Should I really give up my career to accompany my children?

I am an educator. I have taken many students with me, and I can guess something about my parents through the behavior habits of different students. Parents are the best teachers for children, and some behaviors and habits of parents will affect children. Parents must work hard to educate their children when they deserve family education. As the saying goes, "it is the father's fault to raise and not teach."

Parents work hard. They have to earn money and stay with their children. But should we give up our careers to accompany our children?

If the rest time of your work doesn't match the rest time of your children, you will rarely see your children and spend little time with them, especially your mother. I wonder if you can change your job? Or choose to accompany the children first? The most lasting expression of my love, is choosing to stay by your side. I once saw a child whose homework was basically never finished. His mother works in Foxconn. Either go home late during the day shift (overtime during the day shift) or work at night shift (sleep during the day). I asked his mother if she had seen your homework. He shook his head and said that his mother was making money for him.

Although work is important, it is far less than children's education, and children's companionship is more important. Money can be earned in a few years, but once it is missed, it can't be made up.

You really should put aside your career and spend more time with your children.

Tell me about the children around me.

Children without children really have a lot of problems.

My cousin's family is a little girl and a little boy.

Cousin and sister-in-law work in Jiangsu and can't take them with them. Grandparents help with the children.

The girl is older, in the second grade of primary school. When I come back from school, I will watch cartoons with my mobile phone.

Grandparents talk lightly, but she doesn't seem to hear them, and she smiles while watching them.

To put it bluntly, tears are just a snot, as if they have been wronged;

Adults are not busy reading their homework, but they are always absent-minded There is a chicken flying next to it, a dog jumping and reading faster than anyone else.

There is also patience. Grandparents farm and do housework, so they don't have much time to spend with her.

Children are small and have poor understanding. Sometimes a question can't be reflected several times. Grandparents don't have that much time and patience.

Some grandparents still don't know a few words and don't know how to teach them.

After a long time, children's learning can be imagined.

Boys are younger. Presumably kindergarten is because old people prefer the youngest, and little boys are too spoiled.

When you come back from school, you need snacks and toys to play.

No one has time to play, but also to disturb my sister, and the disturbed sister can't do her homework well.

Moreover, the little boy is a little selfish, and only the leftovers of good things are given to his sister.

Sister's toys have to be robbed, too My sister is doing her homework here and he is watching cartoons there. How can my sister do her homework with peace of mind?

Learning is one thing, and growing up with you is another.

Grandparents are too old to play with their children.

For a long time, grandparents have been too partial to their children's education, and many children have "princess disease" and "prince disease"

If parents can stay with their children, grow up with them and guide them in time when they encounter problems, it will definitely be different.

However, children want a good school, good clothes, good shoes, snacks and big meals.

What kind of life can parents give their children when they give up their jobs that can't be called "careers"?

Who doesn't want to spend time with their children if conditions permit?

If you can really give up your career to accompany your children, I don't think anyone can do it, except flexible employees or extremely rich people. Because you are in this suitable position, once you leave and want to come back, you can say that you don't have to think about it. After this village, there is no such shop at all. Besides, you don't have to leave work to accompany your children. As long as two people work together, less socializing, using fun mobile phones and holiday time,

Work hard during the day and accompany the children at night, and kill two birds with one stone.

Both parents distribute their children's education and husband and wife rotate. Don't expect it to be done by one person. Personal advice, let children have high satisfaction with their parents, which is beneficial to their growth.

I have been going through this contradictory stage some time ago.

When the child was one year old, he left me and went back to his hometown with his parents. I also tossed back and forth several times in the middle, and I met once in a while, which is not to say that I stayed at home. However, even so, this process is as difficult for me as the implementation of that year. Before I can recover from the joy of welcoming a new life and being caught off guard as a novice mother, I will continue to face my first parting with my children. I don't know how others get through it. The whole process was a bolt from the blue for me. At work, since I came back from maternity leave, I have no mind to concentrate on my career as before, and I will be distracted from time to time, such as KPI and drawing pie. At this time, they all seem so pale and powerless. I'm not afraid that I can't take care of myself at home or anything, but this sense of separation is really maddening.

I will think about it from time to time when the children are not around. What is she doing now? Did you pull it out? Did you pee? Can you talk? Have you grown taller? Anyway, mom should feel the same way. When she was here before, she wanted to run home before work. Now that the child is away, she doesn't want to go after work. Going home is deserted. Walking into the community, I saw three or five groups of children downstairs, and I really wanted to go up and touch and hug, but I couldn't envy them.

