Let's talk about it after taking care of my mother-in-law.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a family and have been together for several years. When you come, I love you and happiness will always follow you. Why bother for no reason? The heart is divided and the song ends. This is a poem I wrote, Love between Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law. The title of Love between Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law implies that there is no duty between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, only affection. The poem means "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a family, living under the same roof and needing to get along for decades." In the process of getting along, only if you love me and I am kind to you, the mutual affection between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become stronger and stronger, and the happiness of the family will spread. There is no need to have conflicts over a trivial matter, and disputes continue, leading to the end of the love between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the family is separated. "As for the moral in the title, in real life, some mother-in-law don't understand that her mother-in-law has only mutual affection and no duty. They feel that the daughter-in-law is married to her own family and is the same generation as her son. They should serve themselves and provide for the elderly like their sons. Here, I want to tell some unreasonable mother-in-law, don't think that her daughter-in-law is your daughter when she marries your family, and it is her responsibility and obligation to serve you.

Daughter-in-law married to your family, but not your daughter. It is her duty and obligation to serve her biological parents, because they have given birth to her for decades. What about you? Not only did she have no support, but she was not related by blood. What made her fulfill her responsibilities and obligations to you? Just because of your son? To tell the truth, your daughter-in-law has the same responsibility and obligation as her son to run each other's small family happier and bring up each other's children. Apart from the husband-and-wife family, there is only one husband-and-wife relationship between your son and your daughter-in-law. As for your relationship with your daughter-in-law, because of your husband, there is mutual affection between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it is not said that it is the daughter-in-law's obligation to honor her mother-in-law. If you don't want the affection between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and don't want your son's family to be separated because of you, then don't have such extreme thoughts.

I am writing this article because of a friend of mine, Xiaoyun. Xiaoyun is a very independent girl. After graduating from high school, she opened a children's clothing store in the town. After several years of hard work, the business in the store has gradually gained a stable source of customers.

Sister Xiaoyun in the shop next door is warm-hearted. She thought Xiaoyun's cleverness would make a good wife, so she introduced her young neighbor Yan to Xiaoyun.

They met several times on a date. During the conversation, Xiaoyun felt that Ding Yan was really praised by her sister, with a high degree of education and a good personality. The key is to be stable, introverted and mature. Ding Yan's only shortcoming is her poor family conditions. She has just graduated from college for two years and has no strong economic conditions to buy a house. She lives with her mother in a small bungalow in the factory.

Xiaoyun thought, "Ding Yan is a college student, and she is more knowledgeable than herself. This is what she admires and likes most. His poor family conditions exist objectively. Now he has a stable job and his own shop is quite profitable. Life in the future will not be bad. " When preparing for the wedding, the generous Xiaoyun proposed to buy a new house in the town with her savings of hundreds of thousands. After the National Day wedding, considering that Ding Yan's mother was single and old, Xiaoyun and Ding Yan simply sold the old house and took her to live together.

The seemingly peaceful and kind-hearted old lady actually has many old feudal ideas in her mind, which are stubborn and tenacious, bringing a lot of unhappiness to Xiaoyun and Ding Yan's newly married life.

One day after dinner, the old lady sat on the sofa and looked at Xiaoyun, who was busy tidying up the dishes and chopsticks. She said strangely, "Daughter-in-law, it is our Ding family's rule to offer tea to the elders in the morning, wash their feet at night, massage and beat their legs, make the bed, and do their daughter-in-law's filial piety." Xiaoyun wanted to laugh at this wonderful speech and thought, "My mother-in-law is really interesting. She still lives in feudal society. Consider me a child bride. Besides, I'm too tired to open my own shop and sell my own goods. It's funny to have to come back at night to be a wronged kannika nimtragol. " Xiaoyun's mother-in-law doesn't know what she thinks, and it is impossible for her mother-in-law to know. Xiaoyun put away her thoughts and said to the old lady, "mom, you are in good health and can take care of yourself completely." Why should I wait on you? It is also very tired to go to work during the day. " Unexpectedly, the old lady flew into a rage, raised her voice a few degrees and said in a trembling voice, "If you don't wait on me, it will look good." Xiao Yun sneered and retorted, "What am I looking at? Tell me about it. " The old lady glared at her: "I asked Ding Yan to divorce you."

Xiaoyun has his own business, and the house was bought by Xiaoyun. Xiaoyun didn't take her mother-in-law's threat to heart at all. However, Xiaoyun understands that she won't give up the idea of being a hostess at home unless her mother-in-law knows about her situation. So Xiaoyun raised her voice a bit and snapped, "Mother-in-law, you and your son have to sleep in the street when I get divorced." Hearing this sentence, the old lady's pride suddenly disappeared and her face was embarrassed. Xiaoyun saw that her mother-in-law had restrained her posture and didn't say anything more. Xiaoyun told me that although she hated her mother-in-law's old feudal ideas, she would never abandon her because of her paranoia about feudalism. She will still be filial, and love her husband must tolerate his relatives, so that this family can be complete and harmonious.

What Xiaoyun's mother-in-law said is that Xiaoyun's service and care for herself is her duty, not mutual affection. Assuming that Xiaoyun's mother-in-law can recognize that Xiaoyun's service for her is a mother-in-law relationship derived from the relationship between husband and wife, she will not have this idea. Because once she understands, she will think of being kind to her daughter-in-law, the relationship between her son and daughter-in-law will become more and more tense, and her daughter-in-law will love and treat herself more. As I said in Love between Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law, "Happiness will always follow you when you come to me." As for what Xiaoyun told me, and what she did to her mother-in-law, be kind to her as always. To tell the truth, I admire Xiaoyun's generosity. If I were you, I might not be able to do it. I may never like her again and ignore her affairs. And if my husband accuses me, I will blame my husband with what my mother-in-law said. I believe that many married female friends will feel the same way when facing their mother-in-law and telling themselves such things.

Advise some unreasonable mother-in-law: the feelings between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are derived from the relationship between husband and wife. Don't think that it is her duty for a daughter-in-law to be kind to you, but she treats you like this because of her husband's face. If you really make up the unwarranted worry between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then what is waiting for you is probably the result of distraction. If you want to make your son's marriage happier and your daughter-in-law treat you better, you must first be a good mother-in-law and think more about your daughter-in-law. Remember one sentence: it is a duty for a daughter-in-law to take care of her mother-in-law, not a duty, otherwise she may not be good to you.