How many ways do you know to get along with your mother-in-law

A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the help of marriage, and a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the resistance of marriage.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a big problem since ancient times. Everyone knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be solved first.

Some people say that not living with in-laws can solve all the problems of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there is no time to quarrel if you don't see them several times a year. But there are many reasons why most people can't live without their in-laws. In this case, we need to spend more time to maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

When you get along with your mother-in-law, remember the following points:

First, don't treat your mother-in-law as a mother.

The education I received at home since I was a child is that I should treat my mother-in-law as my mother when I get married. Many female friends enter marriage with this concept. They think that as long as their mother-in-law is a mother, her mother-in-law will treat herself as a daughter.

My cousin got married last year. She just arrived at her in-laws' house, and she rushed to do all the housework. When she sees something good while shopping, she buys it for her mother-in-law. She also thinks that her mother-in-law is very kind to her. One day, she didn't feel well and didn't get up to make breakfast. It was already morning 10 when she got up, and her mother-in-law didn't look well at that time. Her mother-in-law also told her who married a lazy daughter-in-law next door and slept late every day. In fact, my cousin also knew that her mother-in-law was criticizing Mulberry, and she was also very sad at that time, because her sister-in-law didn't get up until 12 every day, and her mother-in-law not only didn't want to talk about her, but also kept her for dinner. She realized that her mother-in-law was her mother-in-law. Even if you treat her as a mother, she won't treat you as a daughter.

You can be nice to your mother-in-law, but don't treat her like a mother. Mother-in-law is also called mom, but after all, she is not mom. She has her own living habits and won't tolerate all your shortcomings like her mother.

In the eyes of her mother-in-law, you will always be an outsider, let alone expect her to treat you as a daughter.

There is a saying that is very good; "My mother's bitterness is that she doesn't want us to eat any more, but my mother-in-law can't wait for us to eat them all." This is the difference between mother-in-law and mother.

Second, don't say anything about your husband in front of your mother-in-law.

Why can't you say that your husband is not in front of your mother-in-law? There are two main reasons:

It is human nature to protect one's faults. Animals still know how to protect their children, let alone people. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, no matter how bad her son is in the eyes of others, in her eyes, her son is the best.

It is the parents' fault that children don't teach. When you say your husband, your mother-in-law will think that you are saying that she didn't teach her son well, which is equivalent to hitting her mother-in-law in the face.

Some female friends may be outspoken. When she heard her mother-in-law complain that her son was unfilial and neglected his family, they immediately echoed her mother-in-law and became more and more excited.

My father used to like playing cards and lost money every time. My grandmother often talks about him. Once, my mother and grandma talked about him, only to find that grandma's face became more and more ugly. At this time, her mother suddenly realized that she had hit her grandmother in the face when she said dad. Later, no matter what my father did, my mother never said anything to my grandmother again.

Man is a complex animal. His son can say whatever he wants, but he can't tolerate others saying that he is not good.

Third, don't show love in front of your mother-in-law

We can't talk about her son in front of her mother-in-law, so she will feel humiliated. Don't show your love in front of your mother-in-law, she will be jealous. You know, women are jealous.

Some time ago, my cousin brought his girlfriend back. I envy all kinds of show love, but my aunt seems unhappy. According to menstruation's mother, my cousin's girlfriend is very attached to my cousin, and there is a cousin's back every few steps.

In fact, these are normal things for us, but after all, the older generation is different from what we think. They will be jealous because their husband and wife were not so close before. They will get lost. Her son has raised so many children that he hasn't carried himself. She will have a feeling of "having a daughter-in-law and forgetting her mother". This is your mother-in-law's biggest worry. The more you love your mother-in-law, the more jealous and depressed she is.

Fourth, don't be too strong in front of your mother-in-law

As a daughter-in-law, it is often not to be too strong, but to know how to show weakness appropriately.

Lingling is a strong woman and has never compromised in the workplace. She sometimes brings her habits home. It is said that it is a woman's nature to love beauty, and Lingling is no exception. In addition, Lingling has a high income and likes to buy all kinds of buy buy. Once my mother-in-law saw Lingling carrying a big bag home, and her mother-in-law casually said, "I have to buy something again, and the wardrobe can't hold it." Lingling lost her temper on the spot. She said, "I can spend my own money at will. I didn't spend your son's money." Besides, these things are for you and your son. " Mother-in-law was particularly unhappy, and they quarreled.

If Lingling showed a little weakness, she might avoid a quarrel. In fact, Lingling can say, "Mom, I see your clothes are old. I just got paid today. I bought them when I saw that they fit you. It is difficult for you to take care of this family. " Maybe the mother-in-law will still feel embarrassed, which not only avoids quarreling, but also enhances the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

My mother-in-law used to be the master. You are too strong, of course she will be unhappy, just like you tried to seize power and usurp the throne in ancient times.

Fifth, don't make trouble without reason and forgive people.

Some people quarrel, especially between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

When you have an argument with your mother-in-law, don't think about getting angry first, think about whose fault it is. If it is your own fault, admit it generously. But if it's your mother-in-law's fault, don't make trouble without reason.

Everything is reasonable, but don't reason with your mother-in-law, because home is not a place to reason.

Xiaoya's mother-in-law is from the countryside. She has a habit of always taking yesterday's leftovers as today's breakfast. However, Xiaoya feels unsanitary. Every time Xiaoya doesn't have breakfast at home, her mother-in-law always pretends to put Xiaoya to bed. Xiaoya quarreled with her mother-in-law when she was angry. Xiaoya said, "Last-time food is easy to breed bacteria, and eating it is not good for your health." But her mother-in-law said, "If it is broken, it will be unsanitary. We have never had a problem from snacks to big ones! " "Two people quarreled as a bee, and no one could convince anyone.

In fact, if one of them is wrong, there is nothing wrong, but the living environment is different and the concept is different. Xiaoya grew up in luxury and food, and she didn't know what to eat on the plate. Every grain is hard and bitter. My mother-in-law has suffered since she was a child and knows that life is not easy now. So no one is right or wrong about this matter, and there is no need to argue about it. The mother-in-law is the elder. She said you just need to listen and don't argue with her.

Even if it's the mother-in-law's fault, so what? As mentioned in The Weakness of Human Nature, don't argue with her even if it is her fault. Even if you win, it won't do you any good except make her hate you more.

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Mother-in-law is not a natural enemy. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have contradictions because they live in different times and have different ideas, but everyone is for the good of this family.

Since she chose to marry her son, she should love me, love my dog and give my mother-in-law corresponding respect.

You should remember that when you have an argument with your mother-in-law, it's not the other person who is embarrassed, but the man you love most.

Finally, I wish all marriages can be happy and don't regret marriage because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.