For a long time after the children just came home, I have been in all kinds of madness, always looking for trouble when I have nothing to do, all kinds of unhappy emotions, and the work pressure is already great. Every morning when we are together, I think about how to leave my job quickly. It really feels like a grave to go to work. It's too painful, at least eight or nine months or even longer. Staying up late every night is after midnight, and I sleep about five or six hours a day. I used to feel depressed or anxious, and it was really painful.

My parents are far away, and I don't want them to worry. My husband is under great pressure at work here, and he takes it out on me every day when he comes home. The whole room is full of smoke, and there is no peace at home and abroad I really don't know how to get here …

Fortunately, it's all over. My parents take videos of my children at home every day. I can talk, call my grandparents, grow taller and fatter, and play with children ... sometimes I really feel that I rely on these videos to continue my life every day. I really want to thank my parents for everything. I think it's probably watching children grow up and eat and drink for a long, long time, which makes me feel at ease.

I have been working for almost six years, working at the grass-roots level and managing. I sometimes think that I have no reason to be anxious because I can't let go of both ends. I hope my children are by my side, and I want to work hard. People always know that you can't have it both ways, but you can never do it. Even if there is a little hope, I will not be willing to give up one. Look at myself and my husband, both of whom are in other places, working hard outside, not with their parents, and the children will be in the future. No one will stay with their parents forever, so the ability of self-survival is greater than everything else. Above all, you can live independently, master a skill, have your own career and continue without relying on your parents or relatives.

Fortunately, I have passed that difficult time. I have a lot of things that I have to figure out myself, and no one can convince me ... As a novice mother in the workplace, I also advise all my sisters who are about to become mothers or are already mothers in the future. Career is not the most important, but it is indispensable. Don't try to balance family and life, it's impossible.

The fact is, when my child was in the first grade, my business was just right. I think the business is good and I can use money to solve my study, so one-on-one tutoring for senior one comes on stage. But in the second grade, I found the problem. Family education can't solve all the problems in a short time. A child's education is all-round, including living habits, study habits, treating others and so on. The most important thing is the company of the closest person she needs, that is, her parents. Children feel uncomfortable when strangers are around. What children need is the support of their parents. Later, I resolutely reduced my workload. At least in the evening, I will stop working and accompany my homework. By the third grade, my grades and habits have been improved obviously, and the relationship between mother and child has also improved a lot. I think it's very worthwhile. You don't need to put down your work completely, but you should reduce your work, or improve your efficiency, and leave all the time after school to your children.

Dilemma.

Children only need to be with them for a few years, but it is likely that your career is on the rise.

If you choose to stay with your children, it will be really difficult for you to find a job, especially for women, once they are labeled as housewives and stay-at-home mothers.

If you choose a career, your child will grow up, but the content of growth and growth is different. Maybe you will regret it. So what?

In this life, people are already in a dilemma.

How to treat children? This topic is particularly prominent in adolescence.

Because there are few children, it is more expensive. Even a large family has devoted its attention to children, such as the stars and the moon, thus establishing the supreme "central position" of children in the family.

Doing so is personal freedom, and others have no right to blame. But the result of this will inevitably lead to "track deviation" and "derailment" events.

Nowadays, behind the blind "idolization" of many children when they grow up, there is a crisis of losing their senses, moral decay, distorted personality and ideological degeneration without ambition.

The rise and fall of a nation depends on the overall quality of new forces from generation to generation. If a teenager is strong, the country will be strong and the nation will be strong.

Children are born in thousands of families in Qian Qian, and parents of thousands of children in Qian Qian are not just children's.

"Protecting God" should be the "guide" for children's healthy growth!

In order to make their children become a more promising generation in the future, young parents should "learn from Yun Zhi in a few days and make it a world-class one", take a long-term view, pave the way for their children and lay a solid ideological foundation.

If you can, try to put it down to accompany your child, because children grow up only once, and the happy time between parents and children is not always there. At every stage of a child's growth, the child will sit for the first time, climb for the first time, and call his mother for the first time. Are you willing to miss every lovely performance in your growth? Won't you be jealous if your child's grandmother doesn't kiss you? Won't you feel lost?

I don't want to miss every growth performance of the baby.

Children need their mother's company too much. I have personally experienced that children without mothers grow up without love. I followed my grandmother until I was a few years old. My mother has never been with me since I was a child, and I have never felt maternal love. Now my feelings for my mother can be said to be very distant. I have never called my mother, and I have nothing to say to her. When two people are alone, they always feel embarrassed. This is all my mother's fault, but my mother didn't accompany me well.