Written to girls who almost lose themselves in love

Once upon a time, I liked a boy crazily. I didn’t leave any room or space for myself to love him, and he was also frightened by me. When we first got together, he was attracted by my independence, beauty, confidence, and talent. The longer the two of us were together, the deeper and deeper my love for him became, but he became more and more accustomed to my love, and became less caring than when we first got together. I need to prove whether his love for me is still there. Sometimes it seems to be beyond the scope of reason. It's really scary to think about it now.

However, suddenly at a certain moment, I felt that I no longer worried about gains and losses. I know that nothing in this world is eternal. I feel that I don’t need to think about the things that make me unable to live a peaceful and stable life. Without forcing and obsession, there will be no unhappiness. I know, everything around you is just to accompany you and me at this moment. Life is long, and in the next few decades, only ourselves will be our longest companions. Our relatives, lovers, and friends are just people who accompany us through a certain journey in our vast lives.

Relatives, who accompany us in childhood and adolescence, have raised us up to adulthood, and will leave us in this world when we are over half a century old. Therefore, we must do our best in the limited time. I do my best to honor my parents and elders and create good living conditions for them in return.

After adolescence, we get to know our lover in our youth. He can accompany us until the last moment of his life. Of course, he will also accompany us until our old age and leave us alone in this world. Therefore, when we are with our lover, When we spend time together, try to play the role of companion and caregiver. We are all individuals who exist in the world with each other. No one can accompany someone forever; the longer the time, the more accustomed to this sense of companionship. I no longer like two people spending a lot of time clinging to each other's feelings. I have more important things than two people being together and making promises to each other that can neither be achieved nor fulfilled. I need to work hard to be beautiful, study hard, work hard, live hard, and create a high-quality life. It's enough to care and love each other as much as you should. Love is not about whether he responds to your message immediately, or about the sense of security that you reject because you can't see him and call him all the time; it's about two people. You also feel safe when you are not together, and he will take the initiative to text you or call you when he is free. We should cherish this time when we can be alone, improve our self-awareness, and use it to improve ourselves, instead of worrying about him. He would rather browse his Weibo Moments when he is empty than chat with you. In fact, every girl with little emotional experience is passive in love and likes to be found. They are all waiting for love. In fact, valuable girls have the initiative.

In the past, I would care about what was said in chicken soup. I believe many girls have read it. For example: Once you find that you are looking for him more than he is looking for you, you should pay attention to whether this relationship is over. Are you trying? What would happen to this relationship if you didn't take the initiative? Blabla's, and so on. I want to say that these are all nonsense in my opinion now. Girls who truly have the initiative in love don't care about this. My self-worth is high enough. Even if we are in a relationship where you don't take the initiative and I don't, you love me in your heart and give me a warm feeling. You care about me in other ways than communicating by phone and WeChat. For example, I have received your care and love for small gifts on holidays and small surprises in daily life. I don’t care, do you look for me more, or do I look for you more? Girls themselves have value, and boys will not deliberately neglect you. After you become wonderful, he will be the one worrying about gains and losses. Instead of being alone and thinking about "What should I do if my boyfriend doesn't reply to my messages?", it is better to do the job at hand, learn it well, or apply another facial mask to gain a smooth and supple self.

Let’s talk about friends. They can really be friends from your youth, the kind that stay with you until your old age. She witnesses many of your moments.

When you were in school, you were the unkempt dog shit who stayed up late to finish your homework; when you were in love, you were the tree hole where you poured out your depressed feelings; when you were at work, you were the listener who complained about your boss; When you enter the wedding hall, they watch you with tears as you grow from a girl to a wife; they are the ones to whom you tell interesting things or sad stories about life after you get married; friends are the people who accompany you the longest and are your spiritual messengers. , know many of your secret thoughts.

The title of my article is almost, because I want to tell the girls who read this article that it is not too late for you to realize that you have lost yourself in love, and you still have room to reverse the situation. What you have to do now is to improve your self-worth and improve your self-awareness. Do you like being unhappy? You definitely don't like it, so avoid being unhappy. Even if you are really unhappy, don't care about it. Do you think it's because you are angry about it that you have an extra wrinkle on your face? Or is it more important to be happy and not care, and to do your own thing step by step? I hear you all saying in your hearts that mood comes first and feeling is the most important. Then don't think so much. Although girls' sixth sense is sometimes very accurate, even if some unhappiness happens, it will happen. If you are really calm and don't care about the future, you will discover your own inner pattern. It has risen to another level. Moreover, you have always paid attention to the cultivation of self-awareness, and your self-worth has also improved a lot. At this time, it is you who weighs the feelings of two people, instead of questioning or criticizing him. This is a manifestation of stupidity. Even if he promises you that he won't do anything like this again, it's something that doesn't hold true in his mind. If he can do what he says, he won't make a mistake at all. Love is something that maximizes the personal benefits of two people being together.

In short, I want to say that personal values, self-awareness, taking the initiative in love, and not worrying about gains and losses are the most important things for girls to maintain love. I hope that all the little fairies who have read this article will gain the desired love.

All living beings are suffering, but you are the only one who tastes like strawberry.

I am Miao Miao’s Mustard, an amateur illustrator. I will accept some requests for hand-drawn portraits. If you want a baby, you can leave a comment or send a private message. I will also post some texts from time to time to express my thoughts about women’s lives and emotions. If you think the article is helpful to you, please give me some love and attention~ Show your heart? (Of course, if any little fairy has emotional confusion, you can also talk to me~)