How to speak moderately?

First, don't pour out your negative information to others.

There is a big difference between speaking and listening. Speaking is that you actively express information to others, even if it is negative information. Listening means that you are listening to other people's information.

Don't pour out too much negative information to others. Kind of like taking out the garbage. You speak out the bad negative Balabala and express all your inner unhappiness, and you will feel relaxed. However, I didn't know that your negative emotions would affect the listener.

As an audience, he is very tired. After receiving your negative emotions, he should understand you, affirm you and give you feedback. It's tiring to think about how to enlighten you.

Second, take care of each other's feelings.

When you want to express some information to the other party, you must take care of the other party's feelings and see if the other party is interested in the information you express. When you feel that the other person is willing or interested to listen to you, you can follow this information.

On the contrary, once you find that the other person is not interested in your topic or content, you must stop talking at an appropriate time.

Third, don't ask what you shouldn't ask.

Especially personal privacy, don't forcibly discuss and interrogate issues that others don't want to disclose.

In life, there are always some people who like to inquire about other people's gossip, their privacy and their income. This is very impolite.

Fourth, learn to guide others' emotions.

When others are expressing negative information, you should understand why the other person has such emotions. You should use your language to dispel each other's negative emotions and play a positive guiding role. Let the other person get rid of negative emotions, willingly follow your thoughts and produce a positive response.

Speak moderately, and if you achieve others, you will achieve yourself.