How to deal with the relationship between menstruation and his sister-in-law

As the saying goes: "Sister-in-law is virtuous, and mother-in-law is close; It is for this reason that my sister-in-law is not virtuous and confused. The relationship between aunt and sister-in-law should be very close in nature. About the same age, they are all daughters' homes. The prosperity and harmony of the family are beneficial to them. In many families, little sisters-in-law often whisper to each other, especially little sisters-in-law. They often tell her things that outsiders are inconvenient to say, and even discuss their lifelong events with their little sisters-in-law. As a mother, eldest sister-in-law cares about her life, thoughts and study in every possible way, and is really a bosom friend at home. From ancient times to the present, there are indeed many touching relationships between aunts and sisters. For example, the feudal mother-in-law in the ancient Yuefu poem Peacock Flying Southeast was very bad to her daughter-in-law, abused her daughter-in-law and drove her out of the house. But sister-in-law and aunt have a good relationship. The poem says, "But when I say goodbye to my sister-in-law, tears are like beads", which shows the deep feelings. But in real life, there are also many disharmonious things between aunts and sisters that need to be analyzed. The discord between aunt and sister-in-law is generally manifested in two aspects: first, there is a direct contradiction because of the problems of aunt or sister-in-law; Second, one sister-in-law has contradictions with the third party in the family, while the other fanned the flames and widened the contradictions. So, how can we improve the relationship between menstruation and his sister-in-law? When a new wife enters a new family, she must first adapt to the original situation of the family. The original members of this family have lived together for a long time, resulting in a balanced interpersonal relationship. For example, my sister-in-law has been spoiled for a long time and is more headstrong. Parents and brothers are tolerant and accommodating to her, so they live in peace and are in a state of balance. Daughter-in-law has just entered the door, and if she wants to change this situation immediately because she doesn't like it, breaking the old balance will cause many contradictions. Of course, some unreasonable situations need to be changed, but we should take it slowly. Many daughter-in-law feel that her mother-in-law is "eccentric", treats her sister-in-law well and treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider. In fact, a daughter-in-law should have such tolerance and generosity, understand her mother-in-law, and regard this situation as a normal phenomenon. As the saying goes, "a daughter-in-law is deeply attached to one heart". After all, the daughter-in-law is a foreigner and has just passed the door. Judging from the communication time, the communication time between people is one of the factors that determine the deep feelings. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been together for many years, and they have only been together for a few months or even a year or two. So, what's so strange about the deep affection between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? In family life, sometimes the same sentence from my sister-in-law will make my mother-in-law laugh, but from my daughter-in-law's mouth, it will make my mother-in-law angry. Because the mother-in-law generally does not suspect that her daughter is pregnant with two hearts, but it is different for her daughter-in-law. If the daughter-in-law can understand these aspects, she may not be bothered by her mother-in-law's "eccentricity". Of course, for the mother-in-law, try to make a bowl of water flat and don't let the daughter-in-law worry too much. When a daughter-in-law enters the door, if she treats her mother-in-law as her mother and her sister-in-law, she will not be jealous, but will take the initiative to care for her sister-in-law. Today's daughter-in-law has a kind of abnormal "rebellious psychology": you love her, but I am partial to her; You praise her and I belittle her. In the movie "Xi Yingmen", it was my sister-in-law who bought pants for her. However, the eldest daughter-in-law suspected that her mother-in-law was partial to her daughter, so she fought with her mother-in-law, deliberately making trouble with her sister-in-law, causing the family to fly like a dog. In fact, don't say that my grandmother didn't buy these pants, even if my grandmother did, it's human nature! Sister-in-law has a special position and function at home, connecting parents and brothers. Playing this special role can increase the unity between families. For example, if the mother-in-law listens to her sister-in-law, the daughter-in-law will discuss one thing with her sister-in-law, and her sister-in-law understands it, which means that her mother-in-law understands it 80%. If the mother-in-law misunderstood her daughter-in-law, maybe her sister-in-law explained it much better than the daughter-in-law herself. On many issues, sister-in-law should also consider her situation from the perspective of family harmony and unity. If there are contradictions in family relations, she should play a good role, playing a "complementary" role, not a "destructive" role. This is the correct attitude.