The ancients said that "people don't like each other", is it reasonable?

"People can't make friends without addiction" comes from the "addiction to wisdom and fragrance" in Tao An Meng by Zhang Dai, an essayist in the Ming Dynasty. The original text is: people have no addiction and can't make friends, so there is no affection; People can't communicate without shortcomings, so there is no true qi. Yu Youqi Zhixiang is addicted to calligraphy and painting, cuju, drums and cymbals, ghost play and pear garden.

If a person has no hobbies, is not interested in anything, is no longer curious about the world, loves life, and lives like a stagnant pool, such a person is not worth interacting with, because pushing things to people and being so good to things, how good can he be to people? Being cruel to foreign affairs, not to mention being affectionate to others.

Throughout the ages, people who finally achieve great things are not only brilliant and tenacious, but also obsessed with things. Now that we have mentioned Zhang Dai, let's take a look at the case of Zhang Dai's friend Qi Zhixiang. Qi Zhixiang, a friend of Zhang Dai, likes painting and calligraphy, cuju, drums and cymbals, ghost play, pear garden and so on. Another is the famous "hobby" of L children.

Qi Zhixiang and Bao Tong suffered from the fall of Du Nan. The soil thief wore a knife rest around his neck and gave everything to the soil thief. Po stayed. When I arrived in Taizhou, my luggage was taken away by thugs, and I made a living by busking all the way. When I got home, I took Po on a long trip again.

For Zhang Dai, friend Qi Zhixiang is the true nature, and such a friend is worthy of communication, because a friend has failed Po's sentient beings and righteousness. When Qi Zhixiang was killed, Po never gave up and sang to support him, which made Qi Zhixiang have a deep love.

It is said that respect is mutual, and the grace of dripping water is rewarded in spring. Xiang Zhixiang can be so affectionate to Po who has always been kind to him. By referring to the person and his attitude towards Po, we can see his attitude towards his friends. It can be seen that Qi Zhixiang is also a affectionate and righteous friend who deserves to make deep friends.

People can't make friends without affection, are not interested in anything, and are indifferent to everything, so they must be unlovable in interpersonal communication. In Li Kui jy's words, if you can't play together, get along with each other and have no common interests, people will naturally think you are boring.

If a person has no obsession, hobbies and hobbies, it means that he has no fun and belief in life and no hobbies and pursuits in the world. Is this person too boring? Such an indifferent person is bound to have a bad popularity. Who wants to associate with them more?

Everyone in the world loves excitement, love the truth, and have a heart in mind. The vast majority will not rush to the front to gather together. People who have no hobbies and deep feelings will be extremely indifferent, which shows that they have seen through and failed to live up to their social responsibilities and moral bottom line, which is really different in normal social interaction.

Such a person is not difficult to keep, and his disappearance will hurt you, but he is not interested in anything. His attitude towards people and things is also different from ordinary people. Naturally, he will not have a sense of social responsibility and inner affection for anyone and anything, which will make us feel very boring and unwilling to associate.

People can't communicate without shortcomings, because without true qi, they are all saints and people. There is no shortage of gold, and no one is perfect. These are wisdom proverbs left by our ancestors. A person who has no shortcomings seems to be a perfect person at all, which is terrible and should be guarded against. Why? Because what seems perfect is actually the most imperfect.

What others show us on the surface is perfection, but in fact it is suspected of being meticulous and deliberately whitewashing. Then the problem is coming. Why are you pretending? What's the shady plot behind it? This has become our concern.

Therefore, as a normal person, it is normal to have flaws, and only when there are flaws can you show your true colors. Without flaws, you are perfect, paralyzed and blinded by superficial phenomena. This is the most terrible thing. Dare you associate with it?

Also, interacting with imperfect people can break many secular shackles and jump out of established barriers. No need to wander, no need to ponder, no need to pretend to be a snake, and there will be no fear and bad feelings.

To sum up, Zhang Dai's "no addiction and no friends" has some truth in making friends. what do you think? If you have other ideas, please leave a message in the comments section and discuss them together. Thank you ~ ~ ~

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