How to get back together with your ex?

1. Let the feelings enter the freezing period, and refuse to pester and attack.

Many people just broke up and still can't let go, so they want to make it back as soon as possible. But in this case, the method they adopt can only make them pester each other and send a lot of information to each other every day, regardless of whether the other party is disgusted or not.

However, such an approach will only make your predecessor's impression of you worse and worse. He will think that you are hopeless, or even directly hack you, which is actually not desirable. Therefore, once you have the idea of saving your predecessor, you must not be impulsive.

Some people may say that if you don't contact after breaking up, you may be forgotten before long. Therefore, they will use stalking and beating. But often this is not a good way, and it will make the other party feel disgusted and the probability of recovery will be reduced.

Just broke up, if it is a fight with each other, it is better to let this relationship enter a frozen period. First, freeze the feelings between two people, don't disturb your predecessor for the time being, and leave a time and space for the other person to calm down completely. But don't worry, this will not only make your relationship worse, but also help the next recovery process and leave room for recovery work.

2. Reduce the feeling of emotional needs and realize the "second heartbeat"

When saving your predecessor, you must remember that you are no longer lovers. If you want to know what to say and what not to say, you need to grasp a scale. A friend once said that he had just broken up with his lover and had not come out of the state of love, or that he pretended to be the lover of the other party and naturally did not pay attention to his discretion.

In this way, the relationship between two people will tend to be rigid, and the possibility of recovery will become very low. In fact, after breaking up, if you want to recover, the first thing you have to do is to reduce your sense of demand for your predecessor. Even if you have strong feelings for your predecessor, you should cover it up.

Because at this stage, you are above your friends, and you are in a state of unsatisfied lover. You can start with daily greetings or provoke each other, so that the state between two people will enter an ambiguous period. In the ambiguous stage, the most important thing is the interaction between the two of you.

The most intimate time in a love relationship is the ambiguous period. During this period, we have a good impression on each other. When we get back together, we should seize the opportunity of the ambiguous period. In the ambiguous stage, the most important thing is mutual interaction. If we can grasp the direction in communication, then the relationship will go smoothly.

Because the right way to chat will make the other person slowly eliminate his vigilance against you and even forget the unhappiness between you. After slowly enhancing feelings through chatting, you can find reasons to ask each other out for dinner. Of course, before we meet, we must strive to improve ourselves, preferably with obvious changes. For example, I changed my clothes and my hairstyle.

In this way, when two people meet again after breaking up, you will leave a deep impression on each other. He will be interested in you again, then establish a second attraction, and it will be easy to get back together, and the other party will take the initiative to pursue you.

3. Calm down and deal with it rationally

Most people don't know what is the most important thing to save their predecessors after breaking up. The answer is, mentality. Speaking of mentality, people with poor psychological endurance will have a super negative mentality after breaking up, and even have similar thoughts that life is meaningless without him.

But to be honest, these ideas are unnecessary. Even if we break up, there is no need to look like the sky is falling. We must believe that we can come back. This is the confidence you need to save your ex. I know some people don't have this confidence. They will break up two people and blame it on their own mistakes.

This kind of mentality is not desirable, so we must have a good breakup mentality. After confirming that you haven't let go of your predecessor, you must consider what problems exist between two people before you break up. As long as the real reasons for breaking up are excavated, we must analyze them and come up with the best solution. After thoroughly understanding the existing problems, we should try our best to make up for them, such as changing our bad side, whether external or internal, and reshaping it.

With these changes, it is not difficult to save the predecessor. It is very useful to let the other person see your sincerity when you save it, let him see your sincerity, and at the same time you can give the other person real happiness.

4. Make contradictions public and learn to listen.

In intimate relationships, it is common for two people to quarrel over various trifles. However, if the quarrel was not handled well at that time and the little things accumulated slowly, great contradictions would arise, which was very unfavorable to the maintenance of intimate relations.

When there is a contradiction between two people's feelings, we must not try to hide it, but communicate all the problems to the good side. You know, any contradiction will break out one day if it is not handled for a long time. Once it breaks out, feelings for each other will be very bad.

When communicating with each other, don't express your dissatisfaction too much, and don't lose your temper with each other. You know, in love life, everyone is equal. Therefore, no one has the obligation to bear these troubles. The communication after breaking up, if you still lose your temper often, is still not conducive to the two people getting back together.

Listening is equally important when saving your predecessor. In other words, when your lover is complaining or talking about things at work, you must listen carefully and don't show impatience. Because people respect each other, especially in intimate relationships, listening will resolve most contradictions.

After a quarrel, if one party can take the lead in suppressing anger, listen to the other party's voice and not rush to refute when listening, it will naturally leave a good impression on the other party. But also let the other side re-generate emotions and warm up feelings. Even after breaking up, as long as you want to make it back, learning to listen is equivalent to having a magic weapon to win.

5. Find the real needs of the other party as the starting point for recovery.

The reason why two people will fall in love must be that the other party attracts and appreciates each other, so there will be discussions on the same topic, which is the premise for two people to be together. So, if two people break up in a relationship, it must be that the other person is not interested in you. In other words, your ex's demand for you has changed. If you want to recover it, you must find out what the other party needs you to do.

After finding the real needs of the other party, then there is a starting point for recovery. After breaking up, it takes a lot of effort to know what the other person really needs. First of all, we should reflect on ourselves and see if we ignore each other on weekdays, so the mentality of each other has changed.

Of course, it is essential for two people to communicate calmly at the right time. Of course, communication is based on the premise that both sides calm down, so it is easier to find problems and think of good solutions.

One thing you need to know is not to be too hasty when saving your predecessor. We are all understandable, and we can't help it emotionally. Therefore, after breaking up, the person who is obsessed with it must be unable to hold back his feelings, but he just has no patience.

But in the process of saving his predecessor, once he loses patience, he says he has failed half. It will take some time to get your ex back to you, and it will be difficult to succeed if you are too impatient. So in the early stage of recovery, you must first accept the fact that you have broken up with your ex.

If you always pretend to be each other's lover when saving your ex, it will cause disgust. However, if we can straighten our position and adjust our mentality in time, we can make the right decision. If you can't put yourself in the right position, it will still hinder your recovery, and it is still very difficult to make up with your predecessor.