What should I do when I am old and lonely?

What are you most afraid of when you are old? Many people's answer is loneliness. In reality, many old people have to live alone because their children are too busy to take care of themselves. If the elderly want to live a lively life, they may wish to remember the following points.

1. Make more friends. After retirement, the social role gradually recedes, and friends and relatives are very important to the elderly. A survey conducted by the University of London in the United Kingdom found that the risk of death of elderly people with less social activities is 26% higher than that of elderly people with normal social activities. Friends can provide emotional support, and many troubles that are inconvenient to tell children and relatives can be told to friends. Interpersonal relationship is like a passbook. The more you save, the more you enjoy. Therefore, the elderly should make more friends before retirement, so that the passbook of interpersonal relationships is full. Communicating with neighbors, participating in community activities, smiling or simply greeting can bring the relationship closer.

2. Keep the original interest and cultivate new hobbies. Yale University in the United States found that a rich retirement life can increase the life expectancy of the elderly by 7.5 years. Old people may wish to regain their previous hobbies, or cultivate new hobbies according to their own personality and physical condition. Healthy hobbies can delay mental decline and promote interpersonal communication. For example, old people who like painting and calligraphy are absorbed when splashing ink at home, and their attention is concentrated and their brains are fully functioning; It is better to communicate with painting friends at ordinary times, participate in the activities of calligraphy and painting associations and increase social support.

3. Dedicate love and establish a good interpersonal network. Send a rose, the hand is fragrant, the transmission of love and kindness is round, and the sent love will come back to you sooner or later. Old people might as well do a good thing every day, such as going out to buy food later, and don't block the morning rush hour of office workers; Give a smile to the young people in the same building. Build a good network, and you will also benefit.

4. Be prepared to lose your aura after retirement. From the protagonist to the supporting role, from the busy to the idle, the psychological gap between the elderly after retirement is large, which will inevitably bring psychological problems. The elderly may wish to be psychologically prepared and regard retirement as the beginning of another brilliant life. Capable old people can live to be old and dry, such as teachers and doctors, retire and re-employ, and give full play to their residual heat. However, it is necessary to avoid interference and accusations against the younger generation and children, and to give young people more opportunities.

5. Get together easily with friends, relatives and younger generation, and don't talk about teaching. Some old people like to say that they "miss the past" and like to tell their children what to do and what to do. There is nothing wrong with parents educating their younger generation, but everything is measured. Kindly reminding is different from critical criticism. Young people have their own ideas, and old people can make use of their own life experience to put forward suggestions euphemistically, but don't rely on seniority to preach to their children, and be a popular wise man.

6. Actively maintain health, eat well, get enough sleep and exercise more. Many elderly people suffer from chronic diseases, and their physical discomfort makes them less active. They like to make do with their meals. But the older you get, the more you should take care of your health and exercise better. Old people can make healthy recipes for a week, try to buy fresh vegetables every day and not eat leftovers; Regular work and rest, taking a nap for about half an hour every day; Do 30 minutes of aerobic exercise every day, such as Tai Chi, square dance and brisk walking. Conditional elderly people can go to regular hospitals to listen to health lectures and read reliable health newspapers.

7. A positive attitude towards others. As the so-called unity of knowing and doing, what kind of values and life ideas will show what kind of behavior. Old people should have a positive attitude, don't care, don't chew your tongue and don't compete with others, so as to make more friends and benefit themselves.

8. Look at life with an open mind or have religious beliefs. When people are old, they are more likely to fall into a dead end, and then into anxiety and depression. Old people should be more open-minded about life, take things lightly, and often talk to old friends or children as equals. Try to understand some religions. People with faith live longer. But we should communicate with children more and avoid believing in cults by mistake. In addition, religion should serve the body and mind and should not usurp the role of master. For example, Buddhist laymen can also be vegetarian, especially the elderly with consumptive chronic diseases, and must ensure the intake of meat.

9. Learn to relax, such as deep breathing, meditation, and going into nature. Most old people lead an easy life, but some people have a big temper when they are young and are impulsive, and they don't stop when they are old. Aggressive old people need to learn to relax. When they want to lose their temper, they should count dozens or take ten deep breaths. Try to do meditation exercises, that is, sit still, pay attention to your breathing and feel your body. A large number of studies show that meditation has many benefits to people's physical and mental health, especially to calm anxiety. Old people can also go to parks and suburbs to enjoy vegetation and pet small animals. Being close to nature can relax their mood.

10. Self-awareness of whether you are depressed and lonely recently. The proportion of elderly people suffering from depression is as high as 10%~ 15%. Old people should be self-aware in their lives, and see if they have been depressed for more than two weeks, and if they have anorexia, abdominal discomfort, constipation, emaciation, chest tightness, blocked throat, headache, dizziness, neck and back pain, insomnia, etc. , whether their thinking becomes slow, whether their brains become dull. If you have the above symptoms, it is recommended to go to a regular hospital.

1 1. Don't be afraid to see a doctor. In order to avoid getting sick and seeking medical treatment, this is the last thing the elderly should do. Being sick is not terrible, nor is it terrible to spend money, be hospitalized or have an operation. I'm afraid I'll drag a minor illness into a serious one by procrastinating. If you are sick, you must go to the hospital as soon as possible and get timely treatment. For example, if you touch a lump, don't think about it. You should go to the hospital for examination. Maybe it was a false alarm. Maybe we can find the disease early and treat it in time. In addition, elderly people with chronic diseases may wish to make friends with community doctors and often talk to them about their illness and disease prevention knowledge.

12. Listen to the doctor after starting treatment. Some elderly people have poor compliance with treatment, especially diseases such as hypertension and diabetes. Once they feel better, they may reduce or even stop taking drugs without authorization. Some old people don't take medicine on time or forget to take medicine. These irregular treatments will cause repeated diseases, aggravate the condition and even bring a series of complications. The treatment of the elderly must follow the doctor's advice and complete the prescribed course of treatment. Addition and subtraction of drugs must be carried out under the guidance of a doctor.

13. Use a break to interact with children. Primary one has a unique confidant function, where relatives and friends can upload pictures, videos, voices and words to their cronies in combination, and the elderly can make voice comments on them; Family members can also keep abreast of information such as the browsing times of relatives and friends' photo albums, contact times with electronic fences, emergency calls and video calls. To help you understand the true emotional needs of relatives and friends behind the data; Through the timeline, you can quickly find the previously published confidant content, making the search more convenient;