Have your parents-in-law done anything that violated your "bottom line"?

I remember watching a TV series called "Mother-in-law, Daughter-in-law, Sister-in-law" with my mother when I was a child. I was young and ignorant at the time, and I didn't understand why the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had to fight and argue every day. . Eventually it would lead to divorce. It wasn’t until I got married that I realized that this contradictory state does exist in the world.

After that, my married life also entered "combat mode". I really didn't know that life could be so "colorful". My parents-in-law’s bottomless challenge made me feel more thrilling than having a promising career in the workplace.

So, during my marriage, what things did my parents-in-law do that made me feel sad and violated my bottom line? Let me tell you.

1. The idea of ??male superiority and female inferiority

This is something I can’t stand. In our family, my husband is an employee of a state-owned enterprise and the nature of his job can be said to be very stable. I am In a private company, I managed to reach middle management with my own abilities, and my salary was even several times more than my husband's. But no matter what I did, in the eyes of my parents-in-law, I was just a "bad jobber." Sometimes they would even half-jokingly mock me for not having a regular job.

After that, they tried their best to dissuade me from staying at home and be a housewife. Oh my God, what kind of society is it now? Women can do hundreds of times better than you. How is it possible for me to stop working and serve you every day? Of course I won't compromise, because I know that once a woman loses her economic status, her life will be even worse. Therefore, I simply focus all my energy on work, and no one can try to deprive me of my right to work.

When we lived together before, I had to be the one to cook. I had a bad temper. If you asked me to cook, then I would have to let my husband do it together. This is only fair. To be honest, I really don’t understand the idea of ??letting my daughter-in-law cook. Did they eat air before they got married? This is something we often see in TV dramas, and I find it strange that I can actually encounter it! ! !

2. Interference in fertility issues

I am very resistant to this. I mentioned before that my parents-in-law have very traditional ideas. They hope that we will have children as soon as possible, euphemistically calling it "birth". After they watch it." I was 27 at the time. Although many people thought this age was already very old, my idea was not. We did not have a very stable material foundation at that time. Giving birth to a child would mean spending many years making up for the loss of the child. The "pit" below. Because life in China is very realistic, everything must be governed by an economic foundation. So my idea is to wait for a few years. But to my complete surprise, my parents-in-law actually publicly condemned me at home. I changed my mind at that time. It was me who decided on reproductive rights. It's not decided by anyone. Fortunately, my husband supported me in the end. This matter was put aside for the time being. Although my husband defended me, my parents-in-law did not stop their attacks on me.

3. Sowing discord

I think I am really lucky and unlucky. Fortunately, my husband still loves me, but unfortunately, my in-laws are really difficult to deal with. I clearly remember that once again my husband was away on a business trip for several months to work on a project. My parents-in-law often say bad things about me to my husband and sow discord between us. Even saying that I had an affair, oh my God, I thought how could people be so vicious. My husband didn't believe it before, but then my parents-in-law added fuel to the fire every day, and my husband started to be dubious. He quarreled with me when he came back from a business trip. He didn't believe anything I said, because children generally believe in their parents, and no one can overturn this. In the end, I went directly back to my parents’ home and texted my husband to divorce me.

At this time, my parents-in-law saw that we were getting divorced. Stop talking. My husband also saw my firm attitude and reflected on whether he lacked trust in me. Later, I apologized, but this matter really touched my bottom line. It made me question my marriage.

The marriage I want is not like this. The marriage in my impression is a happy one. Although there will be difficulties, it does not have to be trembling every day. I need to analyze every word of my parents-in-law in detail, right? They were planning to hurt me again. To be honest, I was really shaken the moment they slandered my husband and distrusted me. This is not how people should interact with each other.

So, girls who want to get married, don’t lose your mind before getting married. You choose the other person because of love, but the quality of the other person’s parents will also deteriorate the love.

Don't be like me, who only met each other's parents when they got married. Blind love will make you suffer bitter consequences.