The most suffocating state in marriage

The most suffocating state in marriage.

1. The most familiar stranger

"Isn't marriage all about living together in the end?" But in fact, if you think about it carefully, this is actually a choice you have to make after you have a bad life and can't live without it. We're married. We all have company anyway. You are happy, some people share the pain, some people understand, some people are emotional, some people comfort you when you are sick, some people take care of you, and some people speak their minds when you come home.

In short, you have this expectation or expectation in your heart, but what is it like to live together? Obviously there are people around, but there is no communication. All communication is limited to practical things. After eating and sleeping, take the children home and bring an onion. What you want to say is not, oh, yes or yes. They live together every day, but they are the most familiar strangers.

Living in partnership

When you are sick, it seems that someone is sending you water and medicine, but people's faces are full of impatience. Being sick makes you uncomfortable, scares you and scares you, but his face makes all your negative emotions worse. Many sisters who have experienced this kind of experience say that it is better to have no such person, no one I won't expect, but there is someone you have to associate with.

But every time you interact, you will feel it again. Disillusioned despair, the sense of despair that cohabitation gives people, is not like his change of heart or a big fight that makes you feel desperate. He is the kind of despair that cuts the meat bit by bit with a blunt knife, which makes you suffocate, but there seems to be no particularly good reason to leave. After a long time, you may even think that this may be life.

Life should probably make people feel miserable. A person who has been immersed in bitter water for a long time will be so numb that he will not feel bitter and will only accept his fate. However, the harm caused by negative emotions can actually be reflected through his body. Many people have really been married for many years, and they are over-aged or sick, which are suppressed by cold and distant emotional relationships.

3. Love also needs skills.

Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, but it is not entirely true. Marriage is more like a piece of soil, and love is a seed planted by two people together. Exciting love and hope for the future are enough to be its budding nutrients, but not enough to support its growth. Without supplement and care, it will wither gradually, leading to marriage becoming the grave of love.

Because of this, it is particularly important to learn the skills of managing feelings. Why do some people live in expectation in their feelings, while others trap themselves in cages? Different guidance methods will lead to different results. Only by learning to maintain and prune can the seeds of love grow sturdily in the desired direction and make this intimate relationship glow with vitality and be sweeter and happier.