At the age of 28, his father died of lung cancer; 3 1 year-old, mother committed suicide: 20 life truths I summarized.

There are no good articles recently. I just want to talk about my feelings over the years.

When I was in my teens and twenties, I was simple. I didn't understand that life is a kind of practice until I experienced marriage, having children, parting from life and death, cheating in the world and getting thorns on my body.

It is the sentence in "Caigen Tan": In adversity, you are covered with healing stones and you don't know it.

When I was 28, my father died of lung cancer. 3 1 year-old, mother committed suicide. These years seem like a dream, but it did happen.

Two years ago, I didn't want to mention these things that made me particularly uncomfortable. I feel guilty and angry when I think of my parents.

People who are dozens of years older than me, whose parents are still seventy or eighty years old, and I am young, suddenly realize that I have fallen from the cloud to the bottom and lost everything.

When I gave birth, I was so depressed that I even wanted to jump off a building with my baby in my arms.

I'd rather hang out late at night than go home. I was born in a family, my married parents were short-lived, and my dog's blood was daily, so I had no strength to fight back.

In the darkest moment of my life, I couldn't sleep, cried, and even thought about buying a cemetery, covering it with a coffin board and not living.

I don't want to feel sorry for myself, but I just think of the sentence in Don't Ask West and Ask East: If you knew the life you were going to face in advance, would you still have the courage to come?

I have no great goals. If I know this is the end, I can say for sure: Sister, I won't come.

It's not that there is no courage, but that there is no need.

Maybe you didn't know what was most important until you experienced it.

Everyone's life experience is different, and their feelings are different. At different stages, there will be differences at different times.

We should thank God for giving human beings the ability to sum up and reflect, otherwise we may still be monkeys.

The following insights come from personal experience.

1. You don't have to swallow it. Treat your bully and go home. If he attacks you, you should fight back.

Fight if you can, but run if you can't. If you really want to fight, there are sandbags. Don't back down.

This is the case in school bullying, and so is the workplace and family relations.

2. forbearance will not be calm for a while, and taking a step back will only push your luck.

If you don't want breast hyperplasia and uterine fibroids, you must learn to protect yourself and don't wronged yourself.

Emotions need to be released, and patience will only hurt the liver.

If you live a happy life, money can come second. If not, please cover your pocket and try to have it.

Even if the whole world betrays you and abandons you with nothing, at least you have the strength to start over.

4. Some circles don't need to be strong, he has his prosperity, you have your wonderful, and no one needs to be attached to anyone.

Love can exist, but it is not necessarily the most important.

6. If you can solve the problem with money, don't solve it yourself, even if you have no money, don't sacrifice yourself to solve it.

7. We can listen to other people's opinions, but the important thing is to listen to our own hearts.

Only you know whether your life is good or not.

The road is on your own. When you think about it and are ready, you can set off bravely.

No one is your savior. You must learn to be strong and make peace with yourself.

Learn to accept setbacks, adversity, blows in life, even your own incompetence, cowardice and imperfection.

9. The most important person in life is not your child, partner or parents, but yourself.

Children will grow up and have their own lives, even if they are particularly dependent on you now. Partners may cheat, betray or even divorce. Parents will get old and leave you one day.

Only ourselves are always with us. Be kind to yourself.

You can hug yourself when you are sad. You are the most precious existence in your life.

10. Learn to let go and learn to be grateful. Thank you for coming through the storm while you can still bear it.

Thank you for raising you, helping you care about you, and sheltering you from the wind and rain. Thank you for hurting you. It didn't crush you, so those who hurt you don't need to thank you. You'd better punch him.

1 1. Don't wait for your health problems to see a doctor; Don't wait for wrinkles to appear before maintenance. We don't need to live according to other people's wishes. We just need to make ourselves comfortable and beautiful.

Who is not a visual animal? It's just that we want to look beautiful, not necessarily for others, just to please ourselves.

12. Don't wait for the marriage to break up before running a relationship. Don't accumulate enough disappointment before you leave. Don't wait for the worst to happen before you make up your mind; Don't wait until the last straw, then turn around.

13. Learning to stop loss in time is a kind of wisdom.

Don't listen to them: you have to walk the path you choose on your knees. Choose the wrong road, choose another one later, and don't bring it into your life.

14. Unhappy marriage will only consume your energy continuously, and emotional diseases will grow in your body.

Happy life, happy marriage nourishes you, unhappy marriage, careful life, anti-cancer.

15. Life is long, so don't make do with it casually.

You can live for a while, a day or two, a year or two. Can you live for ten or twenty years, or even a lifetime? Life is much longer than you think.

16. Cherish the present.

Never mind being born in a family, not a family. Bad things will be inherited. As an adult, don't live in family of origin. There are no perfect parents in the world, but we can try our best to create a better environment for the next generation.

17. Hatred will not bring happiness. Learning to let go is not necessarily to forgive, but to let go of yourself.

Don't pick holes in the yard of the soul every night, because we are the only ones who torture us.

18. Sometimes, your sadness is just a story in others' eyes, but in others' hearts, you are not so reasonable and beneficial than money.

So there's nothing to feel for. It is better to love yourself than to expect others' love.

19. Read books when you are free, and run and listen to music when you are unhappy. Maybe there is nothing in life that you can't get through.

20. Live, be worthy of yourself and the people you love.

At the age of 30,

Don't forget that in the increasingly complex,

Don't forget to be kind to yourself when taking care of your family.

When you cry, don't forget to dry your tears and smile at yourself.

Sometimes, you are not so weak or so strong.

Cry if you want, laugh if you want. When the storm comes, no one will give you an umbrella, so just hold it by yourself.

If you have a story and have nowhere to tell it, I am willing to be an audience.

If you need a shoulder, I'll lend it to you.

After this article was published, I didn't expect so many netizens who have experienced many misfortunes like me. It turns out that we have never walked alone in the dark.