Mother-in-law urges her husband to sell the house to help his brother-in-law pay off his debts, or divorce him if he doesn't sell it. Is this marriage still worth nostalgia?

Your mother-in-law is not a good mother-in-law, but your husband is not necessarily a good husband. It depends on whether your husband listens to others' encouragement, has his own opinions and can consider your small family. If he really listens to his mother completely and sells the house to his brother-in-law to pay off his debts, and you don't agree to divorce, then this marriage is not worth staying at all. If he can have his own ideas, don't sell the house, don't mention the divorce, and help his brother pay his debts within his power, he can still get along and this marriage can rely on each other. ...

It is your husband who marries you, not your mother-in-law. Pay attention to your husband's behavior. Although your mother-in-law encourages your husband to sell the house to help your brother-in-law pay his debts, you should know that this house is your own, not your mother-in-law's. All she can do is encourage, not sell the house directly without your husband and wife's consent.

Similarly, it is your husband who marries you, not your mother-in-law, although no matter how egged on by your mother-in-law, it will only be him who finally decides whether to sell the house or divorce. So it's not your mother-in-law that you have to consider, but your husband. Is he worth your nostalgia? Can this marriage last? ...

I don't want to find a wife for my brother and mother. Such a husband can't have it. It is foolish and irresponsible to give up one's family and listen to great words for all. If, regardless of your small family, he insists on selling the house to pay off his brother's debts, reducing the economic conditions of your own family, or even greatly lowering your living standard, then you can consider whether your brother will have an accident in the future, whether your husband will have nothing to sell, and whether he will spend all his money to help his brother. ...

A husband who does not blindly follow his mother, can take care of his younger brother and does not abandon his wife can have such a husband. On the other hand, if your husband can insist on refusing to sell the house or divorce at the instigation of his mother-in-law, then he is not "hopeless", so don't rush to divorce. What kind of person his brother is and whether he deserves help is one thing, but it is very important that he can do his best to help his relatives when they need help.

If he is indifferent to his own brother, how can you expect him to help your family when something happens?

A good marriage is run by both parties, not arranged by others. In fact, a good marriage is run by both parties. Even the encouragement of your family can't change a person who really loves you. He will be on your side, considering your feelings, rather than listening to what others say. If you really give up, that kind of person is "hopeless." Don't miss it, it is the best choice to stop loss and get away in time. ...

Of course, it is not bad to choose to share joys and sorrows with him and help my brother-in-law pay off debts together. It's just hard to have such a mother-in-law.