-aged woman cried and scolded her mother-in-law for "four deadly sins". What do you think of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

In marriage, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most troublesome and helpless On the surface, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law only involves two people-mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In fact, there is a crucial "third party" hidden behind it-the mother's son and daughter-in-law's husband. Because of him, two unrelated women became inseparable relatives. In the next few decades, they will be tied to each other.

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Is mother-in-law a third party in marriage?

Xiao Xia didn't live with her mother-in-law after she married her husband.

As early as when Xiao Xia met her parents for the first time, her mother-in-law said to Xiao Xia, "Young people should pay attention to their own space. After you get married, you two can live your own lives. I won't live with you, but you can live alone. "

At that time, Xiao Xia was very lucky and thought her mother-in-law was an enlightened person. If you don't live together, how can you have so many bad worries?

Their wedding room is two bedrooms and one living room, and the master bedroom belongs to Xiao Xia and her husband. Unexpectedly, the second bedroom temporarily used as a study was cleaned up by her mother-in-law, saying it was for her own use. It is said that if there is any discomfort or need in the future, she can come and live.

Xiao Xia felt a little embarrassed, but didn't say it, and her mother-in-law has her own house, which is very close. Presumably, she didn't have much chance to live here, so she didn't think much.

However, Xiao Xia never imagined that since she got married, her mother-in-law has become a frequent visitor at home.

She has the key to Xiao Xia's house and can come and go freely.

One day, Xiao Xia got off work early and bought food to cook with her husband. When I got home, I saw my mother-in-law sweeping the floor. In fact, my mother-in-law is cleaning for us, and I am not unhappy. But he tidied up my room according to his habit. He searched all the drawers in the room, really. He even knew that there was a black clip in the cupboard in my room. Funnily enough, one day I cut my bangs. I've been looking for a clip for a long time, but I can't find everything. As a result, my mother-in-law said that there is a bag in the third drawer beside your bed, which seems to be the kind used to tie your hair before marriage. Go get it! I was shocked at that time, and I realized that my mother-in-law knew everything in my drawer. I also told my husband to tell his mother not to do housework for us, but even so, he came.

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In the next few days, my mother-in-law will come over for a few hours every day, just like punching in at work. In her words, she was worried that we couldn't take care of ourselves and were busy with work, so she didn't have time to do this.

Xiao Xia and her husband can't refuse.

Mother-in-law is the kind of person who cares about everything. She will teach Xiao Xia how to fold clothes, how to mop the floor before cleaning, and how to clean the glass before printing. Xiao Xia thinks she's going crazy. How did the two-person world agreed before marriage become a family of three after marriage?

Mother-in-law cares more about her husband than herself. Seeing that my mother-in-law is carrying more and more luggage, there are only more clothes in the guest room that she won't take away.

Sometimes Xiao Xia doesn't know whether her mother-in-law is the third party in their marriage or between their mother and son.

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To put it bluntly, Xiao Xia's mother-in-law can't live without her son. In her mind, her son is mostly her child. Even if her son gets married and has a wife, she still dares not entrust her son to another woman. Be sure to watch your son eat well and wear warm clothes to make him feel at ease.

Zhang Ailing once wrote a sentence: "At present, many marriages are: parents don't know how to quit, and children don't know how to refuse. The original marriage of two people suddenly became an arena for six people. "

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After reading Xiao Xia's story, I suddenly felt a chill.

Although it didn't happen to me, such examples are very common. Perhaps the mother-in-law will not participate in the children's life or live together as little as possible, and the marriage will be much more stable and happy. It is the best way for both sides to get along with each other that the elders withdraw from the life of young people in time.

My sister's mother-in-law is a negative example, and their family relationship is very harmonious. My sister's mother-in-law often disappears from their lives after helping my sister and brother-in-law take their two babies to kindergarten. She took her little sister everywhere, danced square dance, and recently showed a short video with Tik Tok. She always says she is not available when she wants to come back for dinner.

Summary:

I am also someone else's daughter-in-law, but what I want is simpler. If my husband is good enough to love me, then any relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is nothing to me, and small things can go away. If he is not good to me, then I will magnify a very small thing of myself infinitely.

In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not as complicated as we thought. Although there will be a situation like Xiao Xia's mother-in-law, as long as you want to understand your situation, what is the most important thing for you. Communicate with the intermediary in time, that is, communicate with the husband as an intermediary to understand everyone's needs and situation, and the problem will be solved.