Subtract yourself.

When I was young, I always felt that the more things I got in life, the happier I would be. Later, I learned that the simpler life, the easier it is.

Bai once said this in a speech:

"Some people try very hard to do addition in their twenties, but forget to do subtraction at a certain time. You are not suitable for everything, and you should not do everything for you. "

Learning to subtract from your own life is a philosophy of life. And those who can really live are doing subtraction all their lives.

Many times, the reason why we feel unhappy and stressed is not that what we want is not satisfied, but that we want too many things, which makes us feel exhausted. There are many things that can't be forced. If you want a better life, you must learn to do subtraction.

Read such a story:

There is a couple living in a quiet mountain village. Although they live in poverty, their families are happy.

One day, the farmer went to the field as usual, and when he dropped his hoe, he dug a shiny thing. As a result, I picked it up and saw that it was a priceless golden arhat.

The farmer went home happily and told his wife, relatives and friends the good news. He and his relatives and friends were so happy that they decided to hold a banquet to celebrate.

But the farmer's wife was very sad, but someone told her that your husband dug up the golden arhat in the field. Now you can live in a beautiful big house without food or clothing. Why are you still moping all day?

The farmer's wife replied:

"Because we don't know where the other 17 golden arhats are."

This story is short, but it illustrates a profound philosophy: too much desire will turn what was originally a good thing into a source of trouble. If a peasant woman knows how to think by subtraction, she will be satisfied with what she has got, instead of thinking about what she doesn't know still exists, and her distress will naturally decrease.

A friend once told the story of her grandfather.

My friend's grandfather wants to leave his property to his children after retirement, but the children are dominated by the elderly. Considering that children are very busy at work and have families to take care of, the old man will take his wife back to his hometown in the countryside to spend his old age after distributing the property.

Before he left, he saw so many things at home that he couldn't take them back. He can only choose what he needs.

My friend's grandfather didn't take away the wine, the whole set of mahogany furniture, teapot, precious tea leaves and some precious collections, but let his children handle it themselves.

He only brought a few clothes, some daily necessities, some books and his own dog.

Then he returned to the countryside with his wife.

A friend inexplicably asked her grandfather, "Those things are your treasures. Neither my parents nor my uncles and aunts understand these things. They will definitely sell it to you at a low price. Aren't you distressed? "

Grandpa said to her with emotion, "Those treasures are all empty. At my age, I won't need them in a few years. They are not unique to me, but will flow. I have got them, and I don't need them anymore, but leave them to those who understand them. "

In fact, it is not difficult for people to live. Three meals a room is enough for good health.

When we came into this world, we all came for happiness. Once we indulge in the pursuit of wealth and endless desires, we will never know how to satisfy them and will never be happy again.

Many people say that I don't want much, as long as I earn enough money. In fact, how much money is enough for your own use? Money can never be earned. If you earn100000, you will think about 200000, 500000,1000000, tens of millions, and your desire will only grow.

So "no desire is just", when you are no longer controlled by indulgent desires, you can control your life freely.

I used to be a person who likes to hoard things, such as outdated shoes and clothes, unused pots and pans, and all kinds of goods bought at discounts in supermarkets. I always thought these things would come in handy one day, so I never lost them.

Clothes are also stuffed into a cupboard, some can't even close the door, the storage space is getting smaller and smaller, and the room is full of things, sometimes underground. In my mother's words, there is no place to stay in the door.

In fact, you don't need those things at all, but they occupy the space in all parts of your home, which not only adds trouble to yourself, but also increases the difficulty of cleaning up the housework.

If you remove all these things, you will find that the house can become spacious and the housework can be handled quickly.

There are many things in life that we don't need. For example, out-of-season clothes, shoes you don't wear, cosmetics you don't use, etc. You always think you will wear them again, but in fact you will never take them out again.

There is really no need to let go of those things in life. Why is the house so messy? Because you want to keep too many things. You bought those things for backup. As a result, 90% will not be taken out again, and it is unnecessary.

Therefore, when people reach a certain age, they must learn to give up.

For example, throw away clothes that you don't wear once in a few years, shoes with dust in the corner, don't buy unnecessary things, and streamline items needed in daily life.

Your life is becoming more and more concise, and you will feel more comfortable and relaxed when you need less and less material.

There has always been a misunderstanding that there are many friends, so I always spend a lot of time and energy socializing and making friends.

But one day, after you have experienced a lot of things and gained some life experience, you will find that the number of friends is actually not the number, but the number of people who really have a heart to heart.

San Mao said: "The most beautiful relationship between friends lies in icing on the cake; The most valuable thing is to send charcoal in the snow; The best among friends is like good tea, which is light but not astringent, fragrant but not tangy, slowly floating, like water flowing forever. "

I deeply believe that friends are icing on the cake, but those who can really help in a timely manner are worth interacting with.

Too many people in life will become passers-by. There is really no need to force yourself into a circle that doesn't belong to you in order to fit in, and there is no need to force yourself to attend unnecessary dinners in order to please others.

Li Ka-shing once said that he warned young people like this:

"When you are not strong enough and excellent enough, don't spend too much precious time socializing and attending various parties. You should spend more time reading, improve your professional skills and meet more customers. Give up those useless socializing and improve yourself, and your world will be bigger. "

People must learn to cultivate themselves and achieve themselves before they can find their own circle. Powerful people will only make friends with powerful people, which is a mutual fulfillment and a rule of social communication.

When you are good enough, there will be excellent people to achieve you, so you should cherish those intimate friends who share your interests and accompany you through the storm all the way, instead of forcing yourself to integrate into the circle that does not belong to you.

I don't know if everyone feels the same way. The older people get, the more experiences they have. You will feel a lot of things piled up in your heart, which you can't let go and can't let go. For example, friends who used to get along very well suddenly stopped contacting each other. Obviously, nothing happened to you. You just drifted away.

In fact, many things in the past, good and bad, have all passed. If you keep it in your heart, you will not only add trouble to yourself, but also make yourself uncomfortable.

There is a saying that nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory.

Therefore, learn to settle the past, learn to reconcile with yourself, go into battle lightly, and walk well all the way, so you won't feel bad.

A person's life is a process of losing half and getting half. If you get it, you lose it; if you get it, you give it up. So, why not cherish what you have and forget what you have lost or don't belong to yourself?

Learn to reconcile with yourself, forget the past, stop criticizing yourself and let go of your troubles, so that you can live happily and freely.

Finally, to borrow a sentence from Thoreau:

"I am willing to go deep into life, absorb the essence of life and live a down-to-earth and simple life. Eliminate everything that doesn't belong to life, push life to the extreme, and use the most basic form, simple, simple and simple. "

May you and I both learn to let go, subtract from life and feel the truth of life.