My husband is a monk again. Are you looking or not?

The time span reached 20 17, and we started to do business together. We get along 24 hours a day. I am impatient, he is slow and has to wait for business. My idea is to take the initiative. If it succeeds, it proves that the initiative is right. If not, that's another reason. Facts have proved that my initiative is correct. With my help and his efforts, business has improved. There are many arguments this year for business. It has always been a good fight, and the quarrels are all small things that are locked up. Perhaps it is because in the first year of marriage last year, everyone went their separate ways and lived in peace. This year, they were tied together and got married in an instant, and they were not very familiar with each other in character. They ran in and out and there was a problem. From February to July, for half a year, the most quarreling is June-July. Finally, at the end of July, he chose to leave, regardless of the store. Without saying hello, he put down the key at home, took all the clothes, and left all the clothes and shoes I bought. Seeing this, I know that he has not completely regressed and does not intend to come back for life. He chose to become a monk again.

I originally thought that the contradiction between husband and wife was because the starting point was for the sake of shop business. He will understand and understand. I naively thought that a man would be generous and tolerant because of his mistakes. The truth is that I was wrong, because I don't understand. In fact, he has a little inferiority complex. He thinks I can do anything and I can live without him. Probably never praised him at ordinary times. He forgot all his advantages, even my original intention of agreeing to get married. I did make a mistake, because he can make n mistakes in one place. I often remind him that he is super disgusted, but he never appears on the surface, and he keeps it in his heart. Perhaps it is such a gloomy character. When all the pressures are concentrated together, he feels that he can't stand it. He thinks that being with me for a long time is a bad sign and will be separated sooner or later. In my opinion, if there is a contradiction between husband and wife before, someone must come out and solve it. At the end of July, I didn't take the initiative to solve the problem, because every time there was a problem, I almost took the initiative. This time and only time, I didn't take the initiative, and I wanted to see what it was like if I didn't take the initiative to solve the contradiction. The last situation is that he disappeared after 5-6 days of the cold war.

It was already midnight when I saw the key, so I immediately contacted his parents because I couldn't care too much. Now that he is a monk, his parents always want me to get him back. Of course, I tried. He didn't come back to me until the middle of the month because he really believed in becoming a monk, not because he quarreled with me. I don't know if this is to comfort me and make me feel less guilty or just like he said. I totally believe that he really believes in Buddhism, especially Tibetan Buddhism. If there is no quarrel with me, I think maybe I won't suddenly choose to become a monk. Through the analysis of this nearly one month, I personally feel that I really didn't do well in my marriage, which is the fuse that prompted him to let go of everything. Because he said that he once really wanted to have a family and career like other men, but he didn't reach the ideal marriage state. But I feel that I am just a test stone for him to test whether he can completely give up his family life and go out to practice in this marriage. I am also a victim of marriage. I once told him that as long as the marriage is successful and there is no quarrel in it, the husband and wife's three views will be completely consistent in the marriage, and there is a marriage with all views in life. I am afraid I can't find 0. 1%. I also said that marriage needs two people to run together. You don't take the initiative, I take the initiative. I don't take the initiative, you take the initiative. If one person always takes the initiative for a long time, everyone will be very weak and tired. I hope he can take the initiative in marriage besides me. Unfortunately, in the contradiction of marriage, he is always the silent party.