Why is it unlucky to be at home during the Spring Festival?

Why can't an unlucky daughter spend the New Year at home?

Married daughters can't go back to their parents' home for the New Year for two reasons:

First, the married daughter will go back to her mother's house for the New Year, and she will be poor at home; During the Chinese New Year, the bride's family should ask God to send God (God refers to the ancestors at home)! The married daughter belongs to someone else's family, so she can't spend the New Year at home, which is not good for her family and will affect her fortune for one year. Therefore, the married daughter can't go back to her parents' home for the New Year, especially her brothers and sisters, which will ruin her family.

Second, the married daughter belongs to someone else's family, so we can't have dinner again, especially at our parents' house during the New Year. "Marry a woman and splash water" means "water under the bridge"; More importantly, let the daughter be "cold-hearted" about her family, stop homesick, take root in her husband's family and build a new home wholeheartedly.

Some people may not agree with this, but some taboos must be noted. Where modern people should pay attention, we must pay attention to traditional etiquette.

There are also some taboos for married daughters to return to their parents' homes.

1, don't touch the pot and spoon when you go home.

In the street, we often hear words like "touching a spoon won't kill my father-in-law, my mother-in-law" and "lifting a pillar of fire won't kill my father-in-law and my son-in-law". Although these words are feudal and superstitious and have no scientific basis, they are easy to form curses because they have been circulated among the people for a long time.

Even if you know it is false, hearing it often will have a bad influence on your heart. Therefore, when the bride goes back to her family, she should follow these customs and try not to touch these taboo things.

2. It is not appropriate to go back to your mother's house on the day of sacrifice.

In Henan province, on the fifteenth day of the first month, you should avoid going back to your mother's house to see the lights, but also avoid offering sacrifices to stoves, and avoid going back to your mother's house on New Year's Eve and the first day of the first month. Because women don't sacrifice stoves, there is also a custom that it is not suitable to go back to their parents' home on the day of sacrifice. Generally speaking, the bride should not stay at her parents' home for too long. First, it is about the mistakes of the husband's family. Second, it is a mistake to her parents' family. The married daughter is a guest, and it is inevitable to take it seriously. Many old customs are gradually forgotten today, so it is enough to know some old customs of going back to your mother's house.

3, avoid the first day of the first month.

The first day of the first month is the first day of the new year, which is the first day of the new year. New Year's Day is a holiday for family reunion. According to traditional customs, many places prohibit married daughters from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the New Year's Day. Because in the concept of people in these areas, married daughters are like spilled water, and they need to get together with their in-laws on the first day of the New Year. If you go back to your parents' house on the first day of the New Year, it will cause the situation that your husband's family can't reunite, so it is naturally inconvenient to go back to your parents' house.

4. avoid going back to your mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month.

The fifteenth day of the first month is also the first full moon day of the year, fearing that the daughter-in-law will not be reunited with her family when she returns home.

So it's usually the second day of the first month and the sixteenth day of the first month. In order to take care of the reunion and celebration of both parties to the marriage. There is a saying in Luyi County that "please (girl) on the 16th day of the first month, and deliver it on the 2nd of February. Don't get sick".

When will you go back to your mother's house for the Spring Festival?

On the second day of the first month, there is the custom of going back to her mother's house.

On the second day of the first lunar month, many places in China have the custom of returning to their parents' home. Married daughters should bring gifts to their parents' homes. This embodies the concept of gender equality.

On the second day of the first month, it is the day when the daughter and son-in-law return to their parents' homes, that is, the day when the son-in-law pays a New Year call to her parents-in-law, commonly known as "Welcome Husband Day". Folk believe that a married daughter can't go back to her mother's house on the first day of the first year, and she will be poor when she goes back to her mother's house. She can only go back to her mother's house on the second day of the second year. There is a folk proverb in Taiwan Province Province: "There is a father and a mother in the second day and the third day, and there is no father and no mother." It means a daughter with parents. After the second day of the Lunar New Year, her family will definitely come to pick her up for reunion. Only a daughter who has no parents and no relatives to miss will not send someone to pick her up.

The bride's family must send a brother or nephew to her son-in-law's house to show caution. Traditionally, in the first year, the bride's family will invite her daughter's brother to meet her daughter and son-in-law at her husband's house (this can also be done later). If there are no brothers at home, they can also ask men of the same age to do it for them.

What should I buy when I go back to my mother's house for the Spring Festival?

Cigarettes and alcohol

Although there may be parents in the other family who don't smoke or drink, you should also show them, because the rules in some places are like this. You can't think that if you don't smoke or drink, they won't buy it, then you have made a big taboo and will be regarded as impolite by the other parents. Note: No matter whether there is anyone smoking or drinking in the other family, you should light a cigarette with them and propose a toast at the dinner table. This is common sense and rules, don't ignore it.

Homemade specialty

The other parents know that your parents prepared their own special dishes, which shows that the women in your team are very respectful and sincere and attach great importance to this meeting. Your first impression of your family can make your parents feel good. After all, I think your family is very concerned about this, so they will be very concerned about their daughter in the future.

tea grounds

If you like the health of the elderly, send more tea. Drinking more tea can effectively eliminate toxins in the body.

Drinks

For the sake of health, tea can also be used instead of wine. Buy more bottles of drinks and go home. Everyone has a good time.

Fruit milk

Generally, we will send some fruit and milk when we meet, but these individuals think it is too common. It depends on each other's family background and parents' views. If the other party is a rural family, it is of course more appropriate to send this, because rural families don't care much about etiquette, and they think these are ok. If it is a family in the town, the other party may think that you or your family are too casual and will be dissatisfied with this kind of thing.

Health products

If the other parents have calcium deficiency, poor absorption or other physical problems, they can send some health care products. Note: it depends on local customs to send this thing. After all, people in some places think it is unlucky to send medicines (health products) and the like.