What will happen to the character of a girl raised in poverty when she grows up?

Netizen 1:

I am raised in poverty. Our family is in the county town. I was very poor when I was young and rented a small house. My father is a teacher and my mother has no job. Two people with my brother. At that time, the salary was not high and we could barely make ends meet. The family squeezed into a small bed. When I was in elementary school, other children loved spring outings, but I didn’t like them at all because they all brought a lot of snacks, and I only had a few eggs. It was really uncomfortable to sit together.

There are many similar things. When I saw other children buying breakfast, I could only silently envy them. I didn’t eat many snacks at that time. These have created my low self-esteem and introverted character, which makes me still very introverted and feeling very painful.

I think this also has something to do with my parents’ ideas. My parents are super feudal, favor boys over girls, and are very stingy. I have been raised poor for so many years. Even now, when I go to the supermarket to buy things, I can't get as many snacks as I want, which makes me feel very uncomfortable. When I have a child in the future, I will make sure to be wealthy. I never want him to live a life like mine again! Being an introvert is really painful.

Netizen 2:

I think I should be considered a child who was raised materially poor. Since I was a child, our family's financial situation has not been very good, and the whole family has relied on my father to earn money by working alone. I have to tell my mother for a long time if I want to eat snacks, but if I do well in the exam and make progress, my mother will grant my wish.

When I was in elementary school, when I encountered difficulties in solving problems, my dad would tell me about it, and after he told me, he would praise me and say that I have a high level of understanding. But when I got to junior high school, my dad was no longer good at solving my problems, and I don’t blame them. Because they would encourage me and enroll me in cram schools, even if my family is not rich. To me, my parents are like a pair of eyes that pay attention to me from afar. If I behave well, they will be happy and gratified, and they will not be so worried.

And I think it is true that "children from poor families take charge early". I have been packing my schoolbag by myself since preschool, and I usually don't forget to bring my homework. When it comes to important decisions, my parents discuss them with me, thus developing my habit of independent thinking. Students in my class often leave things behind. When the teacher asks, they will say, "My mother sorted it out for me, and I don't know." All in all, material poverty is not terrible. What is terrible is spiritual poverty. What is terrible is that your parents tell you since childhood that you are much worse than others.

Netizen 3:

It is said that "boys should be raised poor and girls should be raised rich". In this way, boys can develop a perseverance and perseverance, and girls will not suffer because of other people's treatment. She was deceived even though she was a little bit nice. In fact, this is not entirely the case. It doesn’t matter whether you are poor or rich materially. The most important thing is to be rich spiritually.

Material poverty will not have a direct impact on the child's personality and character. Many people's families are not rich at first, but why can children who grow up in poor families still develop sound personalities? That's because parents give them complete love.

The next thing I want to say is what kind of character is considered good and what kind of character is considered bad? Some people have lively personalities, while others are introverted. It doesn’t mean that being lively is good and being introverted is bad. Some parents always want to change their children when they see that they don't like to talk. This is wrong. There are things that are suitable for being lively, and there are also things that are suitable for being introverted.

Netizen 4:

Wealthy girls also have flaws. I spent my childhood in the 1960s and 1970s, and I drank milk until I was 20 years old. Not to mention other snacks, clothes, skirts and leather shoes were all bought ready-made. In that era, it was difficult to buy material things even if you had money, and you had the habit of treating money as dirt, and money was just for use. Overflowing with sympathy, I found a poor boy. What surprised me was that he ate milk and wore leather shoes for the first time after going to college. He regretted getting married and became a stepping stone for others.

Netizen 5:

I feel like I should talk about my experience. I am a female, 33 years old, my mother is a primary school teacher and has retired, and I have never seen my father work. Because his eyesight is bad, I have never had pocket money since I was a child. The clothes I wear can be said to be laughed at by others. My mother doesn't get anything for me, but she is willing to buy me books. I wear clothes that make me feel inferior. Many classmates looked down on me and laughed at me. My mother even made me beg for a long time to buy a 12 yuan schoolbag.

Sometimes I really hated her. She stole money from my family. My mother went to the school and told the class teacher. Then many people found out that I had even lower self-esteem. At that time, I still had acne on my face. During outings, other students packed small bags of snacks, but I never had, never money for breakfast, and no money for ice cream when it was hot! I really hate why my parents did this to me. Until now, whenever I like clothes, I have to buy them. Because I know that when I was a child, I was laughed at by others for not dressing properly.

Netizen 6:

It is said that girls should be rich and well-off, because if they live in a privileged family where they don’t have to worry about food and drink, the girl’s character will be very sunny and simple, and she will not see life. traces. Is this really the case? Among the girls I have come into contact with over the years, there are many who have average family conditions but are still cheerful and optimistic. There are also many ladies from well-off families who are pampered and overbearing. Therefore, this kind of thing cannot be generalized.

The impact that family has on a person is likely to last a lifetime. Rather than talking about poverty and wealth, it is better to say that it is the key to family education, especially money education. Establish correct family concepts for children from an early age, not to waste, know moderation, neither be humble nor arrogant, and be independent. This is something every parent should do.